When somebody won't just take the compliment. It's like come on, just take the W.
But also I feel strange getting praise in a real time conversation.
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To counteract this, I usually accept it right away and move on. But then I feel weird. Like, should I compliment back? It now feels weird that the compliment was over so fast. I don't think there's a good way to accept a compliment.
I think it all depends on the sincerity and scale of the compliment. If someone just offhandedly says that your shoes are cool, it's ok to just say thanks and move on. But if someone makes a specific compliment on something close to you, like pointing out a part of your project they like, it might be more appropriate to talk about choices you made, how it was done etc.
Oh man, that's a good one. Agreed its strange and sometimes awkward excepting praise.
"I'm sorry, I can't accept that. Well, except maybe this once."
What if we don't agree with the compliment?
I vocal stim when I'm alone. I'm terrified of the day that I do it when someone is around.
What does this mean?
I think Make loud noises just for fun.
I do it at home as well.
Meh, let people judge. Sucks they don't feel comfortable enough in their own meat skin to do the same.
My wife converses with herself when nobody is around. What the fuck ever, it helps her process things, it is fine.
More people do it than you might think! I sit in an office of 8, there's always someone either quietly beatboxing to themselves, doing minute long "uhhhrrmm"s or muttering movie quotes. There's an understanding that anyone who feels bothered by the stimming can put on their noise cancelling headphones lol
Tell you what: I'll make the noises and wear the headphones, lol
Snoring.
Leaving shoes or anything laying around the apartment, making an annoying obstacle course.
Not putting YouTube on full screen
Saying “ya know” as a crutch
Does it count if my pet peeve is that I inadvertantly wound up having to do myself?
HAHA that is great! I would say of course. I can't count how many times this happened to me and how annoying it is. I think that's why I don't trust people to do anything for me now.