Ask Lemmy

Real life mechE here. I'll tell you how my brain works.
99% of the time when I get an odd request from outside of the department, it goes one of many ways:

• the request is literally not in my scope of work and I let them sit for a day or two and then politely deny with a CC to my manager.
• the request is so vaguely worded that I could give a 2 sentence answer or a 20 page pdf answer or a PowerPoint full of flowcharts, and all would be "right", leaving me in a state of decision paralysis and needing clarification.
• the request is something I can help with but I don't know your technical capability levels, so I try to keep it very generic and high level as to not simply knock you over with a technical dictionary.
• the request is in my scope of work and very doable, but I do not want to inadvertently share information that I may not be allowed to divulge freely to other parts of the company.
  And of course, there's a lot of CYA reluctance too depending on what's being asked.

If you're asking first or second level engineers things like "how does your technical work flow do it's thing?" you are starting at the wrong level for a documentation project of this massive scope. Engineers have managers whose job is to translate requests into technical terms and figure out who is the best at doing what. That's what mine does: he takes a super weirdly worded ECR (engineering change request) and translates them into technical steps and clear direction for me. Then I can pick out the details needed to make it happen, confirm them, and document them.

You need to define clear needs out of your request: start with your end goal, the processes you need, the mechanical details of the processes you need to write, how much detail you are comfortable with, and the format in which you want it . and take all of that to the senior or director level of whatever department manages those systems. They may or may not know the exact information you need, but it should be their job to delegate and translate the request such that their reports can collate what you need in the form that you need it. And because it's the director delegating, the engineers have inherent CYA and will be a lot more comfortable giving you what you need.

My experience is you get the best response if they understand why you need the information and at what level of detail. They seem to respond well to clarity, organization and logic (who doesn't!), so prepare your communications to include the background they need (how does your request help them in the long run), what it is you need from them (and in what format), and when you need it by. Trust is built by demonstrating your value to them. Think about ways you can help them get the info to you (start the work for them, book time on their calendars to focus on the request, sit with them and help them produce the info).

Side note: engineers sometimes offer information that is not executive ready - you will either need to translate or tell the engineer who the audience is for the information.

After reading your replies, I am on edge.

Please consider the following questions.

What is the power dynamic?
Are there good reasons to stonewall you?

What happened to the first few teams you worked with? Did the engineers involved advance in their careers? Do they talk with you still? What about their prior interactions with your team and department? Do those engineers still work at the company?

If you are confident you are there to help then just speaking to them like people. Don't bullshit them. Push them up in their careers when you can. Get them what resources you can. Support them in their goals. Do a good job and you won't get them to shut up.

Had a similar experience at a job. One source of resistance I found was engineers knowing upper management had absolutely no stomach for the type of change that the company desperately needed. This would lead to them likely not implementing anything meaningful. So rather than waste their time helping me and getting on board with the changes, they just kept churning out the same trash and questioned why I hadn't made all their lives better.

Everyone wants change so long as they don't have to be the ones to change.

Talk less, listen more.

They're probably (no offense) nerds, so let them nerd out and listen to them.

Then actually act on what they say, and soon they're be telling you more shit than you want to know.

My husband is an engineer. Screaming, "what the fuck are talking about?" is probably not the way.

This post is a little too vague to give real advice. You don't tell us what industry you're in. You don't tell us if the engineers are the end users of the software or processes you're working on, or if they will implement the software or processes you're working on.

If they're the end users, they might be concerned that the changes you're designing are going to make their jobs harder. A lot of changes in the past couple decades aimed at "efficiency" have involved making people take on more work for no additional pay, then firing the administrative staff or other engineers who used to do that work. Even if that isn't the sort of project you're working on they are reasonably wary based on past experience. Or maybe it's not clear to you how this will make their life harder but management will find a way.

If the engineers are writing the software that you are helping design, how are you helping to make their jobs easier and more fulfilling? It's an unfortunate fact that software engineers are sometimes treated like misbehaving vending machines that will produce software if you force them to. If they are writing the code, there's a very good chance that they know more about this process than anyone else in the room, but are they treated like they know more than anyone else in the room? Is their expertise valued or are they treated like roadblocks when they give their expert opinions?

I'm a software developer, and I sometimes if I'm asked how something works, I can find it difficult to explain things in a way that would make sense to the listener, whether they are a PM or the client.

Other times, depending on the question, I simply don't know the answer, and it could take hours for me to gain enough understanding of the project to even respond intelligently.

I'm not an engineer, but I work in IT and work with engineers, analysts, and management. I have no idea what your knowledge or background is, but the engineers may be reluctant to get too technical in fear of talking over your head. I would make clear to them that you need specific, technical details and not to worry about to much jargon. If they're reluctant for other reasons, it may be an issue for your management to address.

