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Which side of the bed is the left side? Is the answer based on the perspective of laying in the bed (person's head at the head end)? Is the answer based on viewing it from the foot of the bed, looking at the head of the bed? Is there an "anatomical position" or special terminology like in boating for this?

For context: My boyfriend and I can't agree on this. We change who gets which side based on the shoulder we'd predominantly sleep on and how it's feeling. This let's us get good cuddles before shoulder pain gets irritated. He comes to bed after me. A while back he asked what side I'm sleeping on. I said "left". Later that night, he comes in and almost lays directly on me because he claims "left" is the other side. Since then we have to describe which side using complicated descriptions.

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[โ€“] Mesophar@lemm.ee 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

"Complicated descriptions"? Is there a lamp on one side, or a closet door? Just use that as a frame of reference, I wouldn't call that a complicated description. Or, if you usually have the same bigs-poon, little-spoon orientation, you can describe which shoulder you're laying on. But I still think using features of the room is the simplest way. "I'm laying on the closet side."

Fair point. Complicated descriptions may have an exaggeration, but relative to simply left/right it's still mildly accurate. I'm not a sensory thinker so pulling from objects other than what I'm referencing seems like adding a few extra cognitive steps. Silly, I'm aware, but that's my brain.