this post was submitted on 05 Jul 2024
667 points (100.0% liked)

196

16489 readers
3953 users here now

Be sure to follow the rule before you head out.

Rule: You must post before you leave.

^other^ ^rules^

founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
 
top 36 comments
sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[–] magic_smoke@links.hackliberty.org 191 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Not a lawyer, just a dumbfuck, but also not so sure about this interpretation.

Its only illegal if you take it off then proceed to fuck the keyholder without consent.

Otherwise its like taking the condom off and walking out of the room, which I have to imagine is legal.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 151 points 4 months ago (3 children)

taking the condom off and walking out of the room

ah yes, like the one time I ragequit sex

[–] magic_smoke@links.hackliberty.org 41 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Oh yeah no I'm not saying that's normal fucking behavior (heh), its just not criminal lol.

[–] bizarroland@fedia.io 37 points 4 months ago

Got tired of losing in the first 30 seconds?

[–] Holzkohlen@feddit.de 34 points 4 months ago

Was it a ranked match? I hear you can get banned for this quite easily.

[–] Darkassassin07@lemmy.ca 102 points 4 months ago (1 children)

its like taking the condom off and walking out of the room, which I have to imagine is legal.

Lmao. Beleive it or not; straight to jail.

[–] idiomaddict@feddit.de 8 points 4 months ago

We take the concept of consent to some very strange places

[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 69 points 4 months ago (2 children)

This is not uncommon, that laws are written not considering all nuances, so a generally innocent thing is made illegal.

The primary protection for this is prosecutorial discretion which is to say the DA can choose not to take such cases. Also the police have to be willing to enforce and book instances (they're usually happy to) and gubernatorial positions like the mayor or governor can command law enforcement not to enforce a specific law (which sometimes they'll obey).

This often comes up in undocumented immigrant cases in which there are communities with a lot of overstayed visas, or while cannibis was in a grey zone of being locally accepted while nationally scheduled.

It's also why tweens weren't gathered up for making a Facebook account while under thirteen years, even though that violated the CFAA, a federal crime punishable by up to 25 years. We don't really want to put little girls in federal prison.

This is a problem when some official would like you to disappear into the penal system, say because he covets your land or your livestock or your spouse. Then your chastity cage may become a liability.

[–] Mnemnosyne@sh.itjust.works 24 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Prosecutorial discretion is a big problem really. It's what allows laws to be applied unequally, why black people are prosecuted way more than white people, and, as you mention, provides justification to jail anyone at any time because you ARE violating some law every day, almost certainly.

If prosecutorial discretion did not exist, if agents of the law were required to prosecute all crimes to the fullest extent of the law, it would require the entire legal system to be restructured in a more precise way, and would have far less room for racial, sexual, and class discrimination as well as far less capacity to be weaponized against enemies of those in power.

[–] RubberElectrons@lemmy.world 12 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Well that'd require (among other things) a simplified set of laws, clear structure, with the goal of adhering to the spirit, not the letter of the law. The result can be expected to be faster trials, reduced lawyer workloads, and all the reduction in costs that come with that.

Pssh, who wants that?

[–] Mnemnosyne@sh.itjust.works 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I'd go the other way, adhering very strictly to the letter of the law without the tiniest bit of wiggle room or interpretation of anything as nebulous as the 'spirit' of the law.

Trouble being that natural languages that people use to converse are ill suited for that level of precision and detail. I've thought that perhaps a constructed language, something between a language and programming code may be a better way to write laws.

[–] RubberElectrons@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago

Output still would have to be interpreted by us, if I'm understanding you correctly. Laws become innumerable, which is already a problem; how many paralegals do professional lawyers actually need at this point?

Alabama has a law on the books banning dominoes on Sundays. Every state and even the federal govt has laws in place which can be abused, even if only until a judge prevails. "One can beat the rap, but not the ride"... How about beating the ride, too?

[–] Eiim@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 months ago

"required to prosecute all crimes to the fullest extent of the law", taken literally, requires prosecutors to prosecute everyone for every crime all the time. After all, you don't know what might turn up in discovery, anything could potentially have happened! Obviously, there has to be some judgement call made, where there's just not enough evidence to prosecute me for drunk driving even though I stopped an inch past the stop sign. Ultimately, that's just prosecutorial discretion again, and while it could be reformed and limited somewhat, it will always exist and be abused.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 12 points 4 months ago (2 children)

The sort of thing well-educated white liberals believe because they learned it in university, and never found themselves on the wrong side of the law.

