Ask Lemmy

I'm just really jaded about spending all my time working, and barely having time to spend with my family every year, except a few days around Christmas time. Our bullshit expectation of always working just doesn't work for me anymore.

Why am I not content with my life? The content of my life.

Depression

I really love my family and don't ever want to hurt them.

I just wish they could be happy without me around every day.

I miss having time for myself.

I also love other people and want to be with them as well.

I just feel chained.

For me definitely money / not wanting to work. I'd just want to do my own stuff all day everyday. And I mean actually do it rather than just sit on youtube all day

I'm not good with people. I'm perpetually a loner on the internet. My coworkers have a tendency to keep me going but sometimes they don't get along and I'm at a loss for what to do with myself. Even though it's not my problem, I make it my own because I'm an evil narcissist. There is no place on this planet for an asshole weirdo like me.

I'm pretty content but I'd be more content with more money. But the process of making more money can make me discontented.

Health scare currently got me down. Good odds it's fine, but the possibilities range from "nothing to worry about" to "easily treatable" to "unpleasantly treatable" all the way down to "terminal".

Just last week I was contentedly playing darts at the bar with a date!

Appreciate your health while you have it.

More money and a job that allows me to have a flexible working schedule. I hate having an 8-5 and I want more money to travel around

Money and a partner

For the first time, I am content. It's honestly a wild feeling - less then a decade ago I was about a half step from homeless and an opioid user. Now I've successfully transitioned, gotten my dream job, and have a super cute fat kitty. And I just got a message from what seems like a genuinely decent guy who I'm meeting for coffee.

It's fucking wild. Every day I just appreciate all the small things so much. It's really made me refocus my goal to try to help people as much as I can now.

Rootin for yall. I hope everyone gets to feel this way.

I've found a job I'm happy with, a house that I feel good in, and a wife that is my most important source of joy. We have a few hobbies that keep us occupied, but I think we'd almost have too much time to kill if we weren't working at least a little bit and feeling productive in fields we value. I am incredibly lucky to be able to say all of that, and it leaves my health issues as my biggest obstacle to greater contentment. I have epilepsy which has led to a pretty restrictive lifestyle. No drinking, early bedtime every single night, HEAVY (and expensive) medications with terrible side effects, and just a bit of constant stress around the possibility of a bad seizure. Plus the increased risks of early onset dementia that I just have to wait for and know is likely coming. There's nothing we can do about any of it except try to stay distracted, but that's hard with so many medication alarms going off every day.

Money and a support system.

Money would mean less stress about bills, hobbies, healthier food. It would leave me time, energy and motivation for better habits.

Support system would give me people to enjoy those hobbies with. People to help when shit happens, more emotional security.

Me, I inherited some good money and it didn't make all my issues go away. I am no means rich but comfortable. It's weird to see how you think is shaped by your statue in life. I need to turn my focus on life from going from one paycheck to the next to planning for the future and what to do with this money.

The minecraft server is down :(

Cost of housing.

nothing 😎

Capitalism

• Need anything resembling a support system to make pulling myself out of an abusive clusterfuck even seem worth it.

• Can't socialize til I've already clawed my way of it all by myself, because I'm too far behind anyone who isn't still in high school and it makes people closer to my own age uncomfortable.

So I don't get to have emotional support of any kind. But I do get to be judged when I fail. I'd rather not die if I didn't have to, tbh, but I am kinda being pushed there for lack of other options. Anyway, how is your day.

solid wage, perhaps if AI would stop attacking every ability to earn a solid wage in the future...

Other people.

My inability to experience joy and save it to my long term memory.

The fact that I’m alive, and contentedness is a state lasting approximately 10 seconds.

Government corruption and corporatism that lead to ANYTHING that is in my best interest being locked behind exceedingly impossible profit motives. Citizens United, first past the post, a two party system, capitalism, the CIA, the World Bank: they are all to blame for the life getting less and less enjoyable and more filled with work.

Probably the chronic debilitating disease I have that saps my energy and concentration and massively limits what I can do. Other than that, things are honestly pretty good.

My chances

You have to juggle far too many things to be successful and it just makes me so anxious that I can't juggle just one thing.

I'd like to move my new family from Korea to Sweden because I think life there for our two children from middle school upwards would be much easier. But for that my fiance woul need to give up her well payed job here and her daughter couldn't meet her dad so easily.

More money would be the biggest help. Which always makes me think my life overall is good right now since there aren't any personal problems that couldn't be fixed with money. Relationships and health are good, and always I feel so lucky to be alive and physically embodied. Just always feeling behind and stressed because living costs more than I can make.