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Exercise. I went from 0-1 days per week to 30 minutes every day for the past 6 weeks, only skipping two days over that time.

Survived another week

You know when a friend's loved one dies and you tell them the usual sentiments about being there for them, anything you need etc? But there's rarely anything you can do, especially if you're not in their immediate circles where you could be making food or helping with estate etc.

Friend needed to do some job applications quite urgently, but was obviously not in the right headspace to do a great job. Friend asked me to help review drafts (I write for a living) and between us we got out 3 very solid applications.

I'm proud my skills had real and immediate use to someone. This white collar shit can feel pretty ineffectual sometimes, but this was a tangible help to someone so I'm proud of myself.

I haven't ate meat in 6/7 days, broke down and had a BLT yesterday. Tough to give up the bacon completely but I'm working on it.

got married! was a stressful but amazing week

First time at a personal trainer.

I am writing this from the grave.

Avoided being hung over, which I guess I could attribute to not drinking.

I haven't stabbed anyone!

Exercise. I've now done it 8 weeks straight, and I think I have it locked in as a long term habit.

Never had that before in my life and I'm 48 now. It's never too late to get going folks.

Overcame my anxiety and asked a pretty girl out. We're going out for drinks tomorrow night 😁

Finally scheduled the two root canals I need. I get pretty bad anxiety talking on the phone, especially to strangers so doctor’s appointments are always hard. But I finally did it so I’ll be done with this pain soon.

Helping someone escape domestic abuse and care for her animals while her dangerous lunatic ex keeps wrecking her house and farm, actually risking to put the entire mountain on fire, and the police keeps typing a pile of documents about the ongoing case without actually doing anything. I'll keep doing it even if I end up tearing the 'Call us if you experience domestic violence' posters off of the police station walls tomorrow to shove them up the arses of the smug bastard clowns in uniform who are supposed to guarantee the safety of vulnerable people. Been a long week and no end in sight.

Ive actively started doing something I've been wanting to do for a long time now. I've always had a specific idea for a youtube channel, i made half assed attempts before to do something, but only last week actually started writing a script and got further than like 5 lines. I don't know if and when I'll be posting anything, but that's not what matters. I used to love to write, just anything, be it poems, short stories, informative content. Over the years I kinda just stopped as I got more busy and other stuff got priority in my life. Finally I feel like I've found that old enjoyment again that writing used to being me. That's what matters to me and that's what I'm proud of.

Just about kept my shit together. It's been a really shitty week.

I went to the gym every day in the last 7 days.

After picking up the guitar 3 years ago, I recorded a song yesterday for the first time. Feels good, man.

I'm teaching myself French. J'ai étudié le français pendant quatre ans when I was younger, but it's been years. Maintenant, mes enfants want to learn French, so I'm re-learning with them. And just in the last week, we started making plans for a trip to France! Je suis content!

I got called into a work meeting yesterday. Apparently they are very pleased with my progress.

So that's nice. I have no idea what they're talking about, but it's nice.

I wrote a song and have been recording it for like the past year. Kind of got too complicated so I just ignored it for the last few months. This week I said I would finish it by the end of the month and today I have the final mixing sesh at the studio 👐

I was fired in June for a mixed non-descript bag of reasons from my previous employer of 8 years. The reasons they told me were not what they told the DOL. They told the DOL that I was fired for attendance issues, which is weird since I hadn't been absent since March, and the company's on-site nurse told me not to come to work. I used 2.5 days of my yearly allowable 6 days of sick time within 6 months. They also told them I falsified records.

What's really weird is that it happened to coincide with my complaint of workplace harassment by a former boss.

The worst part was they lied to the DOL and told them I admitted to falsifying records. Little did they know, I recorded audio of my HR meeting so I could prove that I didn't admit to falsifying records.

Anyways, after months of fighting for unemployment benefits (they didn't even give me a severance), I won my appeal hearing. My previous employer didn't even give the DOL an in service phone number, so they didn't even attend the hearing.

They really were banking on me not trying to fight them. After months of me sounding like an insane person to everyone I talked about it to, I finally got vindication.

And before you think this must be some small operating business where my boss just didn't want to show up to lose, this is a large publicly traded company with thousands of employees and is an industry leader in the field. The site I worked for was a drop in their revenue bucket with a mere 70 million in net revenue.

I may be jobless right now, with 5 kids, a mortgage, and had my name dragged through the mud, but I'm so fucking proud of myself for sticking up for myself and proving that I was fucking right the entire time.

They still haven't been able to fill my position, have had more people quit and are in dire straights according to an inside source.

Oh and the kicker? Turns out the last woman they fired complained about the same person, but they gave her a giant severance package even though she was only employed with them less than a year.

Can't wait to see that place bleed itself to death.

Bought a nice Sawstop table saw that I've been eyeing for years. I make good money, but have issues spending anything on myself. According to my therapist, it's from a fear of catastrophe. Even though I'm extremely frugal, make good money, and am in a better position than the vast majority of people my age, there's a constant voice in the back of my head telling me that I don't need whatever it is that I want to get for myself.

In moderation, that's a good thing, but I've taken it to a pretty far extreme. It legitimately stresses me out to buy something for myself that costs more than $15-20, even if I can afford it. I talked to my therapist about it, mentioned the table saw, and he suggested that I buy it. I talked to my wife about it, and she talked me into it, and I finally bit the bullet and did it. Definitely a luxury, but it's cheaper than a hospital visit to sew a finger back on.

However, I do not recommend moving it solo to prove a point. 450lbs is not light

I tutor college students for free in chemistry (occasionally physics, math and biochem as well but mostly chemistry) every day, 7 days a week so that.

Learned to sew!

Technically just over 7 days but I'm saying it. I started a Bachelor's in Cyber Security at a big university.

I'm the first in my family to ever seek higher education and my nephew (who lives with me) has already been asking questions about how he can go to college someday as well.

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Went to a nudist beach for the first time!

Got an open source offline text to speech AI that can read me any text of any length, another that can convert my speech into text, and finally got another working directly on the command line using python.

Took a “mental health day” off from work. First time I have ever took PTO for myself.

Got a big job interview. It's down to me and one person and I feel like I have the edge. I (hopefully) find out the results tomorrow! I desperately need the money lol.

Almost nothing, I suppose I should try and fix that

Beating twilight princess on Wii after leaving it for few years. Now I can start botw, it's on same timeline :D

I wrote 14 pages of a masters thesis.

I'm starting to understand math after failing all my exams, i hope i can pass in October...

I really cleaned. I'm too exhausted to get into it, but it was a terrible mess and now it's clean. I have a lot of disabilities including severe chronic ankle and back pain and endocrine issues that make me tired all the time, but I did it!

I survived a hurricane and got my lawn mowed in the process…

Put together a fun party with friends

Finally renewed my license. Only 4 months late this year.

I beat the shit out of Godskin Noble today. Took me about ten tries. At least three of those, he had a sliver of life left and cheesed me in a corner with his roll attack. I was livid. Like, the angriest I've ever been at a video game. Damn Elden Ring has some cheesy bosses.

The time I beat him, I was so calm. Just slowly chipping him down to nothing. BLAM. Dead. It felt so good. Nothing beats beating a hard boss in a Soulsbournekiro game.