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The owner kind of makes a weak attempt to seem like they're trying, but if I weren't there, they wouldn't intervene at all. I'm asking because I want to make sure that I don't over react next time.

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[–] Tronn4@lemmy.world 106 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Mount the owner to show dominance

[–] Xatolos@reddthat.com 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Mount their dog, show them what it feels like

[–] BigDanishGuy@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago

What it comes down to is this: beastiality vs rape, which charge carries the longest prison sentence?

[–] Devi@kbin.social 69 points 10 months ago

Lot's of comments about dominance. This is an old erronous theory about dog behaviour based on a botched study. Dogs hump for many reasons, sexual is the obvious one, but also being nervous or poorly socialised.

What you should do is stop the behaviour, move your dog or theirs away and tell the owner to come get their dog.

If it happens in certain scenarios you can also stop it before the behaviour, so a common scenario is two dogs are playing, one dog gets overstimulated and then jumps on to hump, in that scenario you'd want to watch for earlier signs of overstimulation, wanting to stop, panting heavily, whale eyes, and stopping the play at that point.

[–] Altofaltception@lemmy.world 64 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] idunnololz@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Owner is playing 5d chess because that's what they wanted.

[–] tygerprints@kbin.social 1 points 10 months ago

Well played sir. May I hump your leg in public?

[–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 45 points 10 months ago

Mount the owner.

[–] MrsDoyle@lemmy.world 38 points 10 months ago

My dog was a big tall greyhound, and one time he was humped by another dog - a tiny Yorkshire terrier. It was clinging to his hock (ankle) and banging away for dear life, while my dog ignored it. Its owner and I were both laughing too hard to do anything about it, it was a ludicrous sight.

Sorry not to be more helpful.

[–] darganon@lemmy.world 33 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Keep your dog away from their dog.

[–] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago (5 children)

Are you suggesting that I leave the dog park because their dog is not neutered and they wont control their dog's behavior?

[–] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 20 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Either that or talk to other owners at the park about collectively shunning the problematic owner. It sounds harsh but I've seen this work and it's preferable to giving up a beloved community hangout just because of one asshole.

[–] fine_sandy_bottom@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

My goodness me.

"Talk to all the other people at the park and turn them against one other person in order to avoid an awkward conversation with said person".

If someone at the park told me to avoid some other person because their dog is a humper I world tell them to grow up.

[–] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca -1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I'm assuming OP has already asked the problem owner to stop and they are refusing to control their dog properly. Obviously talking to them comes first.

[–] fine_sandy_bottom@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 10 months ago

You could take photos of the dog humping your dog and make posters & flyers warning everyone.

Better yet, you could post to your local "mother's chat" Facebook group and let them resolve it

[–] Jagger2097@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago (2 children)

You can talk to them, which it seems like you tried and it didn't convince them to do something, or you can leave. Are there other viable options?

[–] spacecowboy@sh.itjust.works 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] Kase@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Oh god, I haven't felt the urge to make a hamilton reference as strongly as I do in this moment since high school. WhatdoIdo??

breathes deeply Sorry about that, the inner theater kid gets out of hand from time to time. The situation is under control now.

[–] Jagger2097@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

So you threw away your shot?

[–] Gingerrific@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

Physically restraining the problematic dog.

[–] Wahots@pawb.social 3 points 10 months ago

Would feel pretty horrifying if it were humans in the dog's place. I'd either tell the owner to get their dog to knock it off or find a new park with better trained dogs (and owners). :P

[–] liztliss@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

If your dog isn't spayed a dog park IS a pretty sketchy place for her to be

[–] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 10 months ago (1 children)

OP’s dog may be spayed, unneutered male dogs will hump anything.

