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This is an absolutely garbage take. "Anonymous" defaults to male in everyone's mind because patriarchy is the basis of our society. Claiming everyone should just be "Anonymous" is a male supremacist and exclusionary of everything else position to take.
If you think I would read this shit after that first sentence you're a fucking idiot
You did the right thing. It's a lot of bullshit about "oh, you list your pronouns? You must be fine with corporations selling your data" and then at the end there seems to be a bit of "hexbear showed up late to the fediverse party and is ruining everything", which is, of course, pretty much directly opposite of the truth.
Hexbear existed 2 years before everything else? Fucking wild. This loser's account is literally 3 years younger than my hexbear account and 2.5 years younger than my Lemmy.ml one and he thinks we're the late ones?
The only "ruining" I'm doing here is ruining his bullshit fuckoff attempt to associate lgbt and gender with being a corporate thing, it's fucking nonsensical. Dude deserves to lose teeth.
As I've said else where in the thread, Hexbear has some high quality contributors, I'm glad y'all decided to federate.
Look bud, if you're gonna try and do transphobia to show us how trash you are, at least make it coherent.
Dude I can smell the greasy hair through my screen
Your parents failed in raising you
Eat my ass
Learn how to punctuate your fucking sentences.
whatever dumbass point you're trying to get across isn't landing because you write in borderline incoherent run-on sentences
the fediverse isn't explicitly about privacy btw, it's about taking control from corporations who want to exploit us, and giving it to the community itself via decentralization. there's absolutely no expectation to be a tinfoil hat weirdo on here, and if you want to cultivate a community that isn't just a bunch of paranoid weirdos with nothing to talk about except opsec, then yes sharing (in this case the bare fucking minimum) about your identity is actually beneficial to, y'know, discussing things
I think you replied to the wrong account, this is a completely incoherent response
Gender is an incredibly validating concept specifically for some trans people, to write it off is unhelpful.
I mean in my "very long" years of experience never seen in an anonymous ungoverned platform someone intentionally revealing any peace of personal information about themselves like in hacking platforms for example someone calling themselves "he who hacks" or "her majesty" or such where those are only simple usernames but yet reveal enough to minimize the search area and along with the comments data could trigger enough data to start and osint attack on the user and then eventually dox them..
if you're obligating everyone to acknowledge your personal data don't be nagging when companies be selling your data and making profit out of it since there are people who like Force feeding their informations onto others to be aware of, hell I won't even blame Lemmy instance owner to sell the users data by then.
I'll be talking about myself and the majority of users that immigrated to this social platform based on the idea that it's ungoverned, legally safe for all users and anonymous so when a user Calles someone bro or pal it's if not always meant as gender neutral same as in a random people calling you bro with the meaning of that he/she descending from your mom or dad, like yourself, the logic is the same and intentions were pure, plus with the culture of respecting everyone's right of privacy you'd learn to treat everyone as equal and the same, with the only difference is the mentality and ideas held by individuals not by gender as the only special treat to define a user.
Bad faith argument.
Listing your pronouns isn't force feeding anything to anyone. Observing someone's listed pronouns takes less effort than having this discussion.
Using they/them and gender neutral language is helpful as a general rule, but if someone is absolutely fucking waving a flag of their gender, its wilfully ignorant at best and intentionally malicious at worst to disregard it.
Or just quoting a P.T. Barnum as most people don't like changing quotes for whatever reason and using what is known to be a famous saying is definitely not "intentionally malicious" it's mostly the ignorant's fault for not getting the innocent joke, plus not all Lemmy mobile apps show stuff like flags and pronounces so maybe consider that as well on your side before dropping the death sentence..
Your argument was that everything should be gender neutralised. That has nothing to do with OP's very innocent usage of a quote.
When did I drop a death sentence? Deary me, I advocate for using someone's pronouns instead of applying they/them to everybody and you consider that a death sentence?
Not "should be" but sometimes everyday users would just quote and go without the extra effort of checking into everyone's profile before the already wasted effort of doing the comment then changing the quotes based to fit for everyone's gender perfectly so the easier solution is just considering everyone a catfish and just move on it's just a quote of a meme anyway for all that effort to waste