MrZee

Hello, 30-years-ago me. My sister and I had a similar age gap. We had an amazing relationship/friendship throughout our childhood and it was really hard when she left for college. The good news is that we still have an amazing relationship and she is still the best sister I could ever ask for.

It’s a funny thing that when we are young, everything feels so permanent when in reality, your life is changing incredibly quickly. When you get hit by something like this, it’s uncomfortable as fuck to see that reality. Change is hard, but it also leads to and comes along with growth... and growth is good.

I don’t say this to be dismissive of what you are going through, only to say that change happens. It is a part of life that we learn to deal with because it can’t be avoided. What is happening in your life probably hurts. It’s probably scary. The uncertainty sucks. All those feelings are valid.

She will be farther away. You will see her less. She is going to be incredibly busy at times. But she is also there for you and you two will still have each other and have time together.

Of course, I have no guarantees — your life isn’t mine. But for me, it wasn’t nearly as bad as it seemed (it’s easy to imagine the worst). Just like it was awesome having an older sister as your friend while at home, it’s really awesome to have an older sister in college to talk to and visit get to experience bits of that life with.

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Yes, calorie limiting is one of the main benefits and the reason I use IF. I can’t speak authoritatively to any other benefits as I haven’t done any reading on IF in close to a decade. I remember that back then there were a lot of dubious claims about it “boosting metabolism” and such. But I haven’t looked at the state of research on IF in a long time.

I’m far from an expert on IF, just someone who has done it for a long time.

I'm fasting 14 hours for 4 days a week (I also have health problems, so I'm not going for the full 7 days).

The “health problems” part makes me concerned. Please make sure that you are safe to do IF with your health conditions. Is your condition one in which 4 days IF is safe but 7 days is not?

If it is medically safe to do so, I would reconsider this half-way approach. Don’t take this for gospel because this is just my feeling on it:

You’re trying to get used to not eating in the morning after you get up. You're trying to make some mental and (perhaps) physiological changes occur and get over the hurdle where you aren’t feeling hunger pangs or the desire to eat first thing in the morning. By breaking the routine for three days every week, I worry that you’ll continually be in the “trying to get used to this” phase and not reach the point of “normal routine”.

What can I expect? Is there anything I should watch out for? Any tips?

It’s been too long for me to really remember the start. Additionally, I’ve never been one to need a morning meal [edit: to add context, I did shorten my eating window and had to adapt to that. I only eat in the evening, about 4hr]. I know irritability and feeling a bit shaky are listed as common issues when starting IF. With health conditions, I’d really recommend talking to your dr (if you can) and try to find a way to identify where “normal” discomfort ends and problematic symptoms begin.

There is A LOT of woo around IF and just about any diet you find out there. I like reading scientific studies and find that media/writers really really like to misinterpret study results… and those misinterpretations become cannon over time. Use a skeptical eye when reading that info and focus on finding a routine that works for you personally.

Wow. I just want to say thank you for such a thoughtful, informed, detailed response. You are an amazing person!

Searching 411 in communities, it looks like this is the only active one:

Lemmy411@lemmy.ca

Also why the fuck would they charge for it?

Because they have long since moved away from selling worthwhile products to selling anything they can trick people into buying. Providing value is no longer a concern, only short-term profit.

Or use a scale.

Haha. Re: option 4, I was being glib. A more charitable way to say it is that they want to connect with you and spend time talking with you (and they don’t realize you are busy and want to keep working on your task). A lot of NTs will use time talking to coworkers as a way to recharge. To them it’s a nice break from what they’re doing.

Good context and explanation. Thanks. After reading that, I’m less sure my reasons apply as much to your particular situation, but I’ll throw them out there anyway:

1. They assume you don’t just want the answer but why that is the answer. For me, I tend the learn and remember better if I understand why X is correct. If I’m just told X, I’m more likely to forget that answer later. If I have the context around the answer, I understand it better and can recall it better. Similarly, they may think you have (or will have) similar questions, so are showing you how to find the answer to those related questions.

2. They don’t realize your question is precise/pointed and think you will have follow on questions, so are answering the potential related questions.

3. if the question doesn’t have one right answer or they think their answer is right but could be wrong, they are providing background sort of to say “This is how I came to this conclusion, but you may come to a different one or there may be alternatives.”

4. they just like to hear themselves talk and are happy to have a break from their work.

Aside: when I said “they assume you don’t just want the answer…” or similar statements, I don’t mean that they are literally stopping and thinking about whether or not that is what you want. It’s probably subconscious and their default way of answering questions. Understandably, this leads to your frustration: even though you are giving a clear, well thought out question, they aren’t stopping and thinking about why you asked the question that way. Instead they are answering in their default mode.

NT here. I’m interested to learn more about this. I see that when you ask a question, you’re just looking for a concise answer. Is that fairly typical for people who are autistic or something that tends to vary a lot?

I have some possible answers for why NT people tend to communicate like this. If you want to hear them, let me know.

Agreed. I strongly dislike Elon and think he is a thin skinned trust fund baby who is destroying Tesla and already destroyed Twitter. I wouldn’t be surprised in the least to find out he is using sock accounts to praise himself… but in this article all I see are people making accusations without solid evidence. Yes, it appears he banned the guy accusing him but we already know that Elon will ban his critics whether or not those critics’ accusations are real. There is nothing here showing that the account is anything but one of his braindead fanboys.

It’s one thing to take these accusations and try to find solid evidence. It’s another to treat the accusations as solid evidence itself. Let’s be better than the conspiracy theorists.