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Context, I'm 30 now and i will find women my age and up attractive, but 15 years ago a 35 year old women would never have been attractive to me.

As I've aged younger women are less and less attractive (thankfully)

But when I'm 60 will 60 year old women be attractive to me?

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[–] luthis@lemmy.nz 253 points 6 months ago (9 children)

It's personal preference, but basically edge limits that increase over time, like at 15 you're looking at +-6 months, at 20 it might be + or - 1 or 2 years. At 30 you're probably at looking at 5 years either side of 30.

Once you hit 500 the attraction window is so large it becomes mostly irrelevant, and you're judging more on aristocrical lineage and/or aristocrical diet.

It's only a few more years til 1000 (which usually turns out to be a very dull party with no surprise guests) and by that point you're lucky to find anyone attractive.

There's obviously the old 'hurr durr he's over 2000 so he must be gay now' stereotype, but as far as I can tell, attraction isn't cyclical.

Hope that helps!

[–] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 53 points 6 months ago (2 children)

We're generally talking humans here, not Time Lords.

Makes it weird that the Doctor generally travels with people 1-2% of his age. Bloody cradle snatcher!

[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 23 points 6 months ago

They are kind of stuck. They have to find companions who don't have children or responsibilities. The best majority of the people who land in those categories are younger folks.

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[–] grooving@lemmy.studio 30 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Im 6 million years old now, and im attracted to literal planets.

I remember at 2000 the hur due jokes. But honestly everyone's giblets are so shriveled at that age (unless enhanced through mummification etc) that gender becomes irrelevant. Kind of comes down to who has the best stories at that point.

[–] MrFunnyMoustache@lemmy.one 13 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Wait till you're a billion years old, I'm exclusively attracted to supermassive black holes now...

[–] zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev 11 points 6 months ago (1 children)

It's hard not to be gravitationally attracted to them.

[–] MrFunnyMoustache@lemmy.one 9 points 6 months ago

The problem is that they don't get hints at all... they are too dense.

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[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 20 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Wow, how old are you ( if you don't mind me asking)?

[–] luthis@lemmy.nz 43 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Do you want to know how old I am, or which aristocrats I've eaten 😘

[–] Galapagon@sh.itjust.works 8 points 6 months ago

Can I come to your party,? Maybe drink some of your blood? Idk #justsillythings?

[–] Iron_Lynx@lemmy.world 12 points 6 months ago

Cool to see the edge cases for Elves and Vampires. What would be practical limits for humans?

[–] Hackerman_uwu@lemmy.world 11 points 6 months ago

Thanks for chiming in Laszlo.

[–] morgan_423@lemmy.world 10 points 6 months ago

Be really careful, I couldn't tell which one exactly from your post, but as time goes on, you're going to have to watch out either for people trying to drive a wooden stake through your heart, or chop your head off with a sword to steal your power. Just wanted to toss out a helpful FYI.

[–] BravoVictor@programming.dev 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)

That first paragraph..z then you really took off. lol

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[–] bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de 219 points 6 months ago (3 children)
[–] thomasloven@lemmy.world 24 points 6 months ago

As soon as I saw this post I jumped on xkcd. Glad I checked the comments before replying, or I would have made quite the fool of myself.

[–] blindsight@beehaw.org 12 points 6 months ago

Alt text:

The full analysis is of course much more complicated, but I can't stay to talk about it because I have a date.

[–] ForgetPrimacy@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 6 months ago (5 children)

Since turning 30 I've been thinking about the half-your-age-plus-seven rule a lot more. It would feel creepy as fuck to date a 22 year old. Is this all in my head? It feels predatory to swipe right on anyone younger than 25

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[–] TIN@feddit.uk 80 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I feel like there is a window that moves with you as you age. At 47 I find women attractive up to their early 50s, and down into their 30s.

I mean dating attractive here. I'm not going to try and claim that a hot twenty something on the telly does nothing for me

[–] antricfer@lemmy.world 10 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I'm 55 I find young women very attractive but I wouldn't have sex with them. Sex changes as you get older. It slows down and it's more psychological than physical.

[–] ExLisper@linux.community 9 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Then again, I would not kick out 20 something yo out of my bed if she was already there...

[–] SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world 17 points 6 months ago (9 children)

Good thing that won’t be an issue.

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[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 9 points 6 months ago

I was starting to question myself here lol everyone acting like a hot 20 year old is no longer hot when you're older meanwhile I see someone I consider attractive they're always attractive, I just won't approach them if they're young.

The only way this doesn't work is "upward" for me. 40s weren't attractive when I was younger but they are now, but a hot 20 year old will always be hot to me (I think).

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[–] shadowSprite@lemmy.world 66 points 6 months ago

One of the men I've most respected and most trusted in my life told me once (at the time a teenager) that when he was in his 20s, women in their 20s were so hot and seeing a barely clothed young woman was so hot. But he said that now that he was in his 40s, women in his 40s were so hot and whenever he looked at a woman in her 20s all he could think of was that she could be his daughter and that he just felt protective and there was nothing hot or attractive about her.

I'm a woman, but when I was in my teens and early 20s guys in their teens and early 20s seemed so attractive and anyone older was not it. Now that I'm in my early 30s I'm so attracted to men in their 30s and I look at teens and guys in their early 20s and they just seem like babies to me. I actually deal with a lot of young guys with my work and they're all cool people and I love talking to them, but dating them? Ugh, no thank you. They were in elementary school (or younger) when I was graduating high school. So yeah, I think for a lot of people your goalposts move as you move, and that's not a bad thing. I also am curious as to whether I'll someday find 60 or 70 year old men hot, but I've got a long ways to go.

[–] TheBat@lemmy.world 43 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I'm 30 now and i will find women my age and up attractive, but 15 years ago a 35 year old women would never have been attractive to me.

