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[–] Sibbo@sopuli.xyz 46 points 9 months ago (2 children)

No nagging for a week

This woman must be horribly annoying

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

The man literally needs the motivational tool of a 5 year old to learn to put down the toilet seat or otherwise contribute around the house.

I bet you dollars to donuts he considers "nagging" to be asking him anything that he'd have to leave the couch for.

[–] Stanwich@lemmy.world 12 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Ummmm can't she just put it down. He had to pick it up.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

If this is an actual source of stress in your household, you could always just get an open front toilet seat and never think about it again.

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 11 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

I actually try to close the entire thing, lid included. Less poop particles when you flush, erryone gotta work in this household.

[–] Lesrid@lemm.ee 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

It's actually the same poop particles. But it is quieter.

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 1 points 9 months ago

Yeah I just saw an article and discussion here with that info lmao.

Welp, I'll stick with true equality out of principle.

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one -2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Alright, I'm sure the big boy that needs a sticker chart for washing the dishes and taking care of his children is the mature one in the relationship, you right, she's probably in the wrong here.

[–] MaoZedongers@lemmy.today 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

You assume he "needs" a sticker chart when just as easily the wife could be trying to get him to do all of it instead of his share. That's your bias showing.

Plus this inhumane and soul destroying regardless.

Who the fuck makes a sticker chart with BJs and naked hula dances?

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Based on the evidence I've seen, women do tend to bear more of the cognitive load of running a household in our society. Can you share any evidence that says otherwise? I'd love to learn.

I haven't done that much research, but a quick Google scholar search suggests that it's a pretty gendered issue.

[–] MaoZedongers@lemmy.today -1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

That's cool but has nothing to do with this, so unfortunately I don't have any studies prepared for you to learn from.

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)
  1. We've established that the task of maintaining on a household typically falls on women in our society.
  2. We have an example here of a sticker chart being used to encourage a man to take care of his child.
  3. You're saying I'm biased for thinking that the man needs this chart.

Nah, bruh, I'm just looking at the data and drawing conclusions.

Sure, there are exceptions, but when we lack any other indicators of exceptions, it's safe to assume societal roles carry over. Making any other assumption is ironically letting YOUR personal biases show.

If I tell you 7/10 balls in a box are red, 3/10 are blue, and ask you to guess the color of a ball I'm grabbing from the box, what're you going to guess? Red.

I'm pretty sure this sticker chart is fake anyways, but it's the reaction of folks to this that's surprising.

[–] MaoZedongers@lemmy.today 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

No you're dishonestly ignoring all the content of the image and pushing some random stats in a vacuum.

I could care less about those stats, I have eyes.

Obviously this is fake, but it's fun to argue.

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 1 points 9 months ago

What am I ignoring?

I could care less about those stats, I have eyes.

Okay if we're just going to pick and choose what context we ignore when interpreting what we see then there's no real point in having a conversation.

[–] Smoogs@lemmy.world -3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

He seems horribly annoying to force people in relationships to have to take the mommy manager role before he’ll wipe his own asshole.

[–] MaoZedongers@lemmy.today 15 points 9 months ago (2 children)

That's much bigger leap based on the info we have

[–] kofe@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago

Relationships are a two way street, and dynamics like this are pretty common. It's sometimes called over/under functioning or codependency in substance abuse. It could be the over functioner just tore the other person down, or the under functioner was susceptible already or drew it out of the over functioner. I agree it's really difficult to know based on limited data, and all we can say is this is strange and comes across as infantilizing but if it works for them then whatever tbh. Not my relationship to care about

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Does the word "nagging" really suggest she's bad when there's needs to be a transactional economy where he only contributes to the care of his child after trading in his good boy points for a ~~tendies~~ a blowjob?

I hope some of the folks in this thread get the partner they deserve.