Asklemmy

I think when people say to but high quality items, they mean to spend what they’re worth. Getting the most expensive thing doesn’t really guarantee a quality item, but cheaping out makes it much more likely that you’ll end up with something lackluster. Plus, something like sleep can be fairly complicated and is connected to your habits, what you’ve eaten, or schedule, etc., so expecting a single change (pillow) to make a huge difference may not be realistic.

"Happy Wife, Happy Life"

Some women will never be happy with you because you weren't her first pick, just what she settled for.

You can't make someone happy, who is unwilling to try making themselves happy. Relationships have to be equal partnerships.

Life is so much better living alone with my dog the last 10 years.

Just to respond to your need for better sleep... For me, good sleep is far more about temperature, darkness, and a nice weight. So I use a weighted blanket, eye covers, and the expensive but awesome chilipad so I don't try to sleep in a pool of sweat.

"Never buy a new car" - the argument being they depreciate quickly, and newer used models are "just as good".
Nope, got burned twice in a row and wasted more money than if I'd bought a new one immediately.

Too many people insist they know what’s best for you simply because it worked for them.

Maybe don’t encapsulate your options to a single store or even an irl store. A good pillow is a game changer, just because Walmart or whatever had shit selection doesn’t mean a quality pillow isn’t worth it

I've never had a mind-blowingly amazing pillow, but I have had some really bad ones.

Just buying an expensive pillow won't necessarily improve your sleep. You need to try out various pillows and find the type that works best for your body and how you sleep.

I like how this turned into a pillow post.

Pillow fight?

I am a larger man with broad shoulders. I have trained myself to only sleep on my side due to breathing issues arising from my oversized uvula and the tendency for my tongue to join it at the back of my throat when on my back. Even when I’m awake, breathing on my back - much less speaking - is difficult due to my uvula in particular, as I can’t consciously control how it drapes back against my throat.

So I built my own pillow, so that my head doesn’t hang from my shoulders like an afterthought -- no normal pillow is tall enough to support my head while I am on my side. It looks kinda like a particularly narrow and deep parking curb, vaguely saddle shaped, only it’s not made out of concrete. It’s literally a tiny showroom-demo mattress on top of a very stable wooden base, with an actual pillow secured on top of it and everything wrapped up in a custom pillow case.

Looks strange AF, but it keeps my spine straight and the crinks out of my neck.

Writing notes for myself to remind me to do something. The problem is that I don't remember to look at the notes. What's happening is that people are telling me advice that worked for them. That's very nice of them to try, but when I've tried similar systems for decades and they always fail, it's time to try something new.

I bought the best bamboo pillow I could find and haven't looked back. All the pillow problems I ever had just disappeared. I hate going anywhere without it.

Quitting drinking was a bummer. But mainly because most of the people I'm drawn to are sociopathic alcoholics. I don't know if I hate the game or the player anymore :(

My wife and I have taken to naming our pillows. There's Flat Agnes, Lumpy Rutherford and The Rock, off the top of my head. I would have to consult my wife for the others.

I don't think I've ever seen a good recommend in those "What sub-$100 purchase changed your life?" threads. No, I don't need a garlic smasher or a water pick.

I had just sold a car and was flush with cash so before going to buy my new one I bought every single pillow I could find in every home goods store near me and several from online. I then spent the next month studiously comparing pillows to find the right one for me.

The final two came down to a $15 pillow and a $190 pillow.

After deciding all the other pillows got returned and then went and got my new car.

In things as subjective as a pillow high quality is rather Nebulous.

For something like a woodworking tool high quality often matters far more.

The worst life pro tip I've ever received? Listen to the experts, they have made it their job to know the best things and you can't go wrong with what they say.

Honestly I can't remember an LPT I got use out of. I think the format tends to draw inane platitudes rather than actually good life advice.

Almost every "life pro tip" I've seen has been either ridiculously common knowledge (LPT: wipe your butt after pooping!) or weirdly specific recommendations (LPT: most frozen ravioli or tortellini can be cooked in a bowl of water in the microwave (this one is literally on the front page of the subreddit right now!)) or just straight up ads.

If your sleep issues are stress-related, like mine, no pillow will do any good. The only solution is to cut the source of stress...

because you sleep for one third of a day

Today I learned: Day is 12 hours long

Edit: Come on, it's a joke. I have to wake up at 3AM. Best I can do is stare at ceiling until around 11PM.

I went to a furniture store with a friend to pass the time before she had to pick up her boyfriend up from work, and we were looking at the mattresses since she was thinking about buying a new one. The Purple mattresses were consistently disgusting feeling. They were made out of gel material and felt like those stress balls you get out of a gumball machine. I decided to test what it's like falling into the bed and as soon as my arms touched the mattress I knew it was a mistake. It felt like nails on a chalkboard. I would never be able to sleep in one of those beds unless I was wearing long sleeves, and maybe not even then. If I had a girlfriend who had one of those beds, I'd rather fuck her on the floor or just have her come to my place exclusively. They were also selling pillows from the same company, and they were heavy and the texture was even more noticeable.

Sort of related, but which pillow is best because I've been burned before like OP.

Speaking of pillows. I forget what brand I have, but I'm sure there are a bunch that make the same general thing. I was annoyed that I had to fight with every pillow I had to keep it from becoming a flat piece of cardboard. 8 years ago I bought pillows filled with shredded memory foam. They came with the stuffing separately so that I could fill my pillow up myself. It's the best pillow I've ever had, and it hasn't gone flat at all after many years.

So, shredded memory foam is the way to go.

On the pillows, I’ve never had any good luck buying pillows in the past. I tried Beckham Hotel Collection recently because it was the best seller on Amazon, and I figured why not. The king size is definitely the comfier pillow. It’s fluffy but it also gives and sinks in just the right amount. And it wasn’t even nearly the most expensive pillow I was looking at. YMMV but may be worth a shot.