[–] liztliss@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

Sure, in which case I guess it's just annoying? My dog will usually bark or snap at dogs that try to mount her, if you are at the dog park that behavior will happen regardless, spayed female dogs hump as well as males who are both neutered and not 🤷‍♀️

[–] Socsa@sh.itjust.works -1 points 10 months ago

Literally if you can't handle the dog park don't go there. This is pretty much why we don't go the the dog park when it is crowded as well.

[–] CallumWells@lemmy.ml 33 points 10 months ago (1 children)

If anything does something to your dog you don't agree with you are fully entitled to remove that thing from being near your dog. Grab the other dog by the collar and drag it away (not yanking, controlled movements).

If the owner of the other dog gets angry at this then state that you wouldn't have had to do so if they had the skills to keep their dog having good behaviour. Some times people need a verbal slap in the face to even start thinking about if they should do better. They won't agree with you in the situation, but it may help effect some change in their behaviour over time.

[–] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Thank you. This was the comment I needed.

[–] Pat_Riot@lemmy.today 1 points 10 months ago

If that doesn't work, mount the other dog's owner to establish dominance.

/S

[–] meco03211@lemmy.world 22 points 10 months ago (2 children)

If at least one of them is fixed, at worst it's just a show of dominance. The bigger concern is for the dog humping. Those shows of dominance can lead to aggressive reactions from some dogs. If your dog isn't the type to react aggressively, it's not a big problem outside of any social awkwardness. The problem would be if that dog humped another that really didn't want it. Then there could be a fight. So it's in the owners best interest to discourage that behavior lest they hump the wrong dog.

All that said, even if your dog isn't the type to react and you just don't want another dog humping your dog, you should be fine taking some action. Either avoid the other dog or if that's not possible keep between your dog and the humper. Even physically holding the other dog away from yours should be fine. If the other owner takes offense to this, you can explain that you don't want their dog humping yours. At this point, they'll either concede and try to do better, remove their dog from the situation, or devolve into full Karen. Up to you how to handle that.

[–] burgersc12@sh.itjust.works 5 points 10 months ago

This is the most reasonable answer!

[–] Kase@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Here, take my shiny upvote:

[–] foggy@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] Kase@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

Believe me, it was!

[–] tygerprints@kbin.social 22 points 10 months ago (1 children)

You could go up and start mounting the other dog's owner multiple times.

[–] Bitrot@lemmy.sdf.org 11 points 10 months ago

I find this usually gets the attention of the other owner as well.

[–] cosmicrookie@lemmy.world 15 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Ideally your dog should tell the other dog that it won't have it. Some times it takes longer than others for this to happen. For some dogs though this never happens

[–] DivineBurke@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

This is such a spot-on response. In addition to another in this thread (stating you are allowed to and should control the situation), it's 100% acceptable for a dog to correct another. Some dog owners see any "bad" interactions as aggressive but dogs can't learn to interact well without correcting each other. Unless it escalates into a legitimate fight, they should be allowed to work it out.

[–] jws_shadotak@sh.itjust.works 13 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Hold their dog's collar and don't let go until the owner gets the hint. Just hold their dog in place. It's not hurting the animal but it's also not something the owner can just ignore.

[–] andthenthreemore@startrek.website 5 points 10 months ago

Hold their ~~dog's~~ collar and don't let go until the owner gets the hint.

[–] lettruthout@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Put yourself between it and your dog. Mounting is an act to show dominance. Be the more dominant dog.

[–] NegativeLookBehind@kbin.social 4 points 10 months ago

Let the dog mount you, got it

[–] deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Happens occasionally when I'm walking my dog.

My dog will let the other one know when she's had enough nonsense.

IMHO find a way to get over it and get over it.

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 3 points 10 months ago

Hump the owner. Assert dominance.

[–] HubertManne@kbin.social 2 points 10 months ago

avoid them.

[–] Spacemanspliff@midwest.social 1 points 10 months ago

Mount their dog.

[–] ulemmyagain@lemmy.world -3 points 10 months ago

just let it go. it's not a big deal. dog's gonna dog.