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[–] ImFresh3x@sh.itjust.works 86 points 10 months ago (9 children)

Leaving the shopping cart in a parking spot and not in the cart corral.

[–] Snailpope@lemmy.world 29 points 10 months ago (1 children)

This, it's the litmus teat for basic human dignity

[–] Ginrai@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago (1 children)
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[–] EndOfLine@lemm.ee 81 points 10 months ago (6 children)
  • Not saying "please" or "thank you" to people in the service industry
  • Not able to accept when they are wrong
  • Any type of "I know enough and don't need to learn more" type of behavior
  • Prioritizing an organization (political party, church, sports team, etc) over actual people
  • Littering
[–] Moobythegoldensock@lemm.ee 27 points 10 months ago (2 children)
[–] cedarmesa@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)
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[–] Squander@lemmy.world 11 points 10 months ago

littering and

[–] z00s@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago

#3: every boomer ever

And their go to response when they don't understand something is anger.

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[–] bfg9k@lemmy.world 64 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Being rude to people that are providing goods/services

[–] _bug0ut@lemmy.world 20 points 10 months ago

Instant red flag. Double red flag if it seems like they're getting something out of it

[–] Boiglenoight@lemmy.world 56 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 23 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I thought that was if there were not raised left. 🤔

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[–] Adalast@lemmy.world 50 points 10 months ago (1 children)

They think corporations and for-profit organizations ever have their best interest at heart.

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[–] AhismaMiasma@lemm.ee 44 points 10 months ago (9 children)

Non-adherence to the "Golden Rule." It's very simple, do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Religious components aside, just don't be a jerk to others. Start from a place of respect and reevaluate after they show their colors.

[–] cedarmesa@lemmy.world 14 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)
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[–] AgentGrimstone@lemmy.world 41 points 10 months ago
[–] EdherJr@sh.itjust.works 38 points 10 months ago

When someone blasts loud music in a public space.

[–] TruTollTroll@lemmy.world 37 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (5 children)

Someone who spouts, Every single thing comes back to 'gods plan'

You got hurt and lost a job, God's plan..

Lost your baby to cancer, God's plan..

Mom got remarried after her first husband died in an accident, God's plan...

Gets offensive after a while

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[–] Etterra@lemmy.world 36 points 10 months ago

They commit sexual harassment and assault.

Seriously, just keep it in your pants and keep your damn hands to yourself, why is that so impossible for your lizard brain to comprehend?

[–] charonn0@startrek.website 32 points 10 months ago (2 children)

People who use "I didn't know who it belonged to" to justify stealing things.

[–] TheDoozer@lemmy.world 15 points 10 months ago

"Did you forget that it didn't belong to you?"

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[–] son_named_bort@lemmy.world 32 points 10 months ago

Not throwing out their trash at a fast food place because "someone will take care of it".

[–] Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world 29 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

They use violent language frequently.

Had a manager that said in a meeting, "Looks like I'll have to start taking employees to the back and shooting them in the head."

This was over his employees not performing.

Joke or not... wtf.

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 28 points 10 months ago (1 children)

When they interrupt and talk over the top of people. They should have been taught not to do that as a child.

[–] Ocelot@lemmies.world 20 points 10 months ago (2 children)

This is actually a sign of autism

[–] tdawg@lemmy.world 16 points 10 months ago (1 children)
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[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Or simple social isolation. This may be from factors they do not control. Really, a lot of these types of issues can be solved by looking up Maslow's Hierarchy and plotting out what levels and pieces are missing. There are people like myself that have physical limitations and these can limit the person's access to a more healthy situation.

There are people that have narcissistic issues that may drive this kind of thing, but a lot of the time it is due to social isolation. Once you realize this, it may help you empathize more, or maybe even help someone.

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[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 10 months ago

I was a latchkey kid with early onset major depression.

I developed my moral compass when in my thirties I realized I was ignorant and my father was defending extrajudicial detention and torture of POWs by the United States. (That was the sort of thing masterminds did in movies to show they were evil, so WTF, America?)

Since then, after considerable deep dives, I've come to the conclusion that no one is raise right, that the industrial age decimated the extended family in which kids were raised by a community of adults, and parents weren't driven to exhaustion by work.

Mental illness and abuse in the developed world is intergenerational. My parents are mad as hatters, but they didn't have a chance. And their parents (The Greatest Generation) were traumatized. One was a WWII sniper with 30+ kills and ghosts in his eyes.

The human species is flying by the seat of its pants. We're in uncharted territory. It's not possible to raise kids right so much as with more or less functionality, which is not the same as capacity to cope.

[–] crackgammon@lemmy.world 27 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Not putting shit away in public when they could easily do so with minor effort for someone's/everyone's benefit. Shopping carts, plates at a food court, trash, etc.

[–] Izzy@lemmy.world 14 points 10 months ago

The other day I watched someone try to dump their trash into a trash can and they just completely missed and got it all over the floor. They just left it there and walked away. I don't think I could even force myself to do something like this. It seems inhuman. 😑

[–] IamtheMorgz@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago

I am a firm believer in always returning your shopping cart to either the inside of the store or a corral. I dumped a guy over not doing it once 😂

[–] altima_neo@lemmy.zip 27 points 10 months ago

They don't wash their hands after taking a piss.

They talk on the phone while taking a shit in a public restroom.

[–] morphballganon@lemmy.world 26 points 10 months ago (3 children)

Person A is carrying a big heavy thing and person B (carrying nothing) doesn't get out of the way/hold the door

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[–] Lexam@lemmy.ca 25 points 10 months ago (3 children)
[–] synae@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 10 months ago

Very sinister...

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[–] 1984@lemmy.today 22 points 10 months ago

They think terrorists are whoever the US says they are.

[–] FleetingTit@feddit.de 21 points 10 months ago

Playing loud music in a packed commuter train, watching tok tiks while watching a movie in the cinema, using both armrests when they have the window seat.

[–] LegionEris@feddit.nl 20 points 10 months ago (3 children)

When I really click and get along well with them. When I just get someone inherently, I know they had a fucked up childhood. "It's complicated" is as close to a good relationship with their parents as most of my friends get. See, I myself wasn't raised right, to put it lightly. I have a sixth sense for people with childhood trauma. My best friend has cptsd, and so do I. We're crazy in the same way, and it's great.

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[–] FrankTheHealer@lemmy.world 16 points 10 months ago

Eating with their mouth open

[–] Chickenstalker@lemmy.world 15 points 10 months ago

He kills the Sand Peoples. The women and children too.

[–] Izzy@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago (1 children)

When a person finds any excuse to be angry to the point of intentionally misinterpreting things. It's impossible to have a conversation with such people.

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[–] Son_of_dad@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago

Being trashy and having no regard for other people around.

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