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Having IRL friends. I have one. I’ve known him since high school and we still hang out regularly from time to time. I get a long great with people IRL but I always cut it at acquaintance and keep it at that level.
I just can’t get invested in other people’s lives because honestly, most people don’t get me once they know me. I’m also estranged from my family so I don’t see anyone on either side.
It’s not important to me to be popular. Who cares how many people show up at your funeral? It’s not like I’m going to be there to shake peoples hands anyways. I could count on one hand the number of people who will attend mine and I’m perfectly content with that.
All that being said. It would be nice to be invited to social events or parties that aren’t work related. I also wouldn’t mind having some drinking buddies or something. I tried hanging out with a veterans group once but that didn’t pan out very well.
Kinda related for me, is keeping in touch / communication / or just talking in general. It's the reason why I don't have any friends left, and that's because I can't be bothered to stay in touch with them (and I hate social media).
At the same time, I'd like to have some friends to go watch movies with, or go to a restaurant etc. I almost stopped going to the cinemas after I lost touch with my old work friends.
I wish I could have just casual, activity-based friends so there's no commitment to keep a relationship going and you just meet up for an activity when you feel like it with no expectation of any follow up communications or getting involved in their lives.
I absolutely feel the same way. I also don’t have any other social media accounts other than kBin. I nuked everything else ages ago and haven’t looked back.
Life has a lot leas drama this way 😁