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[โ€“] paultimate14@lemmy.world 33 points 2 days ago

Junior year of high school, I was starting to get myself together and start interacting with girls in my class. Ended up becoming good friends with one who ended up being single a couple months before prom.

So I ask her to prom and she says "yes". I buy the tickets for both of us (a couple hundred bucks- good thing I had a job). She bought a dress and I rented a matching tux. My plan was to ask her to start dating AT prom.

But in the time between me asking her to prom and the actual prom, some underclassman just asked her out on a date. And she said "yes" to that too. And they started dating and were BF and GF. At this point where I've dropped a ton of money on this prom, made plans with her friends and all their BF's, etc.

I stand my ground. Prom happens and we have a decent time- her BF does not go. He joins us at a restaurant afterwards and it's an incredibly awkward night.

That summer the two of them broke up and I asked her out. We dated through senior year, went to different colleges and broke up halfway through our freshman years. She had tons of guy friends who were clearly trying to date her that she always humored. She claimed they were just friends (a lot of them were ex's) but she clearly loved the attention they, and I, gave her trying to compete for her. I'm not the jealous type but that was exhausting. In retrospect her dating another guy while in the month leading up to that prom was a huge red flag and I should have ran then.