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I want to know what Japan is like from people who actually live in Japan especially after seeing some misleading posts online from people who don't live in Japan & people misunderstanding something resulting in people being misleadingly negative about Japan

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[–] th3dogcow@lemmy.world 93 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I’m a permanent resident of Japan and am raising a family here. I think you would get better responses if you posed more specific questions, or provided examples of what kind of misunderstandings people have experienced and posted about online.

I find Japan a pleasant place to live, but it is far from perfect, just like any society. The cost of living is quite reasonable compared to many other countries, which makes the lower salaries go further.

People are generally friendly, but you sometimes have to read between the lines, as people tend to be less direct so as to avoid confrontation (“It is a little difficult” is a polite way to say “No!” for example).

Anyway, if you have any other questions I’ll be around.

[–] tiredofsametab@kbin.social 16 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, 建前 and 本音 are definitely a thing to get used to, heh. I agree, specific questions are definitely helpful to answer

[–] AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 8 points 7 months ago (1 children)

What is the first word? Google translated it to the pronunciation, but said the second word means "true feelings"

[–] th3dogcow@lemmy.world 18 points 7 months ago (1 children)

tatemae is the romanisation. It is your public attitude, which may be different to your real attitude (hon’ne).

[–] AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

Thanks! That makes sense, and is what I guessed, but I wanted to confirm

[–] THEDAEMON@lemmy.today 53 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (4 children)
[–] AngryishHumanoid@reddthat.com 23 points 7 months ago

Bullshit I'm reading your subtitles right now.

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 7 points 7 months ago

That's good. Wouldn't want the subtitles to be be against a non-contrasting background so I think you're telling me to eat shit when in fact you're merely offering me some shitake mushrooms.

[–] Sabata11792@kbin.social 5 points 7 months ago

I have a lot of plans that need reworked.

[–] Diplomjodler@feddit.de 4 points 7 months ago

Who do you think you're kidding! Next thing you're going to tell me not everybody there likes sniffing schoolgirls' underwear! Preposterous!

[–] gmtom@lemmy.world 34 points 7 months ago (2 children)

レミーは英語圏のサイトを圧倒しているし、日本人の大半は英語ができないから、このサイトを利用しない。だから、実際の日本人からの回答は得られない。

[–] CosmicTurtle@lemmy.world 30 points 7 months ago (3 children)

[Lemmy] dominates English-speaking sites, and most Japanese people don't use this site because they can't speak English. Therefore, we cannot get answers from actual Japanese people.

translation by Google

[–] nexussapphire@lemm.ee 3 points 7 months ago

How I feel browsing mastodon and it's not anywhere near as bad as the inverse for other countries.

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[–] x4740N@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

I only understood a some words in that scentence because I haven't yet learned enough Japanese to read that fully

I haven't learned that big of a wordset yet as I'm primarily focusing on learning grammer at the moment before continuing to learn vocabulary

[–] WoahWoah@lemmy.world 30 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Many parts of Japan are stunningly beatiful. The largest cities are some of the most overwhelming places I've ever been, but everything works much better than you might expect.

The people are generally respectful and kind if you are the same. I found people to be generally tolerant of unintended rudeness from a foreigner, especially if you apologize. Jokes and humility go a long way.

There's a TON of Japanese people there. Like, they're freaking EVERYWHERE.

[–] murvillian@lemmy.world 12 points 7 months ago (1 children)

To this point, the Tokyo skytree may be the most entertaining place I've ever been. You can see so much life happening all around, you can see how far Tokyo sprawls, you can see how large the breadth of humanity can be. If you intensely focus on one small spot of the city, you see a myopic little section, but then you raise up, and see the entirety of "Civilization". It's super impressive. I expected that it would be fun to see, and maybe spend 20 minutes up there looking around. I spent almost 3 hours just examining life.

I'm sure places like this exist elsewhere, Tokyo seems like the perfect place for it though.

