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When I first started using Lemmy it seemed like such a nice place with interesting discussions. It seemed like the first group of people to join after the app exodus were being quite careful to be respectful of the existing culture.

Now, it seems as though the culture from Reddit has completely replaced it. Toxicity and all. I will say I do follow a lot of communities from a wide range of instances so it's clearly not everywhere.

Am I the only one who's feeling like we've just stormed in and bulldozed Lemmy?

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[โ€“] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 105 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I came to Lemmy from reddit and I find it an incredibly nice place to be, full of polite discussions and fun posts. I haven't seen any of what you're saying.

[โ€“] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 25 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (6 children)

When the rightwing communities started getting defederated, their users started making alts on the main instances.

Then you've got lemmy.grad which I still have trouble believing aren't just all trolls.

I've never seen a logical comment from any of them. And they agree with the rightwingers waaaaay to often for it be a coincidence.

Like, there was a thread the other day filled with people saying Islam is a violent religion and no other religion encourages violence. And all 1.7 billion Muslims support terrorist extremists.

Maybe because China and Russia have also been oppressing them for centuries so lemmy.grad has to act like that's the right move?

[โ€“] maegul@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 year ago

Like, there was a thread the other day filled with people saying Islam is a violent religion and no other religion encourages violence.

Any links for that one?

lemmygrad existed before all the reddit people

[โ€“] zndl972@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 year ago

People I disagree with all around me!! Oh the horror!!

[โ€“] conditional_soup@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Seen this. I commented on the lemm.ee meta discussion about considering defederating from Hexbear. I mentioned some of the things I've seen from Hexbear users and that I wish they'd just take a chill pill. Cue Hexbears (I assume), refusing to take chill pills.

[โ€“] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 year ago

I don't feel like I see that many people from the alt right or tankies with my instance being defederated from theirs, so I don't think them creating alts is that much of an issue, but maybe it's because I don't see that much political content on All/top 6h ๐Ÿค”

[โ€“] grff@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

Ha same. When I first started lemmy, every time I would accidentally stumble upon a lemmy.grad post I would be so confused. At first I thought it was trolls, i thought it was satire.

And yeah I also remember that post from yesterday, all the comments underneath were people telling eachother to fuck off and that every single Muslim was a violent terrorist who wants to oppress woman. I think these people probably don't get outside much is my best guess . I have noticed quite the lack of civility in some of the threads here...

[โ€“] Skotimusj@lemmy.ml 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I agree. Came from reddit in June. Lemmy has been a very friendly place. I just posted for advice with a typo in the title. Noone even mentioned it. No belittling advice or bickering. Just kindness and helpfulness.

[โ€“] Mr_Blott@feddit.uk 13 points 1 year ago

Did the same and was helpfully informed that unlike Reddit, you can edit the title if there's a typo in it :)

Firefish is also incredibly sweet. Honestly the fediverse makes me feel good about the Internet for the first time in years.

[โ€“] polskilumalo@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

It's difficult to have a respectful discussion of disagreements on lemmy.world and sometimes even lemmy.ml, especially since a lot of the users I try to engage with start of with "ewww lemmygrad" and I tend to disengage there. It's just not productive nor is it anything worth my time.

If both parties already agree on a line you won't find any disrespect. And this kind of interaction is one I see most often, especially when it comes down to politics over on lemmy.world...

I think Hexbear has a posting startegy, that I've seen countlessly now, which works well. Start of with good faith discussion, if it goes well continue on the same path, if the other party decides to be a shitty person then post PPB, troll or disengage.

[โ€“] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't see any of that but maybe I'm in the wrong places. I'm actually really happy to be here because it's nice and people are friendly.

[โ€“] polskilumalo@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 1 year ago

More luck to ya, I wish I could say the same outside of Hexbear and Lemmygrad. Either way, I'm happy lemmy is working out, at least for others.

[โ€“] Driftking@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I disagree with you in a snide and condescending tone while missapropriating your argument.