Obviously I know nothing about the guy's relationship, but that's a huge red flag to me. That said, who knows, they may have a very loving, healthy and stable relationship, and this is just a jokey gripe she makes for funsies.

[–] Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 11 points 7 months ago (2 children)

We do have a loving and stable relationship. Complete with kids and a mortgage! And we still fuck like rabid apes.

[–] ricecake@sh.itjust.works 9 points 7 months ago (1 children)

fuck like rabid apes

You mean painfully, with jerky twitches, difficulty swallowing and ultimate brain death?

[–] Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 2 points 7 months ago

Not sure about literal brain death but pretty much.

[–] SturgiesYrFase@lemmy.ml 4 points 7 months ago

SICK! Super happy for you my dude! Was worried with what you'd said, but, obviously, that's a single sentence.

[–] Slovene@feddit.nl 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

It's bisad.

[–] Patches@sh.itjust.works 1 points 7 months ago

NonMelancholy

[–] Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I'm not saying she feels like she settled, just that I wouldn't have met her in the first place if she had been accepted by any of the women who she met before me. Candy's loss though.

[–] Donkter@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My bi partner is still slightly annoyed that she's had to settle

I wouldn't have met her in the first place if she had been accepted by any of the women who she met before me.

I understand that I know nothing of your life. And I'm sure it's going fine. But the way you're framing it while defending the relationship seems like you need to have a bit more of a talk about it.

[–] Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 1 points 7 months ago

What i mean is she wasn't looking for a male partner when I met her, but there I was: tall, handsome, charming, sensitive, well spoken, 8 inch dick etc etc. And now we're 15 years in, have multiple children and still find time to bump uglies at least 4 times a week. I know she's into girls, but it doesn't make her less into me and I can still make her sound like brain damaged livestock. So thank you for your concern, but we're good.

[–] reverendsteveii@lemm.ee 33 points 7 months ago (2 children)

as long as you're feeling settled-for, that's what counts

[–] meep_launcher@lemm.ee 17 points 7 months ago (2 children)

My aunt once told my (then) 10 year old sister to "just marry a man you can stand". We keep wondering when aunt Wendy is going to kill her husband. He's a dick.

[–] rekabis@lemmy.ca 13 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

"just marry a man you can stand"

My uncle in law married the first woman who would have him. He didn’t think long or hard about it, just thought that to be the most expedient and simple. Thought that all women were good and kind and reasonable people like his mother and sisters.

She’s been a complete demon to him, totally solipsistic and money-obsessed, and is not only working him into an early grave but is also stressing him out such that he looks like he’s in his late-eighties. He’s only 64.

Never took to the idea of sex outside of marriage or an LTR (= min. 6 months, usually 12 or more), but daaaaaang… people need to percolate more before filtering down into a cup.

[–] reverendsteveii@lemm.ee 4 points 7 months ago

that's gonna be a fun nursing home confession one day

[–] Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 3 points 7 months ago

👍

[–] inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world 19 points 7 months ago (1 children)

settle

Uh. I hope she isn't using that particular word when talking about you friend.

[–] Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 4 points 7 months ago

No but if they'd not been so discriminatory I wouldn't have met her in the first place.

[–] Cube6392@beehaw.org 18 points 7 months ago (4 children)

I have a bi ex who broke up with me because she knew her lesbian friend group would ostracize her for dating a man. The queer community can be incredibly discriminatory against the bi part of itself

[–] EldritchFeminity@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 7 months ago

It's always been the case unfortunately. Biphobia is as rampant among the LGBT community as homophobia is in the world at large. All the things that homophobes do to gay men, they'll happily turn around and do to bi men.

[–] Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 3 points 7 months ago

Yeah my partner and brother are both bi and there is a strong sense that they're being made to pick a side. I have no problems with her having a girlfriend in addition. Honestly it'd be good for her, but I also think she wouldn't be terribly successful going into it with a male partner and several kids. Maybe with other bi women but they'd probably think she was unicorn hunting.

[–] Silentiea@lemm.ee 2 points 7 months ago

The queer community can be incredibly discriminatory against the bi part of itself

Or the trans part of itself. Or the questioning part of itself. Or probably the lesbian and gay parts, let alone the +. It sucks, but it turns out queer folks are just, well... Folks. So we gotta work on that.

[–] BigBananaDealer@lemm.ee 1 points 7 months ago

sad to see that the scene from chasing amy still rings true