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I keep hearing about how you shouldn't laugh over your own jokes but when I watch a video or listen to a podcast, I find it much more authentic and likable when they laugh over their own jokes in a conversation. You know, vibes.

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[–] M137@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

You're telling the joke because you find it funny, it's so fucking weird that people seem to not understand that.

[–] Hikermick@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago

"You're really cracking yourself up aren't you?"

[–] Iapar@feddit.org 5 points 8 hours ago

I am indifferent to it because i think it is just logical that people laugh about their own jokes. They have a thought that makes them laugh so they want to share it.

Why should I share a joke that doesn't make me laught?

[–] dumbass@leminal.space 68 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

People who say you shouldn't laugh at your own jokes are either sad, sad people or have never told a funny joke or story ever.

There's jokes and stories I've been saying for 20 years that still make me laugh as I'm saying it.

Be a man, laugh at your own jokes.

[–] Wrufieotnak@feddit.org 5 points 6 hours ago

Followed your advice, now my husband complains I'm not the woman he married anymore.

[–] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 3 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

Laughing sounds like one of them "emotions" that aren't sposed to exist for real manly men, so says the teevee

/- Cleetus

[–] AbouBenAdhem@lemmy.world 14 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

It depends on the joke: most are funny regardless, but for some jokes a straight/deadpan delivery is part of the humor.

I used to have a college professor who would always laugh at his own jokes. Always. His class only laughed maybe half the time. I didn't mind much because he was a cool guy in general.

[–] whydudothatdrcrane@lemmy.ml 7 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

OK with laughing over your own joke, but if you burst out and are not even able to finish uttering it, then I think this is a bit childish.

[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 15 hours ago

Oh, laugh if you feel like laughing!

Life is too short to worry about what should be done in which vibe.

[–] qyron@sopuli.xyz 19 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

If someone is about to tell me a joke and start laughing mid first sentence it's a sign that is either going to be very good or so bad it will become good.

Let them laugh!

[–] TheRaven@lemmy.ca 7 points 11 hours ago

This right here is the best answer in my opinion. Regardless of the story, the teller is just so into it that they can’t stop laughing. You’re probably going to end up laughing with them.

[–] ReanuKeeves@lemm.ee 27 points 16 hours ago

As long as they're not obnoxiously loud and saying something that's actually funny, I think it's completely normal. People usually say funny things that they find funny so it would be natural for them to laugh a little.

[–] TheDoctor@hexbear.net 9 points 13 hours ago

I think this is more of a truism within standup comedy that’s leaked out into being general advice. It can be offputting for a standup comedian to laugh at all their own jokes but even then there’s exceptions to the rule.

[–] happybadger@hexbear.net 6 points 13 hours ago

Laughing is bourgeois. I believe in the communal sensible chuckle.

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 6 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

I cannot not laugh over my own jokes

[–] Juliana@sopuli.xyz 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I guess it's not funny πŸ˜…

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 2 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

Or any joke at all, really

I'm constantly laughing at something and people don't like it :(

[–] Lussy@hexbear.net 11 points 15 hours ago

Truly weird how laughing over your own joke has become known as a symptom for sociopathy.

[–] andrew_bidlaw@sh.itjust.works 3 points 11 hours ago

Most times I can tell if the laughter is fake or not, and I happened to be in situations when I can't contain myself to tell the story straigh without laughing my ass off. It depends.

[–] the_post_of_tom_joad@hexbear.net 7 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I like it a lot when professional actors lose it once in awhile, it really adds a lot. I do end up disliking it when they do it too often, like it's part of their shtick. There was a dude on SNL for awhile who always cracked up and i hated him. It's gotta feel authentic to me.

[–] criitz@reddthat.com 4 points 14 hours ago

Probably Jimmy Fallon

I feel like "don't laugh at your own jokes" is a piece of ancient wisdom from the entertainment industry.

Like, if you're a performer and you're laughing so hard that you can't get the punchline out, then it prevents people from actually hearing the joke.

When you consider that performers in traditional media have a limited time slot to work in, then taking a break to laugh could be considered a waste or unprofessional.

I don't think that long-format content has the same problem. If you're making an online video or a podcast then you're not limited by time. Authenticity is more important than fitting into a five minute set

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 3 points 12 hours ago

Meh, matrix brainwashing. Be yourself.

