They treat service people well.
this post was submitted on 02 Nov 2023
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If a person carries their trash with them until they stumble upon a trash bin they instantly have a plus in my book.
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They are happy to see you!
They handle stress and disappointment well.
They don't externalize their frustrations, and take responsibility for solving their own problems. They act like a functioning adult.
They have interests and hobbies that they are happy to do alone, or share.
Unfair - but they don't have intense money, drug, social pressure in their life, a stable situation is the good grounds for relationships
bonus: If their parents are attractive, then they could be a good partner who ages gracefully with you
That bonus really looked like it was going somewhere else for a second there.
bonus: if their parents are attractive, you have a potential thruple opportunity to fall back on if the relationship sours.
Uses vim?
I, too, appreciate a clean bathroom
Now I'm not dating someone unless they can prove their vim skills. Probably I'm gonna die alone.
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Kindness to animals. Just all animals, generally
Empathy.
They're self aware. Understand the difference between subjectivity and objectivity. When they encounter someone different, they don't judge, see it as a learning opportunity. Put thought into their words. If you ask them a question, you can see them carefully thinking about it.
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The simple virtue of being able to genuinely express these words; "I don't know", "Sorry" and "Thank you" (or any derivative of these*).
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- vegan
- soft spoken
- patient
- hands scarred/calloused from work
- creases in face from smiling
- casual manner/attire
- walks around other earthlings on footpaths etc instead of through
- puts their shopping trolley away, bonus if they round up others
- mocks authority
- is kind to children and listens to them seriously
i see your mocks authority and raise you an acab.
these are good green flags. I see the flak youre getting from folks doing the whole "make fun of vegans on the internet" thing, and wanted to say that the vegans Ive met irl have been really chill folks that are willing to make sacrifices for a better society. idk why vegans get trashed on online for sharing the long list of pros for veganism, as if people don't share opinions online all the time.
personally, I'm on a reduce animal products in ways i can with an occasional "treat yo-self" day, but that's mostly because ive lived a lot of my life being poor and havent always been able to select my own diet.
excited for more lab grown options, and I love when vegan options exist because they are usually unique, delicious, and dont have dairy(am allergic).
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Only kicks upwards, not downwards. Has a backbone and principles. Doesn't value money over meaning. Likes to teach people instead of putting oneself over them.
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Expresses disagreement with people talking shit about others when they don't have to
People who treat others who cannot benefit them well. For example, wait staff.
No particular order:
- Being a furry/furry sympathetic.
- A science major of any kind. IMO the S needs more love in STEM.
- Ever overhear them say "walkable" in a positive light.
- Hobbies besides media consumption
- Not "too cool" to learn something. Likes learning for fun.
- Not to concerned with looking cool or badass, either. Look at CHUDs, I made a joke the other day that I can sense a decent bit of residual 90's 'tude in modern CHUDDery, and I think I'm onto something.
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Actually intelligent, reads books, sense of humor, actually listens.
I love my ereader but I miss the days when you could actually see what someone was reading. It was like a book recommending a person
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Treats everyone with respect regardless of what their perceived status is.
They talk about Pokemon in the first date and will defend gen whatever while still calling it shit.
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They're a fucking weirdo like me and so don't mind being goofy a good bit of the time.
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Their soul is sufficiently supple for the ritual.
Girl, are you covered in the entrails of a sheep to sacrifice to the Lord Glycon to wake him from his sleep, or are you happy to see me?
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When they call you because they're at the supermarket and you might want something.
They can laugh at themselves. Not to the point of self deprecation, but they can acknowledge when they're wrong or dumb
They communicate honestly
Good range of spices - preferably slightly more than they have enough room for.
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Cutting the bullshit and getting straight to the point. If I wanna play games I have a playstation.
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They actually show up, or, failing that, tell you they aren't going to show up and summarize why and when the next best time is.
When they pay back what they owe without being reminded.
I feel like everything is a green flag until a red flag pops up. Like how an open road is functionally a permission to cintinue driving.
There are things where I get excited about a person, but even then red flags are more important. "Never admits to wrongdoing" and "Thinks kicking down a door and screaming at your partner is an appropriate response to leaving a mug in the wrong cupboard" is going to flatly be more important in a relationship than "does activism" or "is house trained".
That said, I don't like arguing all the time and do organising stuff irl, so it would be nice to agree politically on a bunch of things. Responds to texts/messages and seems excited to build conversation with me.
Having red and yellow or red and black flags on their clothing/accessories
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A desire to learn.
its more of a long term green flag but whenever someone listens to me, like brings up something i mentioned ages ago or whatever, its just a nice little thing i appreciate a lot
They are open to the idea that they could be at fault in any given situation but neither always assume they are nor always assume they are not.
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They care about other people
They smile at people they meet in a genuine "have a good day" vibe. It lifts people more than you know.
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