If you're "making friends for this purpose," they aren't friends. The way you accomplish someone doing this for you is by paying them.
this post was submitted on 13 Mar 2025
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In this specific case, pharmacy or doctor. In the case of surgery, ask about social assistance at your hospital.
You might need to specify the wound placement. I'd change a dressing on a leg or a foot of a colleague or acquaintance, but if its a more sensitive area that might require an actual friend.
Can you go to a medical clinic or ER and get it changed?
I don't know what your friends are like, but I'd be comfortable asking my best friends something like this.
Edit: ok, if you don't have friends or family you can call upon, this is simply aftercare from a healthcare professional. Dunno if you live in a proper country or America, but that's the truth of it.
Don't go to the ER. They'll charge you an outrageous amount. Call your doc and see if you can just schedule a nurse visit. Before you go to urgent care, call them and let them know what you need and ask what they'll charge. Make sure you don't go to one that says ER
In my experience, you make friends by being a friend. Some people just acquire a collection of friends to do things with, those are good people to start with. I invited one of our gay coworkers to a concert (because he liked the band) and now all my kids love him and we also go to yoga together. He is definitely someone who collects friends, he does hang out still with other people who used to work here.
Someone like that is a good place to start, to practice having friends. Once you are more comfortable with people it will be easier. You only have to be involved at the level you want, but basically I'd say if you want someone who would change your medical dressing that needs to be someone for whom you would do the same. That's how you would know it's ok. For me I would get an appointment with the walk in and pay, instead of asking someone who doesn't know what they are doing.
engage. radically listen. remember details and ask about them later. how do you find this audience? check out community meetups online or at libraries or advertised in game shops or coffee shops. start by asking someone a question, then offer info... give and take. make jokes. laugh at theirs.
Start liking people. Practice finding things you like with people around you. Things that make you feel they are a good person.
React positively to other people when they say or do things.
Show interest in what occupies other people.
(And of course don't do stupid shit like lash out or insult people to feel better.)
It's tough. If you're in a medical emergency type of situation, or are sick and need help, there are a lot of services that can help. You can go to urgent care or ask your doctor. If you don't have insurance and live in the US, I'd probably encourage you to dial 211 for resources.
Making friends is not easy. But I think you should keep trying and just remember not to give up. I think the first step is just putting yourself around people, and not expecting anything as an outcome. What do you like to do for fun?
You need to start making friends. This isn't a joke.
Contact your local church/synagogue/temple and ask if they can help you change wound dressings. Many of the religious groups have outreach and volunteer programs for the needy.
If I was in your situation I would go to the hospital.
Assuming the original injury was treated by a healthcare professional they would have guidance on this matter.
Contact your insurance or your regular healthcare provider they can also help you with this matter.
I'd imagine if I was in a similar pickle my family would help me.
I am not a medical professional, this is not medical advice. I am not familiar with you or your case. Always seek out a qualified professional for all medical concerns in a timely manner.