Be interested when they talk about things and ask questions. Engineers stereotypically have been told too many times that they need to dumb things down. And there's a large percentage of neurodivergent people in software engineering who like to info-dump, but have been told their whole lives that they were boring or they overshare. But often when they are given the opportunity to share openly or even better, people show interest in learning, they usually will open up. It might take time, and it might take you getting a basic understanding of some technical topics so they don't have to explain those basics to you to even start explaining their work.

I have worked as an analyst, product manager, project manager, engineer, and architect. So I tend to be really good at bringing business and technical people together by interjecting a few details that an engineer might skim over because it's basic to them as well as interjecting business scenarios that a business person might consider obvious, but an engineer might get frustrates because it was never explained to them and they like to know "why".

As an engineer, I hate having to repeat the same thing again and again so take notes and make sure you understand them.

Secondly know the product or project intimately relative to your level. For example if I work on the project and I know it from the code and infrastructure and everything else in addition to how it works for the end user then the least I expect is that the person asking the questions has used the software with a demo account on UAT or something so that my answers will not go over their heads. Knowing the product will also allow you to talk to clients better and you will know what it can and can't do.

I'm ok with someone if I see they are willing to make the effort regardless of their level, if someone is coming to me to do their work for them , then I lose my patience fast and will very soon be less helpful and prioritize my actual work over their bs.

Finally as I said we are often overworked and not looking to have more things to do. We are the ones that have to stay late to fix someone's mess or get called to patch an emergency zero day in some software used by the company on a weekend. In addition we support everyone else as without us there is no product and no jobs for the rest of you. We are at the bottom of the pyramid holding the rest up with the CEO being the prick at the top.

Finally dont just engage when you need something, get to know them and see if you can help them with something. Maybe a heads up about a project or client to avoid or some thing.

It is good that you want to bridge the gap and I wish more in your position would do so.

They are probably unsure of your motives; are you analysing the business or analysing them? Software problems are extremely hard to estimate unless there is almost complete disclosure and discovery. It's like asking people how long a crossword is going to take without seeing the clues. Or asking how long they're going to spend on a chess move in 3 turn's time. They are possibly cagey because you are asking questions that betray the fact you are seeing this as a management problem rather than listening to what they're telling you about their craft.

Or possibly your manner of communicating is attuned to more socially intuitive people. Try presenting what you need as a problem for them to solve with a clear start and end. That way you're collaborating, and they know when their obligation to interact with you is "done".

Instead of open questions like "can you tell me how X is currently working?" try specific problem setting questions like "I'd like to see if we can make X process be 10% faster, what would that look like?" or "what would you say are the top two things that affect the time process Y takes?"

They may not want to offend you, because many of the answers might be "obvious" and, also, if they're honest workers, as many are, there may not be any clear way to improve certain things as they're already trying their hardest, and your investigation feels more like an inquisition.

Again, it may be that you're asking someone "how can I get you to get this crossword done faster?". It's sort of the wrong question. Unless you're willing to listen to their bugbears which might be the actual things affecting how efficiently things run but might not be the kind of answers project management want to hear.

The deeper I get into a subject involving engineering, the less I can relate what I know effectively. If I've done the thing many times, I can talk about it more freely.

It boils down to, "I don't know what I don't know." The only thing I can do is explain the long path of stuff I've figured out in order to get where I am at in my understanding. I don't have a clear overview scope. I'm aware I have likely made mistakes even within what I know.

If you are asking me for official statements that can come back to me, I'm going to be extremely cautious in what I tell you and only speak about things I am absolutely sure of and have triple checked. Most of what I'm sure of is going to be unhelpful surface level information. Professionally, telling you anything that could be wrong is career suicide. Reputation is the currency of an engineering career.

Have you asked them why they are reluctant to turn over the deets?

I’ve certainly withheld info because explaining DMARC is a lot more time consuming then just saying it’s a special type of spam filter.

The engineers have their own tasks and deadlines to deal with, why are you talking to them directly to get the information you want? You need to talk to their project manager to either give you access to the database in question, write a tool that generates the report you need or write a one time query to get this information. All of these things take time and need to be planned and resourced. I hope you're not just walking up to people and asking for random lists of customers that ordered more than once in the last year or whatever?

please give an example interaction that was difficult?

As an engineer with almost thirty years of experience, I don't want to be on the hook for telling someone the wrong thing. Also, if you want an estimate there are lots of engineers who won't want to give an estimate of 2 months when you're expecting 2 days. Then we have to explain that the entire app is a fucking unmaintainable shit show because we've been doing two months worth of work in two days by cutting corners and writing shit code and we know it.

Also they could just be shy introverts. But it's probably a reluctance to commit themselves.

I say all this like a universal truth, but just by reading all the responses here you can tell it varies from person to person. You have to assess your team and figure out each individual. My experience is it's a trust/comfort thing, but that may not be your case.