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[–] SHamblingSHapes@lemmy.one 154 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

I didn't sign for a weird thing.

I was going to go on a first date when the guy asked me to sign an NDA. He was attempting to be a content creator on YouTube, tiktok, etc., and thought he needed to start "protecting his reputation". I declined the date.

[–] MrVilliam@lemmy.world 55 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If it was around the time I suspect, he might've been worried about the me too stories that were breaking. Which means he thought his own conduct could've been seen as questionable. Which means it was very questionable. So bullet dodged. Hooray for not being one of his sexual assault victims.

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 29 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Aren’t NDAs unenforceable against illegal conduct anyway? I suppose he could have been covering for gross behavior that wasn’t across the line into full criminality. Either way, what a fuckin dork, I hope his channel sucks.

Aren’t NDAs unenforceable against illegal conduct anyway?

Yes, absolutely. You can't sue someone for violating an NDA if they did so to report a crime.

But a lot of people are morons that don't understand how the law works.

[–] agressivelyPassive@feddit.de 13 points 1 year ago

Such clauses/contracts often are just an empty threat. If enough people believe in its legality, they will act accordingly, so it accomplished its goal.

[–] Admetus@sopuli.xyz 5 points 1 year ago

Basically any organised crime is full of NDAs so by this point, definitely unenforceable.

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 49 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Yeah, not a unique thing, unfortunately. I worked for a legal resources mill (I'm not a lawyer) that pumped out stuff like basic NDA templates and wills.

I saw a distressing number of men trying to customize templates with statements about allegations of sexual assault will be settled privately, any public accusation of sexual impropriety will result in the woman owing $_ to the guy, etc. Horrible stuff, flashing neon red flag with red fireworks exploding overhead. And not how NDAs work.

[–] SHamblingSHapes@lemmy.one 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I didn't even read the whole thing, TBH. It's been a while, I'll have to see if I still have access via the link he sent me. That's even more blatantly sleezy than I was thinking. If he actually managed to build any sort of following, they might be interested to see what he attempts to put in his NDAs.

Gross. Well today is a "losing hope in humanity" kind of day.

[–] PsychedSy@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago

Gross. Well today is a "losing hope in humanity" kind of day.

Doesn't seem like an abnormal thing lately.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 40 points 1 year ago

NDA now stands for "No Date, Asshole."

[–] ConstableJelly@beehaw.org 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I am impressed by your resilience that you didn't immediately swoon over his intelligence, diligence, and confidence, which is what I would strongly presume was his actual expectation.

[–] Admetus@sopuli.xyz 8 points 1 year ago

Don't forget his charisma. He probably has a few hundred views by now.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Thank you, good sir, for openly advertising the most obvious red flag ever.

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