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[โ€“] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 15 points 6 months ago

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Is owning a home an activity?

[โ€“] AFaithfulNihilist@lemmy.world 10 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] registeredusername@lemmy.world 5 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Sucks to be you, I own a home made from recycled cardboard with a nice concrete roof (they call a bridge) ;)

On a serious note yeh renter too can't afford one doesn't matter what I earn unless I want to go paycheck to paycheck

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[โ€“] FoxyFerengi@lemm.ee 7 points 6 months ago (2 children)

I'd love to go to a sober bar. Sure, I can get non alcoholic cocktails at my local, but it'd be nice to have the atmosphere and know everyone else is sober too

[โ€“] Hikermick@lemmy.world 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] HiddenLychee@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago

If you've ever had a man hopped up on way too much espresso try to hit on you at a coffee shop, you'd know coffee makes people kind of drunk as well lmao

[โ€“] HeavyRaptor@lemmy.zip 3 points 6 months ago (4 children)

You're just kidding, right? Is that a real thing? (I looked it up, apparently it is real)

May I ask, why do you want a bar without alcohol? Are you not allowed to or not drinking by choice?

[โ€“] Zagorath@aussie.zone 12 points 6 months ago

Sounds kinda like atheist churches. Something that looks nonsensical on its face, but actually makes sense when you think about it.

One of the really beneficial things about religion is the sense of community and the ritual of going to church every week, singing some songs, etc. It's a great place for religious people to meet people, make friends, and establish a good social life that can even extend outside of the church itself. So why not do all those things, but without the magic sky fairy?

[โ€“] Fondots@lemmy.world 7 points 6 months ago

In general many people consider it to be kind of rude to ask people why someone isn't drinking/doesn't want to drink. A lot of the reasons may be things they don't want to share details about, past alcohol abuse, family history, traumatic experiences, health issues, etc. Even if it's something pretty benign like they just don't enjoy the taste it can get old just having to answer the same questions again and again because a lot of people really want to push the issue for one reason or another.

Personally, I do enjoy drinking, and don't have anything against bars in general, but I can see the appeal of sober bars. Some people are just in search of a "third place" somewhere that's not work or home that they can just go to hang out, talk to people, etc. and for a lot of people bars fill that role, but if they're not drinking for any reason, bars may not be very attractive option for them. Also a lot of people when drunk can get loud, annoying, or just otherwise unpleasant to be around, not that sober people can't also be jerks, but people in general are probably going to be dialed back a bit more when they're all sober than when they're drinking. And if your goal is to try to meet more people, you might have a chance of having more authentic interactions with the people you're trying to meet, some people's personalities can really change when they've been drinking, you might hit it off with people you wouldn't have if one or both of you were drunk.

[โ€“] LifeOfChance@lemmy.world 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I'm not the person you asked but I've heard of people wanting this and I would be willing as well. A non alcoholic bar would allow for less chaos in a welcoming environment. Bars are loud to force you to drink more. That incentive is gone when you take the alcohol away. Some nice light music as you converse with friends sounds great to me.

[โ€“] I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

Wine bars are typically geared toward the light music to converse with friends angle, and if you don't need it to be alcohol free, are much easier to find than sober bars.

To go hang out with people in a cool setting while having alcohol-like drinks without the problems. Like going to a Kava bar or something, or tea bar. Bunch of places out there with themed drinks to hang out. Sometimes you like the taste of cocktails but don't want to get drunk.

[โ€“] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 6 points 6 months ago

Walking from my house to the store

[โ€“] shadowSprite@lemmy.world 6 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Medieval combat. I'd love to learn how to sword fight, like genuinely sword fight.

[โ€“] crushyerbones@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago

Look into Hema. I'm sure there's a club local-ish to you and if not just start one.

[โ€“] HelixDab2@lemm.ee 2 points 6 months ago

Totally doable. Many large cities in the US have places that teach European sword. There are two primary manuals of arms, Meyer (German) and Liberi (Italian). Different schools will tend to teach either German or Italian fencing. Longsword duels--assuming you weren't armored--likely would have been over in a matter of seconds for the most part.

[โ€“] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 5 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Honestly I've often thought it would be fun to hire a sex worker, but it's seemingly impossible to ensure safety from any diseases, from getting mugged, and also to ensure nobody is being exploited or coerced. I really wish it was legal and regulated (and ideally unionized) in my area. It would be cool to be able to access a service like that as easily as I can book a haircut.

[โ€“] PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee 4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

tryst d link will usually have trustworthy SWers to contact if you're really interested

Usually the ones that come off as spiritually into the whole thing will be your best bet for a first encounter

Also, don't trust anyone who isn't asking for vetting, seems backwards but sting ops will usually skip that part while legit SWers will often demand it to make sure they're not exposing themselves to a sting on your end.

