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Is there a magical barrier that keeps men who don't say they're trans from entering women's bathrooms?
It's quite interesting to see them make this argument while also claiming that gun control laws can't possibly work because criminals won't abide by them.
I guess we need to allow everyone to use any washroom because we need a good man in the women's washroom to be around to save the women from a bad man in the women's washroom
Careful, conservatives have historically been against desegregating spaces.
Not if it means white men can go wherever they want!
Gun control laws don't stop bad actors from acting badly. And neither will restroom laws.
A fictitious rapist can only enter women's bathrooms for raping purposes if they loudly declare that they are trans.
Oh I see, it's like bankruptcy.
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"See I'm trans. You have to let me in here to rape people."
Yeah, this is probably the right way to go. There's actually no bathroom police, for most people. It's an issue in the first place because when someone is trans people will deputise themselves just to harass them.
Yes, peoples expectations, someone who's obviously trans can use any bathroom, because it's expected. If a guy walks into a girls bathroom the unknown becomes a real threat. Unless there's a Karen then all bets are off. Tbh smaller establishments don't need gendered bathrooms if it's just a single toilet.
The social contract, and the knowledge that it isn't acceptable and any women inside would likely scream and the man would be perceived as an attempted rapist and would face consequences.
In my experience what happens is you look at each other confusedly for a moment, wondering who is in the wrong restroom. Then you realise there are no urinals so it's probably the women's restroom. Then the man leaves a bit embarrassed. Source: Happened to me at least twice (once the signs were really unclear).
Happened to me once as the woman. Poor guy was so embarrassed and apologetic.
Rapists, well known followers of social contract who only do things that are acceptable...
It's not concerning at all that this didn't seem immensely silly and wrong when you typed it...
Because if a bathroom allows trans women, women will then be unable to scream while facing an attempted rape?
Are you advocating that any man who even accidentally enters a woman's restroom startling a woman be declared an attempted rapists?
Otherwise, they will be considered an attempted rapist whether trans and allowed in the bathroom or not...when they start doing the attempted rape...
So, no. I don't think a rapist cares much if they're perceived as a rapist. And a lot of (maybe most?) rapists know that they probably won't be convicted even if caught.