Was talking to an older male mentor once about, god I don't even remember. Something I thought was girlie at the time (male myself). Said "it isn't manly" and that men don't like that sort of thing. His response?

Real men don't care

Stuck with me. Real men don't define themselves or classify themselves - they're confident and believe in themselves, care about the ones they love and don't care what other people think.

[–] YourFavouriteNPC@feddit.de 6 points 1 year ago

Exactly. Nothing's "unmanlier" (read: more insecure) than living you life by other people's standards.

[–] zkikiz@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago

They've been branding tons of stuff for men's hair/skin/etc care lately (starting with Axe body spray and going downhill from there) and I just gave up and got a bottle of Dr. Bronners and use it for everything. My hair has gotten less frizzy, I feel cleaner, it takes like five drops to clean my whole body, and I can refill it at the natural grocer's so there's no plastic waste. Real men (and women, and non-binary people) don't get baited into conditioning their gender and self-worth off what some two-bit influencer tells them.

[–] balerion@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Things that make you less of a man:

-not identifying as one

Things that don't make you less of a man:

-anything else

[–] elouboub@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

anti-trans people so loud because they're afraid somebody'll call 'em a pussy.

[–] ADHDefy@kbin.social 5 points 1 year ago

Absolutely. It's liberating to figure this out, too.