If anyone can find more pixels for me i would appreciate it.
Thanks y'all.
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That's rough. That said as a trans woman (no idea what a trans-femme is) I don't see a problem with it in the context of "you guys".
I use "dude" as a general exclamation towards my own also-trans gf sometimes even. Really y'all oughta chill on the language policing. If you pass people will treat you like the gender you look like, if you don't, they won't really, no matter how much they try, and your main issue is not passing and thus money which can fix that, not other people and their language use.
Oof. Passing is an archaic concept, just use the language for people that doesn't make them feel uncomfortable.
A trans femme is someone who tries to make themselves look more 'femme' often through taking estrogen etc, it can refer to trans women as well but also refers to those who don't completely identify or at all as a woman, see nonbinary folks for example. It's kind of a catch all term.
Who said anything bout language policing? I was merely saying for myself. I think passing is a pointless binary concept and not even all cis women 'pass'. So I'm not all that interested in passing 100%, just being happy to be me.