Ask Lemmy

Social interaction. It would be nice to not just be so exhausted talking to people. It would be nice to not dread the idea of sending someone a text, like it's some insane mental effort and not the smallest thing. It would be nice to not be lonely but totally unwilling to do what it takes to correct it.

Cilantro. Fucking soapy-assed tasting bullshit. I want to like you, but genetics won't let me.

Socializing. There are lots of benefits to being connected, but I just can't stand people. People are the worst, and yeah, that includes me.

Running. It's the cheapest, easiest form of exercise, but it absolutely bores me to death and i just can't deal with it after 5 minutes.

I don't mind most other forms of exercise, it's just that they all require more time, effort or resources. Going to the gym requires a gym membership, basketball requires friends, etc.

Gym exercise.

Exercise.

Seafood. So many people love it, so many cultures' cuisine centers around it, but OMFG I can't stand the taste.

Life.

Sorry if it got too serious. But I used to be chillin' and then I have depression.

But on the more trivial side of things, there are often TV shows or Movies people really like for some reason and upvoted to top of a reddit post asking "what's your favorite movie of all time", but I never seem to be able to enjoy some of those (even before I had depression). Like I don't get what's so good about them. I read though the plot and it just seem so boring.

Like out of a list of 50 movies people claim to be their favorite, I might only wanna watch like 5 of those.

The sound of dogs barking. If I liked that, I‘d be so happy every single day. I‘d wake up and go to sleep to a sound I enjoy. As it is, I will have to move and rent is even more expensive now, just depressing.

Embarrassment humor. It's always sunny. How I met your mother. Arrested development. I think you should leave. I can't stand cringe.

Programming. I have a bunch of ideas that are actually useful for my job, but I can’t seem to keep track of the necessary steps to write the code. ChatGPT has helped me create a couple of programs: a discord bot and a very complex (for me) application that brings in NASA data that automatically runs through Stable Diffusion. The code interpreter is amazing… but there’s too much context I’m missing for these things to be truly fun the way I imagine them to be.

Begin social, wishing to meeting people, not just strangers but friends and family, and feeling good to spend time with them. Because be a grumpy lone wolf dosnt pay off.

People, cause love and friendship.

The Elder Scrolls: Online. TES is easily my favorite game series and I'd absolutely love to soak up all the lore available in ESO.

But I just can't stand an MMO. I don't like seeing other people everywhere. I get that you can solo most of it.

It also just feels less focused on "live another life in another world".

Ive tried it a few times, and there's a lot that's intriguing about it story-wise, but I always end up putting it down pretty quickly. I'm hoping it clicks with me at some point.

Getting up early. Ideally even exercising before breakfast.

Weed. Every time I try it, I regret it. I feel like with alcohol, I might be uninhibited, but feel in control internally. With weed, I feel like I can’t complete a thought internally and I hate it.

Sports. I'd be able to have conversations with neighbors, brother-in-laws, etc.

Social connection. It would be nice if I could be confident and good at making friends with strangers. I have no idea why I feel so lonely when in the crowd and even more lonely when I'm alone.

Coffee, it's just too bitter for me, and by the time I get it tasting okay, it may as well be a dessert. People seem to form half of their personality around how much they love coffee, it makes me feel like I'm missing out.

Bananas.

Healthy ✔️ Comes in its own container ✔️ Tasty ✔️

I try one every year thinking this will be my year.

Unfortunately the texture kills me

Onions. I wish to God I liked onions. Food is so hard for me sometimes because I can't stand them in almost every form. I travel a lot, and the hardest places not to offend anyone food-wise has been southeast Asia. So. Many. ONIONS.

Career growth. Works keeps telling me for years about how they want to promote me into a new role, but I keep turning them down. Like bruh yeah it's more pay but it's more hours ya know.

I'd rather finish work 5pm everyday then stay back till 8pm for a few grand more which is even worse after tax.

Having IRL friends. I have one. I’ve known him since high school and we still hang out regularly from time to time. I get a long great with people IRL but I always cut it at acquaintance and keep it at that level.

I just can’t get invested in other people’s lives because honestly, most people don’t get me once they know me. I’m also estranged from my family so I don’t see anyone on either side.

It’s not important to me to be popular. Who cares how many people show up at your funeral? It’s not like I’m going to be there to shake peoples hands anyways. I could count on one hand the number of people who will attend mine and I’m perfectly content with that.

All that being said. It would be nice to be invited to social events or parties that aren’t work related. I also wouldn’t mind having some drinking buddies or something. I tried hanging out with a veterans group once but that didn’t pan out very well.

Tomatoes.

Tomatoes are in so many recipes, they're healthy, supposedly can even make good snacks.

ABSOLUTELY disgusting. Flavor, texture, smell, all of the above are just repugnant. I hate that's the case.

I was really hoping I'd enjoy Baldur's Gate 3. Apparently D&D is something I'm virtually allergic to, I hated the dice, controls, camera, dice, aesthetics at the start, FOMO and the wrong kind of "genre savvy" fucked me up about content getting locked out - basically I immediately hated all of it enough to put me off.

Shame, because it does seem like a seriously awesome game, just not for me.

Meat - I'm a vegetarian, though I take a lot of interest in cuisine, and while I may not eat meat personally, it's undeniable that it's a core ingredient for so many beloved dishes across the world. Maybe one day lab-grown or plant-based stuff will be able to serve as a common, cheap, and indistinguishable substitute, because I do want to appreciate all the food the world has to offer while sticking to my ideals as much as I can.

Mushrooms.

Tropical fruits like mangos, pineapples, and coconut (not a fruit i know). They look and smell good and other people really like them but I can't stand the taste

I Think You Should Leave. I feel like something is wrong with me. On paper it should be right up my street and two of my closest friends (both of whom I have a near complete overlap with in comedy tastes) are massive fans but I just don’t get it? I get the jokes but I just don’t laugh. I feel like Bart in that episode of The Simpsons where he sells his soul when I watch it.

Vegetables. And fruit. They're obviously very healthy - essential even. I have them in almost every meal, but I hate the taste of all of them. Apart from potatoes I suppose, but all the others.

Reading novels (or just fiction, in general). Not sure why but I simply lost the ability to do it a few years ago. Still like to read a couple of nonfiction books every month, but feel like I'm missing something lately

Waking up to a new day.

IPA beers. Most of my friends like them but despite all the different IPAs Ive tried, not a single one of them was particularly enjoyable to drink.

Engineering. Programming. Any kind of field with good jobs or stability.

I don't know how to articulate it properly, but I can't care about anything that is human-focused. I tried engineering and it made me extremely uncomfortable; like my soul broke apart and got put back together in the wrong way. Doomed to be a poor af zoologist/plant biologist :(