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My family IS my family and I don't.

I don't talk to a lot of people, but there's no reason I'd specifically avoid them. I lucked out, and they're pretty cool people.

More to the point, my family are the people who shaped who I am in both nature and nurture. If they weren't my family, I would not be me.

If my family weren't my family, they wouldn't talk to me...

My mom and sister - Yes, they cool

My dad - He trolls liberals as a pass time and is effectively a MAGAt. No

I barely talk to them now.

Hell yeah. My family is weird and fun.

I play in a weekly D&D game with my dad, aunt, uncle, and cousin's husband. We all have weird craft habits.

Then I married into a massive family of very decent people. My brother in law adopted three sons before having two of his own. Several of the extended family teach or taught in public schools.

Then there's my extended family of cool people, friends I've curated over decades, most of whom have met my actual biological family.

Takes a lot before I give up on family!

Nope, they’re mostly selfish assholes in my family

My family is my family and I don't talk to them

No. I have nothing in common with any of them. If I met one from work out such I’m sure we’d be friendly but I can’t imagine more.

Is it cheating if I'm no contact with my mom already?

they are ultra religious, i am agnostic, not fun, would avoid

My mother/brother/sister, yeah - sure. My wife/daughters/son - Probably not. I look at them every day and wonder how I got so lucky.

If I somehow met my sister as like a friend of a friend, we'd get along. As for the rest of my family, I'm just waiting for them to die so I don't have to answer their phone calls anymore.

Not a chance

Nope.

Probably not. I mean, husband yes, but otherwise I doubt it.

No.

We're like the random other adults you interact with sometimes, because you live near them or something. We get along when we have to talk. If it wasn't for holidays each year we never would.

Yes, or at least the ones I actually talk to.

They're fine people, but we don't really share any interests. I'd be unlikely I'd ever meet them.

I live with my family and don't talk to them.

No. And while they are my family….also still no. I value my wellbeing.

Siblings yes, just about everyone else no. We have no interests, morals, or politics in common.

No

My younger brother: absolutely. He's funny AF and knows a lot of stuff I don't.

The rest of them: oh hell nah.

I lucked out and my family are really good and are honestly rather nice people to talk to and be around. But I also really suck at starting conversations, so they'd have to take the lead.

... I've recently been trying to make more of an effort to talk to my mum. She won't be there forever, after all.

My dad, probably. My mom, absolutely not. Of course, I barely talk to anyone I don't live with, and I'm 38, so I wouldn't actually talk to either of them.

I talked to my parents. But not my sister because there were enough people on here who spout incoherent conspiracy theories. I don't need to hear it in person.

Did you know that there are pyramids, built by an ancient technologically advanced civilization, under the Atlantic Ocean? Because my sister does. Also the covid vaccine is bad for you, but that's a boring one.

Yeah definitely they are cool human beings

I'll be honest, every time I feel like I can express my opinions about my family one of them manages to find it. This may be how I learn I have cousins on Lemmy.

So I'll just mention my parents, who've become more like friends since my physical distance from them has increased over the last 20 years. And they're all (including step-parents) weirdly (considering their siblings, nieces, and nephews) progressive.

One of them, but none of the rest.

Yes

Some I would definitely talk to regularly, some I already don't talk to even though they are family.

Nah, probably not. They're fine but I have not much in common with them. I talked to one sibling for the first time in five years last year. I send another a happy birthday text once a year. I talk to the one living parent a couple times a year. Theres no bad blood between them and I.

We are a pretty independent family anyway, always have been. I see friends call up their parents weekly or even daily and I find it so strange to have a connection to them like that. Who just...calls up a family member randomly?

My mom: for sure.

Dad and sister: hell no

They are my family and I don't talk to them, because BPD destroys relationships.

This is really tough. I have two members who have such problems they are basically wards of the state. They are the only folks I know living in halfway houses. I doubt I would know them if they were not family. This sorta goes for many members to. They are fine but we move in different circles and they are not likely to be part of my crowd. Heck even my favorite brother tends to be a bar fly and way back when we might have met in a library or such. Im sure I would think of him as the cool guy from the library and maybe we would talk a bit if we bumped into each other there.

I’d talk to my brother 100%