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Someone made an offhand comment that I would be an otter if only I were more laid back.
And honestly, that made me kinda wish I could be more relaxed and chill. Everything just seems to important and stressful and difficult and intense to me... I wish I could just turn that all off and just let things happen to me as they come rather than fearing and planning for the future.
I wish I was persuasive
A really old book, how to win friends and influence people, can teach you this.
TBH I don't want have to change at all, I'm just saying in the magic genie scenario I'd wish that people agreed with me
I’ve been recommended this book multiple times and it probably would help me, but I feel like I’d have to admit to myself that my goal is manipulation before picking it up, and I don’t want that to be my goal.
Fitness/athleticism.
This for sure! I didn't appreciate my knees enough when they worked better.
I wish to know, what free will even is, and how it could be possible.
I seen a lot of people have this particular question and the question that I have for them is what isn't free will?
On the religious side you've got the people who are saying God knows everything so he already knows what you're going to do. On the science side you've got all humans are just chemicals in a hot dog casing.
My opinion is, either which way you look at it you are free to choose what you want to do.
Just because somebody can make you question the freedom of your choices does not mean that your choices are not born of free will.
Here's my take, and you can do with it as you will.
We don't have free will, how could we? We are, as you said, chemicals in a hot dog casing. When I see something I want to eat, it's because chemicals tell me I'm hungry and it will provide sustenance. When I do something that I enjoy, and want to pursue, my brain is receiving chemicals that it enjoys, and tells me to continue doing actions that produce said chemicals. I can choose to do these things or not, but my choice in and of itself is determined by... more chemicals.
But why does it matter, if those chemicals also tell "me" that "me" is the one in charge?
It's like the cave/ shadow metaphor (that I will poorly paraphrase and misuse); hold a chair in front of a candle, show me the shadow, call it a "table" for my entire life, and the first time I see a chair I will say, "so this is what a table looks like!" It doesn't matter that it's actually a chair, just like it doesn't matter if I actually am making my choices. My reality (and your reality) is what I perceive and accept, and nothing more. Logically, I understand that when presented the choice between A and B, my body and the chemicals composing it are the ones "making" the decision, and I'm just acting it out. I get that. But if someone says, "do you want really want to watch The Lord of the Rings again?" I already know that the world has changed, because I feel it in the water, feel it in the earth, and smell it in the air.
And that's my choice, chemicals be damned.
I mean, if you were mindless and hungry you would eat the first food that came your way.
But you are not mindless and so you choose whether to eat a sandwich or a burger or a pizza and what kind of sandwich or burger or pizza it is.
You can choose to abstain from eating to lose weight or for religious purposes.
There is a part of you that has choice and control.
And even if that is a bioelectric chemical process, it's not always in charge, there is no one standing piece of you that is always entirely completely in control.
But there is always an observer. A sense of self.
And depending on the chemicals in your brain that observer will make different choices either positively or negatively for you as an entity.
You can look at it and say it is just chemical reactions but who is to say that Free Will is not a chemical reaction?
What if there are literal chemicals in your brain that can undergo their chemical processes in different ways based on the choices you make?
Would not that overall function be free will?
If someone was asked to describe me in a single word, I wish their response would be “kind.”
I wish i was genuinely kind. Faking it is exhausting, and confusing.
I wish my relationship wasn't so very, very, very, very bad. And I wish I could be independent financially and not trapped as I am.
You honestly have no idea how bad it can get. Don't ignore red flags.
Patience.
Everywhere I go people meander like zombies whether it’s walking, driving, shopping, etc. I can’t figure out why people are soooooo slow, do they have nothing to accomplish? It constantly puts me off, but it’s probably because I moved to a big city in the west (US) coast.
Bigger tits would be nice. They’re not small, but I’m a boob girl and so it’d be nice.
I also wish I was better at selling myself and developing professional skills quickly.
Its such a cruel thing that humans dont get to choose where the fat goes when we overindulge for too long. Women would be able to accentuate areas they would like to be more curvy in, men could distribute it more evenly so it would be relatively bigger overall rather than fat in any one area
That I had all the energy needed to do things that make me happy. I have a lot of commitments that are more important but less fun than my hobbies. Every time I have to deal with those, it saps my energy for fun things.
I wish I would be less of an hypocrite.
What makes you a hypocrite?
I do the things I despise others for doing.
Like?
Cutting people of while driving.
I wish I liked to study. It would save me a lot of trouble.
You ever tried those exam prep books and just try taking tests till it absorbs organically?
Never tried. I might try sometime.
I wish I could dance. I have rhythm, just not with my body.
