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friend gives me weird looks because I’m neurodivergent: is this ableist or am i overreacting? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 week ago by drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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my friend, since she found out I’m neurodivergent and hyperfixate, went from really liking me to pretending to like me.

she used to really value me, but now she doesn’t because i have autism and she doesn’t. idk how to feel, she rolls her eyes at me, gives me weird looks, and will just stare at me at times when i say something like “how was your day?” w/o responding.

i understand that she’s a sophomore who’s friends with my friend’s younger sibling, but it still sucks at any age.

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[–] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I dunno, I'm hearing way too many feelings, not enough facts, and zero communication.

Going to go with my usual advice. Nobody is psychic. Have a conversation. Discuss your feelings and be specific about WHY you feel what you feel, and what specific examples you will cite in terms of actions or behaviors.

Then you can act accordingly. You'll either discover some kinda misunderstanding, or clear up some misconception, or perhaps just confirm that you are incompatible as friends for some reason or other.