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Are antisocial habits keeping you down? (leminal.space)

submitted 4 months ago by spiderwort@leminal.space to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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People are painful to me. I find their presence painful. I've been this way since infancy. I created a suite of methods for keeping them away (methods like "passive-aggressive hostility"). These methods became deep habits. Later in life I hungered for company and couldn't figure out why I was so bad at it. I just recently realized what's up (thanks meditation). Do any of you relate?

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[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

This has kept me from reaching out to all of my old friends. They ended up hanging out amongst themselves just like old times but I figured if they wanted me there with them too they’d invite me. Since they haven’t, they’re probably fine with me not being there/dont want me there. Oh well. Still makes me sad about missed interactions but I guess it is what it is.

I used to be toxic (maybe I still am?) so this is my punishment for it.

[–] averyminya@beehaw.org 1 points 4 months ago

People are proximal! Maybe they haven't reached out because they feel the same about you -- "Man, I miss PerogiBoi! I know they're around but they haven't reached out to hang with our crew... they must need some space or have moved on".

It goes both ways!