[–] NeoToasty@kbin.melroy.org 6 points 14 hours ago

If it takes them several attempts to tell me something and they're laughing all the way through it, I assume it's going to be bad or underwhelming.

I've personally heard some of the best ones were when someone keeps themselves steadied enough to tell what a funny story is or what a joke is but then break into laughter towards the end. Just enough to finish the bit.

[–] donuts@lemmy.world 9 points 16 hours ago

I think I depends on the laugh for me. Like I don't mind a haha this is a joke kind of laugh. But a haha omg I am the funniest person alive type of laugh would be met with some ridicule.

Hard to I explain the difference in text, but hopefully you get the gist!

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 5 points 14 hours ago

If you don't laugh at your own joke, then it's probably not funny.

[–] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 2 points 11 hours ago

I laugh at my own jokes because I'm hilarious

[–] mayo_cider@hexbear.net 2 points 12 hours ago

If even I don't laugh at my own jokes, why would anyone else laugh at them? The worse the joke, the more I laugh

[–] Juliana@sopuli.xyz 1 points 10 hours ago

I don't see anything wrong laughing at your own jokes while you're cracking your audience because comedy is an expression off ur feelings 🀣

[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

My daughter is the only one laughing at her "jokes."

[–] Juliana@sopuli.xyz 0 points 10 hours ago

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

[–] it_depends_man@lemmy.world 3 points 15 hours ago

Humor is difficult.

It's tough when it's actually a bad joke or they are telling it badly, but they find it funny.

If it's a genuinely funny situation / retelling, both of you laughing about the same thing and also about how the person in question is struggling to breathe because they have to laugh so much, that's funny.

But it really really really depends.

[–] Gieselbrecht@feddit.org 2 points 15 hours ago

Whoever says to not laugh about their own jokes has never seen el Risitas. RIP.

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 2 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I hate when people laugh at my jokes, let alone someone laughs at their own. Laughter is such a horrible noise.

[–] chaosCruiser@futurology.today 3 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (1 children)

Laughter is also highly contagious, so you better watch out. There have been reports of entire office floors and classrooms succumbing to uncontrollable fits of giggles, causing productivity rates to plummet. In some cases, the laughter epidemic has spread across neighborhoods, turning typically stoic morning commutes into a cacophony of chuckles and snorts. Health authorities are advising to limit exposure to particularly humorous individuals and to steer clear of gatherings where a particularly irrisponsible individual stands on stage aiming to infect everyone in the audience with a severe case of laughter.

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 2 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

Maybe for some but I’ve never laughed due to others laughing. I can’t recall the last time I laughed recently. I tend to avoid it because it’s such an uncomfortable feeling. Like you’ve got hiccups and coughing at the same time. It’s easy to avoid though because it’s not my reaction to things others laugh at.

[–] chaosCruiser@futurology.today 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Sounds truly exceptional. Other people don’t consider it uncomfortable at all.

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)
[–] chaosCruiser@futurology.today 2 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Have you considered making an AMA? There are so many questions already brewing.

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 2 points 5 hours ago

Why? I don’t think there would be much interest or much to say

[–] Eheran@lemmy.world 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

The first time I thought you were joking, now I am not sure anymore if you could be a really sad person instead.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 0 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

Even if he is, don't judge people before you walk in their shoes.

Why would you intentionally post a hurtful comment to someone like this, and specially if it's a sad person?

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

Because it’s difficult for others to imagine that people are not 100% like them. Difference is considered a threat and most people’s base instinct is to respond with something that can hurt the other person because the other persons existence is a challenge to their worldview.

[–] Eheran@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

A threat? How would that be? Not to mention that essentially nobody is like me, so others being different is the absolute norm, the opposite of hard to imagine.

I say that could be sad because not laughing is like nit eating tasty stuff. Not feeling nice things. A whole dimension of positive stuff simply missing. But specifically about the topic of feeling and lack of laughing is, more or less, sadness.

Let alone that you are actively against laughing of others, and that absolutely is sad to me.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 1 points 9 hours ago

I don't know if it's most people, do you think so? From my own life, there has been almost only nice people in real life. Social media though is very different and people act like it's not a person on the other side of this screen.