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This is actually a sign of autism
and adhd
Turn-taking behaviors also differ from one language community to another.
In some social contexts it's expected that you wait for the other person to finish, pause and think, and only then respond. In other contexts, that's an "awkward silence" and indicates that the other person said something so bad or weird that you don't know how to answer.
Likewise, finishing someone's sentence if they hesitate is sometimes as a sign of close intimacy and sometimes a sign of extreme disrespect — it depends on the social context and personal preference. (And on whether you get it right.)
These are things that all language users do learn; some people have more trouble with them than others, and have to learn them as explicit rules rather than just picking them up "naturally" as part of language acquisition.
Or simple social isolation. This may be from factors they do not control. Really, a lot of these types of issues can be solved by looking up Maslow's Hierarchy and plotting out what levels and pieces are missing. There are people like myself that have physical limitations and these can limit the person's access to a more healthy situation.
There are people that have narcissistic issues that may drive this kind of thing, but a lot of the time it is due to social isolation. Once you realize this, it may help you empathize more, or maybe even help someone.
Sure, but don't you think talking over other people still isn't appropriate to do? No matter what condition/ reasons you have for doing so, I think if you were "raised right" you would refrain from doing so, or at least catch yourself be apologetic about it. We can be understanding and empathetic and can still acknowledge it isn't the right thing to do.
When autism or trauma comes into the equation, you might watch yourself as words spill out of your mouth. You have time to think 'Oh no, I did an unsocial thing again.' as you try and make yourself shut up in a somewhat gracious way, which in reality will seem more like a talking robot running out of battery power mid-sentence. Other people are doing their best to ignore you and your hopeless blabbermouth. Yay, it's socializing time.
I've had people doubt my autism self diagnosis before witnessing me trying to behave like a human being in a group setting. They usually don't question it after.
So, going on about how it's still inappropriate is a little like telling a person in a wheelchair how it's inappropriate to remain sitting in some situations. They are probable aware and yet they can't really change much about the way they function?