Lmao when I was 15 I was spanking the monkey to MILF porn. Thank you Deauxma and Nina Hartley.

[–] jballs@sh.itjust.works 23 points 6 months ago

Yeah but in the porn world, a MILF is just a 22 year old.

[–] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 42 points 6 months ago (2 children)

That's what I hear happens. I'm sure the effect must stop working at some point, but so far I'm cruising.

[–] Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone 28 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Yeah i appreciate that women my age stay attractive.

I wonder what is the driving factor though.

Familiarity with the look, perhaps.

[–] oce@jlai.lu 23 points 6 months ago

I think it's rather similar level of maturity and points of interest. Like I may find college students physically attractive, but there's quite a maturity gap between students and people who have been working full time for a couple of years that can be off-putting to me.

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[–] Bell@lemmy.world 42 points 6 months ago

Consider that "attractive" won't always be skewed so heavily towards appearance. As I've gotten older attitude and personality matters at least as much as physical appearance. When I was 25 I was probably 90/10 (appearance/personality), now (55) I'm probably 40/60.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 29 points 6 months ago

I'm a lady, not a man. But yes as I have gotten older, my taste has too, I don't know if that goes on forever but mid-50s and (sorry) 30 year old guys look like people who would be dating my kids, they look like kids to me.

Certainly not MOST 50-60 year old guys look good to me but the ones who do, they sure do. Take care of your body, don't get fat, do some exercise. You can look good at 30 without care but not 50, not 60.

[–] 520@kbin.social 28 points 6 months ago

As the people we relate to change, so too do the things we find attractive in people. This will be a constantly changing thing

[–] pickleprattle@midwest.social 21 points 6 months ago

Being in my 40s, I am relieved to say that I keep finding women attractive that are my age, and I look at people in their 20s as, well, kids. Even in my porn, I keep looking for women more my age.

That's true physically, but also emotionally. There is a humbling nearly all decent people seem to go through in their late 20s to 30s that at this point is a necessary point of bonding for me.

[–] Chev@lemmy.world 16 points 6 months ago (1 children)

So far what I learned, is that many factors play into attraction. Looks are one. A big factor for me is also seeing someone as an equal. Fuck dates are fine with much younger or older ones but dating and a relationship, nop. I want to take the other one serious, I want to be in about the same stage of life experience, to have similar goals and similar pop culture references (tv shows, music, games that we played as kids). Seeing someone as an equal comes with similar age for me.

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[–] Venus@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago (2 children)

All I know is that everybody says retirement homes are full of horny old people fucking all the time so maybe? Either that or old people just don't care as much about attraction and are just happy all the parts still work

My guess is as an adult you'll always be attracted to women around the 25-35 range most but maybe once you get old you'll also find some stuff to appreciate in grannies

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[–] HurlingDurling@lemm.ee 10 points 6 months ago (3 children)

There isn't a limit, your tastes on what you consider "attractive" will change over time. When one is young one only thinks on reproduction, and the older one gets, the more prevalent just having someone who you enjoy keeping you company.

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[–] downdaemon@lemmy.ml 10 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

just turned 40, i can def tell when someone in their 20s is hot, but I'd be really unlikely to date them. But, for example, meeting some rando at a bar and hooking up is different, as long as everyone is on board with the situation and consents. I've started finding older women attractive more than I would have when I was younger, it's just hard to meet people at this age and covid wasted my late 30s doing nothing

[–] olympicyes@lemmy.world 9 points 6 months ago

When I was 15 I was really concerned that I’d always be attracted to 14 year old girls. I’m in my 40s now and 30 year olds look like babies to me.

[–] itsathursday@lemmy.world 9 points 6 months ago

I’d imagine you accept what is realistically available to you. You’d not really have anything in common with people outside a certain window so as you age these β€œolder” people are just your peers from a similar vintage so to speak so a lot of things make sense and are common between you and each year they just happen to be a year older…

[–] Marin_Rider@aussie.zone 9 points 6 months ago

its normal. my tastes have changed as I've aged. luckily my partner didn't stay in her 20s either lol

[–] minnieo@kbin.social 8 points 6 months ago (14 children)

god i wish most men were like this. but there's 50 yr old men out there dating women fresh out of highschool, yuck

[–] Dasnap@lemmy.world 13 points 6 months ago (8 children)

I had the hots for women in their 40s when I was a teenager Β―\_(ツ)_/Β―

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[–] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 8 points 6 months ago (4 children)

Xaviera Hollander said that a man isn't old until there are no women his own age he finds attractive.

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[–] taanegl@beehaw.org 6 points 6 months ago

Physical attraction is a tingling of the spine. It's basically relying on the animal in all of us. Not that it's inherently a bad or good thing, it's just a fact. I believe "young, dumb and full of cum" is the phrase, that or the misnomer: "you can't fuck a great personality", exclaimed by probably many a young boy who want to "spread their seed". All of these terms speak to a time when hormones were raging and the cup filleth over, when self discipline needs to be taught so that the young minds don't run amok.

But the fact is, you can fuck a great personality. Emotional attraction, intellectual attraction, or even spiritual attraction, often gets overlooked - especially in the younger years. It's something that becomes more important as your grown older.

The act of physical intimacy however is exactly that, intimate. It's a matter of trust, communication, a melding of minds and bodies, something that knows no age. Attraction can be based on several factors, physical attractiveness being only one of them, and can be the way you focus on cultivating your emotions to not prioritize physical attractiveness as much. This is hard in the world we live in, as beauty standards and vanity run rampant.

After all this I'd have to say yes, your grandparents might be fucking - like right now. Give your grandad a cockblock call, and I think his fist might be attracted to your face. At least that never changes.

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