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[–] droning_in_my_ears@lemmy.world 11 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

There's a Japanese YouTuber my japanese learning friend would watch called "that Japanese man Yuta" who goes into this

[–] x4740N@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (8 children)

I know about yuta because I am learning Japanese but I don't think I have seen their other videos outside of learning Japanese

Right now I'm slowly working my way through grammer at a pace that works for me

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[–] schmurian@lsmu.schmurian.xyz 8 points 7 months ago (10 children)

I'm not japanese but I want to travel there. We've discovered Takeshii from Japan on YouTube a while ago and I think he is doing a good job in capturing some opinions around different aspects of living in Japan. I'd say it's worth checking.

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[–] tiredofsametab@kbin.social 7 points 7 months ago (4 children)

I've even living in Japan for almost a decade (probably closer if you count times I visited for months before living here). If you have specific questions, I'm happy to answer them.

[–] Onii-Chan@kbin.social 12 points 7 months ago (3 children)

Are everyone's dicks really pixelated?

[–] tiredofsametab@kbin.social 18 points 7 months ago

Having been to many a hot spring, yes (but only in my head).

Edit: seriously, though, sitting in an outdoor bath in the mountains as snow slowly falls is one of life's great simple pleasures

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[–] z3rOR0ne@lemmy.ml 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I've heard the work culture in Japan, like many Asian countries, can be quite oppressive and sometimes even toxic when compared to its Western counterparts.

Obviously this is highly specific to the workplace in question, and the framing of this statement has inherent biases.

That said, could you offer any insights into the veracity or lack thereof to these claims?

[–] tiredofsametab@kbin.social 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I've only worked at two Japanese companies. My wife has worked at several in her life (and loves her current company and job). I've also read stories of people in bad places asking for advice. I'll answer based on that, but realize that it is not a huge sample size.

"black companies" are very much a thing and take advantage of those that either can't (or feel that they can't) find other work. Recent years have seen laws to reform the number of hours worked and against various forms of "power harassment" (you can google that for what it is, but basically managers/superiors cannot do certain things). My first company in Japan kinda waffled between a company with a ton of overtime, got quite nice, and then went back the opposite direction.

Some of it is just social pressure, which is a big thing in Japan. People don't want to rock the boat, so they will, for example, clock out but keep working, not leave before the boss, etc. Corona causing a lot of people to work from home has changed things, though, and a lot of people who have gone back to the office have a much better understanding of how much useless BS there is and how many hours of their lives they're missing out on. We'll see how it plays out in the future.

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[–] kescusay@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago (4 children)

I've often thought about taking a vacation in Japan, so I have a few genuine questions.

  • What should a visitor see or do that isn't too expensive?
  • I'm a little over 190 cm tall. Are there any popular tourist activities that my height would make more difficult?
  • My ability to communicate in Japanese would consist entirely of using Google Translate on my phone. Would language be a significant barrier to a good visit?

Thanks for making yourself available for this.

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

You might have to get used to ducking more than usual. And showers in AirBnBs might be too short to wash your shoulders and head. Hotels in the cities are fine in my experience.

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[–] tiredofsametab@kbin.social 3 points 7 months ago
  • really depends upon what you're into and where you want to go. English ability can drop pretty rapidly outside of the cities, but I got by with and handful of words and gestures when I started visiting
  • not really. Some old building are tough, but you can duck. I have a buddy who's 194cm (I think) and he's fine (born and raised in Japan)
  • not really. I did fine as mentioned it point 1 with some very basic words and I've met plenty of people who knows zero and enjoy their visits
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[–] doublejay1999@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

When’s the best time to visit mount midoriami ?

[–] tiredofsametab@kbin.social 5 points 7 months ago

Midoriyama (mount green mountain, heh). They do Sasuke once a year usually, but you'd need a translator to participate. I don't think they really have an audience open to the public (it seems they're all related to the contestants in some way), but I'm not sure about that

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