Ouch that stings

I don't know what culture you live in, but I think your description of what's embraced by modern culture is at odds with what we see on TV, on Netflix, on YouTube, in magazines, in books, talked about by people everyday.

What is it specifically that you wish you could find that's not available, that you feel ought to be appropriate but isn't, somehow? I'm struggling to figure this one out.

If you don't want people spreading your images, wanking to your images, making crude comment about your images, oogling your images, etc etc. And I don't mean just nudes, I mean any picture you post...

Then don't post them online.

because once they hit the internet, in any capacity, you've lost all control of them, forever. They will still be there to be discovered when you are lying in a nursing home at 104 years old, Your descendants so far removed that they dont even know your name will still be at risk of stumbling upon them. People on the other side of the planet might use it in advertising or virtual sex dolls without you ever knowing.

You might not like it, you might not want it, you might not consent to it, but its still going to happen.

And if you want it to not happen, don't post things online. Because not posting is the only control you'll ever be able to exert over them.

If you show your tits to the internet on an open platform anyone can leave comments on, you automatically consent to people looking at your tits and commenting on them.

Until that platform specifically restricts the types of comments you don't like, all you can do is suck it up, buttercup.

Maybe that extremist view of consent is a disease.

Edit: it’s both extremely telling and extremely concerning how much my rational take on consent is triggering all these pathetic men.

Your initial comment was rational, it was well-thought out and you made a fair point while ending the comment on a positive note. Left alone, I would have upvoted your well-considered opinion and moved on.

However, your follow up responses and your edit were unprovoked ad hominem sexist attacks where you assume everyone who disagrees is a mansplaining penis-wielder whose words have less value than your own. While having your views challenged can be confronting, responding in the manner you are only detracts from your argument.

Put something on a public platform = accept that people will look at it. Allow for people to comment on it and you invite these comments. If someone wants to post pictures and not get comments on them, they can post them to a platform that doesn't allow comments.

You're treating the symptoms as the causes dude. If we had more open discussion about these things I don't think such issues would be as commonplace.

If people understood more of what victims of rape go through, they're much less likely to view consent as a hazy line.

I go to many places where sexuality is celebrated rather than shamed and because of that it's much less of a big deal. At one music festival I went to there were coed communal showers. I was kind of nervous but I headed down. Got in there and everybody was laughing and singing, sudsing each other up with soap, etc. This wasn't because it was some kind of huge orgy, but rather that everybody was comfortable with the nudity and we were having fun together in a totally non sexual way, in my opinion only made possible by the openness everybody had about sexuality there.

We are sexual creatures (except ace people), ain't no two ways about it. Keeping sex taboo does nothing to prevent the problems you're describing. It's like the Islamic extremists who think the only way to protect women is by taking away their rights, making their beauty a taboo, etc. And still, these places have their own problems with rape anyway, so clearly that doesn't work.