I hear you. People have very little pain/change tolerance. Humans want things easy the first time. Those who stick around the fediverse have higher pain tolerance. They are more cognitively flexible. They are principled. There's a short time of adjustment that one has to tolerate.
I'm thankful for all those who have the strength to say "NO" to the likes of /spez. It's a small thing but it shows some determination and character.
This is such good advice. When you find that you are with someone truly toxic... get tf out. It's the only way to be well.