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I started seeing this guy in my friend group, and then I heard from someone else he'd started seeing another girl in our friend group. When I questioned him about it he got this stupid grin on his face and made a comment about the two of us fighting over him. I said: " I'm not fighting over you," and stopped dating him.
That's as close as I ever got.
In my 20s, I (a guy) briefly dated a girl who was hopelessly infatuated with a gay guy. I guess technically it wasn't a triangle because the gay guy had a pretty serious boyfriend, so more of a quadrangle... She got in between them, got him drunk & got herself knocked up, he "did the right thing" and married her, had another kid, then they got divorced after he had an affair with a guy...
It's funny, I have her friended on Facebook, mostly because the drama is often entertaining, but I usually keep my comments to myself. When the divorce happened, she made this long post that basically said "woe is me, how could this have happened?" I couldn't resist responding with "maybe because you married a gay guy?"
Dated a girl who had a boyfriend. I was her "secret boyfriend" and she always told me that she was going to leave him, just need to find the right time, just another week, you'll see babe. The surprising thing is that it was sexual, it wasn't a friendzone thing.
She was my first and I stupidly thought it was something special. Nope, she just liked having the attention and had a fair amount of damage. She eventually did leave him, I was elated, and then a month later she cheated on me.
There's no secret bf/gf folks, if she doesn't want to tell her friends it's a massive red flag for you, just move onto someone who respects you
I don't know if this counts, but I was a virgin and my first opportunity with a girl was a 3-way with another guy, and I just didn't want my first time to be like that so I passed.
Junior year of high school, I was starting to get myself together and start interacting with girls in my class. Ended up becoming good friends with one who ended up being single a couple months before prom.
So I ask her to prom and she says "yes". I buy the tickets for both of us (a couple hundred bucks- good thing I had a job). She bought a dress and I rented a matching tux. My plan was to ask her to start dating AT prom.
But in the time between me asking her to prom and the actual prom, some underclassman just asked her out on a date. And she said "yes" to that too. And they started dating and were BF and GF. At this point where I've dropped a ton of money on this prom, made plans with her friends and all their BF's, etc.
I stand my ground. Prom happens and we have a decent time- her BF does not go. He joins us at a restaurant afterwards and it's an incredibly awkward night.
That summer the two of them broke up and I asked her out. We dated through senior year, went to different colleges and broke up halfway through our freshman years. She had tons of guy friends who were clearly trying to date her that she always humored. She claimed they were just friends (a lot of them were ex's) but she clearly loved the attention they, and I, gave her trying to compete for her. I'm not the jealous type but that was exhausting. In retrospect her dating another guy while in the month leading up to that prom was a huge red flag and I should have ran then.
Myself, my laptop and my hand
I don't really love triangles, more of a tubular bells kind of guy
Only had a good triad. We all loved each other equally, and we did our best respecting each others needs.
I just wish we all weren't so stressed out about affording the basics.
I really liked a girl, asked her out once when I was way too young. Had a friend tagging along. After, he said I could do better. The guy was an idiot, but the words had an impact on me at the time. I forget about her and moved on. I was super busy with a new business anyways.
Later, I started dating this other girl. Turns out she was best friends with the first. The three of us did everything together for years. I never did anything with the first, but found myself just as attached to both in a unique way. The first even dated a friend if mine for awhile. When I broke up with the second, me and the first dated for a short while, but I ended up moving out of state and things didn't work out.
Sounds like a pretty magical time while it lasted.
And your friend may not have been smart, but he was wise to tell you that you could do better. Sounds like it was the perfect thing to say to help you get over being rejected and move on. Being rejected and hanging on to hope can be awful.
Oh no, he was dumb, she was super into me then. He wasn't consoling or anything but saying she was not pretty enough for me. I liked her for her depth and interests. He was a curiosity because he was into videography before YT, but had no depth beyond that one interest at the time. He had a misogynistic conquest like disposition that I do not share. At the time, this disposition was something I did not understand.
I had a dream this morning that I had a sweet summer fling with the guy that played Wilson on House MD? He really loved me, and my actual real life husband was supportive but very confused in the dream. Then it turned into a variety show/dance review and I'm never going to be able to watch House again.
Maybe not the worst, but very timely.
My boyfriend said I needed to be more affectionate.
So now I have TWO boyfriends!
My ex fiancee broke up with me and then asked if she could invite a coworker over for a date 2 weeks later. Does that count?
Potato chips and chocolate. It was difficult but necessary to have them both at the same time
What will those crazy Newfies think of next?
Equilateral mostly. No good side to it whatsoever.
Love Triangle? I'm stuck in a Love Ray.
Me, my gf and her mother.
Never again.
(No, not in a sexual way, not between me and the mother at least...)