[โ€“] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Also, don't trust anyone who isn't asking for vetting, seems backwards but sting ops will usually skip that part while legit SWers will often demand it to make sure they're not exposing themselves to a sting on your end.

Where I am, SWers are decriminalized, but buying their services isn't. So they don't need to be afraid of stings. Not sure if that affects what you're saying.

Anyway this is all hypothetical since I have a gf right now, but I've spent most of my adult life single and lonely and would have loved to be able to access SW services safely and legitimately during those times.

[โ€“] Mercury@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (3 children)

I might be stupid, but can someone explain why sex workers are decriminalized while buying their services isn't? I don't get the logic behind only punishing one party involved in the transaction. Note that I'm not against sex workers at all; I'm just confused about the logic.

[โ€“] Zagorath@aussie.zone 9 points 6 months ago

Because sex work being criminalised can prevent sex workers from feeling safe going to the police if they get assaulted in their like of work, and can also prevent trafficked people from coming forward.

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[โ€“] HelixDab2@lemm.ee 5 points 6 months ago

Hunting.

I'm interested exclusively in hunting for food. There is very little state-owned land in my area (I think my state has the least amount of state own land in the country), and they have very, very brief windows for hunting. I'm primarily interested in hunting feral pigs, which are invasive. But despite them being invasive, hunting regulations are written in such a way that you can only practically hunt feral pigs on state-owned land during the same time that you would hunt deer, which is limited to a few days each year. (Technically I could hunt them during turkey season with a shotgun, and small game season with a rimfire, but neither of those are practical. I would need to hunt them on private property, because there's no bag limit, no closed season, and no caliber limits on private land. Aside from that--which is already a challenge--I would likely need to get thermal imaging equipment, because feral pigs have gone from being diurnal to largely nocturnal, due to human predation. Oh, and you can't hunt public land at night. So...

I hope that I can go on a pig safari later this year.

[โ€“] OhmsLawn@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago (3 children)

At this point in my life, other than opportunity costs, there's nothing stopping me from doing anything reasonable. The issue is time and will.

I'd love to be able to see the stars better. I live in a very bright, and often overcast area. I have a nice little telescope, but I've only taken it out a couple of times. I've been meaning to catch up with the local astro club, but, you know, time and will.

[โ€“] Xaphanos@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago

I am in the local club and have two over-the-top scopes and still can't pull it together.

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[โ€“] Weirdfish@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago

We have a lot of great skateparks, but I've always wanted to try a pump track.

Only ones I can find in the midwest are dirt for BMX.

[โ€“] damnthefilibuster@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Get a doctors appointment on the same day.

[โ€“] PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee 3 points 6 months ago

That'll be a hard one even in ideal circumstances, I literally live in a city where half the residents are doctors that commute into the larger city nearby for work part time and yet appointments are still only available a month out.

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[โ€“] M500@lemmy.ml 4 points 6 months ago (4 children)

Dungeons and dragons. I live in a foreign country and am still learning the language. Iโ€™m years away from being able to play.

[โ€“] OhmsLawn@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

It would be hilarious if you learned D&D vocabulary first.

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[โ€“] solrize@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] Interstellar_1@pawb.social 1 points 6 months ago

Yeah lol that would be neat. I don't know if you could move

[โ€“] savvywolf@pawb.social 3 points 6 months ago

Regularly hang out with the friends I've made online who live in different countries.

We met up about a month ago, but would be nice to magically be able to meet up once a week or so.

[โ€“] PhireFloofski@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

traditional archery.

[โ€“] kamills@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I want to make a tunnel boring machine for digging ~2 meter tall tunnels in sandstone. Sadly I live in a place with only sand in the underground and that's not suitable for digging tunnels DIY style

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[โ€“] Witchfire@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

I miss swimming in a mermaid tail :( NYC

[โ€“] Cringe2793@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

I'd like to pick up woodworking. Unfortunately, the houses we generally live in are way too small (and expensive) to do that. There are no garages, unless you're super rich. There also aren't a lot of shops selling lumber we can just easily buy.

[โ€“] pendulum_@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] HelixDab2@lemm.ee 4 points 6 months ago

It's fun. If you live in the US, extremely doable. If not, well, sorry my dude.

If you are in the US, and want things that are fast-paced, I'd suggest looking up IDPA, USPSA, and PSCL. If you want more long range, the PRS. You can also look into 3-gun, Cowboy Action Shooting (although stage design is pretty boring now), and on, and on, and on. Be warned: it gets expensive very fast. Guns seem expensive at the start, but you will very quickly spend more on ammunition than you did on that CZ Shadow 2 and Trijicon SRO red dot. Oh, you think reloading will be cheaper? Nope, you'll just shoot more.

[โ€“] Atin@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

A track day in a performance/racing car.

[โ€“] Tugboater203@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

Surfing. We have water nearby but insufficient waves.

[โ€“] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago

I want to experience zero-G sometime.

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