[–] koper@feddit.nl 14 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Did you read the entire comment?

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 months ago

Yes? I'm not arguing with them.

[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

That prosecutorial discretion is a good idea. I'm not implying that you do.

[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 months ago

Oh yeah. It's horrible, and puts way too much power in the hands of DAs and AGs. Also it lets our legislators create lazy law on the assumption the right people will be spared, and the wrong people (e.g. poor and minorities) will become prison fodder.

I'd rather we had iron-clad difficult to re-interpret laws for which enforcement was obligatory. Then every miscarriage of justice (e.g. tweens in juvie for violating social media TOS) would be a call to fix the problem with aggressive legislative revision.

Notes for the next iteration of the United States, I suppose.

[–] HawlSera@lemm.ee 59 points 4 months ago

My boyfriend and I are moving to Washington... no reason...

[–] lessthanluigi@lemmy.world 55 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

Oh fuck, I read about this in The Stranger (local independent Seattle newspaper) a while ago. It talked about stealthing and how it is a big problem. Overall a good bill IMO.

[–] Pretzilla@lemmy.world 23 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] lessthanluigi@lemmy.world 9 points 4 months ago

Thank you, I have changed it

[–] Lemming6969@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Can't prove shit. After the fact there is no way to discern between consent revoked after approval and any other scenario.

[–] todd_bonzalez@lemm.ee 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, is it really sexual assault if you can do a plausible deniability? Good point! /s

[–] Lemming6969@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

The unfortunate truth is no, at least not legally, and regret with consent is not assault.

[–] todd_bonzalez@lemm.ee 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Let me get this straight:

If a man removes a condom mid-sex, against his partner's wishes, and continues to have sex with her until his finishes inside her, you believe the issue here is her "regret" for having sex with a man that would violate her sexual boundaries, and not the fact that a man forced a woman to have sex with him in a way she did not consent to, that could have extraordinary negative consequences for her?

Fuck off with that sexist victim-blaming bullshit. Consent is fundamental to sex. Sex without consent is rape.

And don't argue that consent was withdrawn after-the-fact. Consent was granted on the condition that a condom be worn. The moment you insert your bare cock into her, you're fucking raping her.

I'm sorry I have to spell this out for you so graphically, but someone needs to explain consent to you since your parents never evidently never did.

[–] Lemming6969@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago (1 children)

No, my issue is that adult literacy is like 20%. Once you consent, condom on, you are now in a situation where whatever happens next is virtually impossible to prove, and proof is required to convict. All cases of withdrawn consent leading to an illegal act for any reason have a very high probability of being unable to be prosecuted due to being indistinguishable from a withdrawn consent compliance scenario or a full consent regret scenario, both are legal. The mere fact that initial consent put you into a sexual position means that either party can claim that consent was given at the time which is how you ended up in that situation to begin with... It becomes he said she said, which is a loss.

[–] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 4 months ago

Yeah. It's a big, painful, complicated, disgusting problem, where law enforcement is a jackhammer, and the crime is a malfunctioning pocketwatch.

In my opinion, in order to make the situation equally unfair and dangerous for everybody, the law should be unfair and straight up just be biased in favour of the party in most statistical danger and least control (the penetrated party).

But that's the "best we can do, given an impossible situation" kind of solution, because the real solution is to deal with society's problems that cause the situation. Preventative rather than reparative treatment. Giving people what they need to be well, rather than depriving and punishing them as much as possible to keep them obedient.

And that goes against what our society is built around 🙃

[–] wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 31 points 4 months ago (1 children)

evil grins still sure you want to be in 'permanent' chastity?~ >;3

[–] Korne127@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] Korne127@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

you're right.. heh >.<

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 26 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I'm reminded of the time I was young as hell playing Quake online and said "cocked, locked and ready to rock" and someone replied "Cocks shouldn't be locked up! Cocks should be free!"

[–] SuddenDownpour@sh.itjust.works 11 points 4 months ago

Doms stay winning 😎

[–] psychonova@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

washington, here come the transes >:)

(edit: accidental formatting)