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[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 74 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)
[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 27 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

nooooo that's the worst horny jail! the tops aren't there in the corner with us and nothing happens :(

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 weeks ago

Im pretty sure in the bottoms corner we mostly cuddle and meow at eachother :3

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] Danitos@reddthat.com 9 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

In case you are serious: opposite of bottoms.

In gay relationships there's usually a bottom (passive) person and a top (active) person.

[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Same for the Kink community as well

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Needs to be noted:

Top =/= Dominant

Bottom =/= Submissive

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

i mean i'd say that's pretty standard for humanity in general, no? not really just a gay thing.

[–] Danitos@reddthat.com 4 points 2 weeks ago

Yeah, I guess so yeah. But in gay communities is veeery notorious, as 2 tops or 2 bottoms will be a big sexual incompatibility.

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Jokes on you, I tunneled out of the bottoms corner years ago! Now I can sneak into The Basement of Aggressive Tops whenever I want!I haven't been able to sit down since 2009!

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 4 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)
[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 9 points 2 weeks ago

Hopefully about 7 inches and looking to take out some frustrations

[–] jaybone@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

You’re making us straight people look uninformed.

[–] theneverfox@pawb.social 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It's a legit problem... You have tops and bottoms in straight relationships too, it's not about parts or gender, it's about relationship dynamics

But we've partially tied it up with gender, which really fucks with all these people who don't understand why their sex lives suck, no matter how hard they try

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 2 weeks ago

The societal views on relationships are just so fucked in general, stuff like "dominant=top" "man=dominant" and "you can't have different preferences day-to-day", and of course "relationships can only be 2 people".

It's taken me several years of constant poking and prodding at my brain to figure out my preferences and it's complex enough that i'd double the length of this comment by explaining it.
But god damn it's nice to have it figured out; especially coming to terms with not actually being straight (and rejecting the concept of sexuality categories) has done wonders for my confidence, it's a solid foundation for my mental health.

It makes me very sad and angry that it's questionable if a significant amount of the population will ever reach this point, i wish we could launch a global project to help people with introspection and untangling themselves so they can have this inner peace.

[–] beefbot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

You’re not uninformed You’re just categorically unable to truly experience being an excluded community* so you’re got to take terminology from people who don’t really have a choice

*cis only

But you don’t HAVE to understand the lives of people you take terminology from, so lots of you don’t, & those who don’t sometimes wander into threads like this anyway, reminding me that honestly most of you ARE like that

:3c

[–] jaybone@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

My bad. I’m sorry. Thank you for correcting me. Peace and love. ❤️

:3c

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago

the stuff you wear on your torso

[–] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 2 points 2 weeks ago

I have never felt quite so seen

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 3 points 2 weeks ago

Why isn't he in the corner? /genq

[–] FilthyShrooms@lemmy.world 63 points 2 weeks ago
[–] jballs@sh.itjust.works 47 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

:O C===3

:OC===3

:O==3

:O=3

:3

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 2 weeks ago

me inhaling a weirdly long chicken drumstick whole

[–] smitten@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 weeks ago

Username checks out

[–] headerfile@lemmy.blahaj.zone 30 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

the resemblance is uncanny

[–] Tiger_Man_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago

Holy shit that's freeBSD reference

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 15 points 2 weeks ago

Thank you! I’ve wondered what the “c” was for.

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)
[–] smitten@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 2 weeks ago

mischeivous proboscis monkey, with only the bulbous nose able to fit in the frame

[–] assassinatedbyCIA@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago
[–] Tiger_Man_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago
[–] jbk@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 2 weeks ago
[–] Emotional@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago

So what is :q! For?