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[–] Kalkaline@leminal.space 48 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Water from the tap: basically free

[–] Fiivemacs@lemmy.ca 24 points 1 year ago

Gotta pay 399 for the glass though.

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[–] Rolando@lemmy.world 47 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Here's the alternative:

  • Justice of the Peace ceremony: $43 (including license, supply your own witnesses)
  • session at photography studio: $13-$500 (including prints and downloads)
  • BYOB party at your place that evening: $0

Basically, finding out your partner wants a big wedding is a huge go/no-go moment. Save the money for when you really need it.

[–] criticon@lemmy.ca 29 points 1 year ago

My wife and I were planning our wedding a year from then when I got a job offer to the US and we had to get married in a hurry to avoid some issues with the visas.

Best decision ever, we had a small party at my SIL patio, my parents got us tacos catering, a friend of my wife who has won some iPod battles was or "DJ" and we got some cheap wines at costco and told people to BYOB

We only had to rent some chairs and tables but it wasn't very expensive

We were planning to celebrate our 1st anniversary doing a "wedding" party but we decided to use the money to travel 3 weeks to Japan instead

[–] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 year ago (3 children)

As my sister in law said, even for expensive weddings, if you do things properly you'll end up making profit from the gifts you receive.

And yes, that's fucking disgusting.

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[–] LilPappyWigwam@lemm.ee 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeehaw! A thirteen dollar photoshoot!

[–] Rolando@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Photoshoot's free. The $13 is for the print you get.

You mock, but my grandparents only have a couple photos of the day they were married. But they did stick together all their lives, and they did raise their kids as best they could within their means.

[–] BastingChemina@slrpnk.net 11 points 1 year ago

There was a study a few years ago that showed that people who spend less on wedding have a lower chance of divorce.

On the other hand not going for a honeymoon increase divorce rate.

So better save money on the wedding and spend it on a honeymoon.

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[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My mama's got a tiny little diamond in her engagement ring. Dad offered to get her a bigger one, but she said no, let's save that money for something more important. I believe that money got put toward a renovation of the house.

Give me a girl like mama, whose got a tiny diamond and a solid home.

[–] SnipingNinja@slrpnk.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Get an "artificial diamond", much cheaper but basically the same thing

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[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 34 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If you think getting married is expensive, try getting divorced.

[–] Nobsi@feddit.de 41 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Divorce water was free what are you talking about?

[–] chiliedogg@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Until you realized the labor to bring it to the conference room is billed at $800/hr with minimum 15-minute increments.

[–] Nobsi@feddit.de 10 points 1 year ago
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[–] TheBat@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago

Those were tears, dude.

[–] Treczoks@lemm.ee 32 points 1 year ago

Never, ever, book a location for a "Wedding". Always book it for a "Family Event".

[–] kyle@lemm.ee 26 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Getting married in about 6 weeks. Compared to my first one 10 years ago, it's nuts. One metric I read said that wedding costs were up 40% post COVID. My first wedding was maybe $5,000 and that was super strict budget. This one is closer to $25k.

My fiancée was quoted between $300-650 for makeup only. Seriously?? DJ is minimum $900 for 5 hours of work, I got a lot of quotes in the $1300 range, or $2200 for better lighting ($440/hour??) Look I know you had to buy your own equipment but holy hell.

[–] Rodeo@lemmy.ca 23 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Thanks for reaffirming my desire to never get married

[–] RightHandOfIkaros@lemmy.world 24 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Its your wedding, you dont have to spend money on things you don't want. Courthouse weddings happen often and are very low cost.

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[–] Eheran@lemmy.world 20 points 1 year ago

You can get, there is no need to throw tens of 1'000s of dollar at it.

[–] dudewitbow@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

There are a lot of people who just have weddings with only the closest parts of their friend/family circle rather than making it auper extravagant.

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[–] thySatannic@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago

Having a wedding at the local all-you-can-eat sounds very enticing.

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[–] ChexMax@lemmy.world 25 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I purchased a catering dinner package (which came with tea, coffee, and lemonade) and full open bar - apparently neither of these included water. That was an additional $200.00.

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[–] HerrVorragend@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] tdawg@lemmy.world 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If you end up doing a big wedding I would recommend telling as many of the vendors and suppliers that it's for a birthday party instead. It'll still be expensive but should be more manageable

[–] flubba86@lemmy.world 31 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"Yes, I'd like the traditional tiered birthday cake with the bride and groom on top. Thanks."

"How much are your birthday rose petal cannons?"

[–] InputZero@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You would be surprised. Family friends of ours are Greek and rich, and they do not do anything small. I hate to perpetuate stereotypes but if you've seen My Big Fat Greek Wedding, it's like that with them but for everything. Birthdays, the christian holidays, just a summer BBQ, all huge. The bride and groom on top yeah that'll tip the baker off but that's not hard to quickly put on yourself.

[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

As a Greek myself, I can confirm that My Big Fat Greek Wedding was basically a documentary.

[–] Squirrel@thelemmy.club 20 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

People tend to demand perfection when it comes to weddings. I'm pretty sure that's why it's more expensive. In general, prices rise alongside expectations.

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 14 points 1 year ago

With how much self-centered egotistical annoyances wedding planners and other suppliers have to deal with sometimes, I might actually be inclined to understand that pricing

[–] Socsa@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 year ago

Exactly. It's the bridezilla tax

[–] HiddenLayer5@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You see this in aviation and heavy rail transport as well for a similar reason. The critical items like the engines, control systems and emergency equipment being expensive is obvious, they've been heavily tested and made super resilient with very strict certification criteria, but it even extends down to things that has pretty much zero impact on safety. That flimsy seat back table that can barely hold your laptop and that hard as a rock cushion cost the airline far more than you can imagine, costs which are inevetably passed onto you.

[–] HawlSera@lemm.ee 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I believe there is a Ferangi rule of acquisition for this

I think, it goes something like, Peace us good for business, and war is also good for business.

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

those are two separate but adjacent rules :)

[–] dellish@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

34 & 35 I seem to recall.

[–] newIdentity@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

You guys pay that much for bottled water?

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] newIdentity@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You guys pay 0.99 for a water at weddings?

[–] Sylver@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Not as a guest, but the organizer or whomever is paying for the wedding will have to pay for the water bottles

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago

Also water (in a movie theater)

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 13 points 1 year ago

I thought it was Airport Pricing, but I guess Wedding checks out too

[–] Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee 8 points 1 year ago

~~water~~ plastic

[–] habanhero@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

+ table service fee

[–] UltraMagnus0001@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

or for people that live in the town where they steal the water from to resell to them.

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