I don't really get the point of people who dispute medical diagnoses - "No sweetie, you don't have type 2 diabetes, ThE MeDiCaL EsTaBLiShMeNt.." like, shut the hell up you vapid cretin.
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Because ppl lie and exaggerate things. Also the distrust of the medical and pharmaceutical companies was created by the over diagnosing and over prescribing of medication that created the opioid crisis. And lets not forget the conveyor belt type of medical care that stresses get them in and get them out that results in misdiagnosing and a general lack of care.
No I'm not a conspiracy theorist and 9 times out of 10 a doctor is usually right but let's not act like the distrust of American medical services isn't deserved.
Thanks to my ADHD I came across as random. But it's not "Lol, Monkey Muffin! See so random1"
It's one thing will remind me of another, which will remind me of another, and that will remind me of another.
So let's say someone's talking about aliens, that makes me think of crop circles and cows, cows! Cow and Chicken, the raunchy 90's kid's show that really would have been on Adult Swim if that was a thing back then, oh my god Adult Swim! Aqua Teen Hunger Force, I love Master Shake.. Oh God milkshakes! I really am craving some chocolate right now.
So while the other person is talking about aliens, I respond not really having heard what they're talking about with...
"Did you know that the stereotype that women like chocolate actually has a basis in truth, you see during menstrual ramps the human body burns through its supplies of magnesium, causing the body to seek more, a common foodstuff with magnesium is chocolate. So the body is told to seek out chocolate, but the person in question is not conciously aware of the specifics. It's rather strange isn't it? How our random cravings are often just the cure to what's ailing us?"
And it looks like I'm weird and not paying attention, when I am, but.... to a long chain that no one else can see.
I don't have ADHD, but my trick for introducing these chain-of-thought topics back into conversation is like this:
- One degrees of separation: normal topic, can be added to conversation with no introduction
- Two degrees of separation: "You mentioned ______, which made me think of _______"
- More than two degrees of separation: Either don't bother, or, if it's really interesting, then wait for a good time and then hit 'em with "Hey guys, sorry to interrupt, this is kind of random but I just thought of.... "
Works pretty well most of the time.
I do have ADHD.
The issue is that the chain-of-thought is always at least 10 long and growing faster than you can speak or consciously keep up with. When you’re that deep in it, you’ve already forgotten what the first link in the chain was and how it relates to the conversation, or what the other person’s talking about entirely.
So it’s always don’t bother, “sorry what did you say?” or “here’s something random but super tangentially related but I can’t really explain why”
How does it work when you're in a conversation with other ADHD people? Is it just as tough? Or do yalls conversations just go at a faster rate to keep up with a chains of thoughts? Sorry if I"m asking too much, just curious
Sometimes you get multiple simultaneous conversations!
Or do yalls conversations just go at a faster rate to keep up with a chains of thoughts?
Pretty much this + a de facto understanding that this shit happens and it feels less futile explaining the chain (or what you remember of it). And sometimes "how the fuck did we even get on this topic" becomes a fun minigame.
Dang. Good idea. I just need to remember to do that
I'll never forget what it was like to share an officie with 2 other people with adhd. I'd start talking about one topic, jump three topics over because they're obviously related, and they'd just follow along without needing me to hold their hand. It was amazing
My brain works a lot like this, too. I'm pretty sure I've got ADHD, but I was never diagnosed. Things also improved markedly when I started taking anxiety meds. I still struggle a bit, but it's much less debilitating now that I don't have a bunch of intrusive thoughts and other anxieties feeding it.
It's now actually somewhat helpful because I've got it mostly under control, and allows me to connect really unrelated thoughts and evaluate them without going all the way down the rabbit hole.
Just don't ask me to put the garbage bag in the garbage can after I take it out lol
Anxiety and ADHD have big synergy. How much you overthink something and how many things you have to overthink. It's multiplicative, not additive.
Remember when My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic became big?
I babysat kids at the time and ended up watching it a lot with them. I couldn't help relating to the character Pinkie Pie. To most outside observers, she's random as hell. But if you pay attention, she's really thinking several steps ahead of the others. There was an episode where she clearly figured out a solution early on, but nobody else is on her level, so although she went about working toward the solution in the background, one could easily assume she was just dicking around. Then near the end, everything comes together. She knew the problem, she knew the solution, and now she's there to save the day.
She is ADHD incarnate, complete with outside assumptions that underestimate her intelligence and abilities. But if you've also got a brain that jumps from topic-to-topic at a rapid pace, it can be easy to understand her "random" (not random at all) trains of thought.
There's one thing I feel isn't mentioned too much in relation to ADHD that I feel like is worth sharing, from my personal experience with it's diagnosis and trying to solve it both through medication and therapy. I'm not saying anyone else has the same situation, but it's something worth considering since the realization helped me tremendously to deal with it.
While I do probably have a mild case of ADHD, the root of the problem wasn't as much that, but a totally fucked up attention span and basically an addiction to spending time at a computer, which was literally 90% of what I did for most of my life ever since I started playing at Dreamcast when I was 4. It was what magnified the symptoms and made it so much worse, and it's something that meds won't help with. Especially for younger people who grew up with smarthphones and social networks, it may play a huge part in making their life a lot worse, and it's pretty similar to ADHD as far as symptoms are considered. Once I started dealing with this, limiting my time with instantly gratifying things, making new hobbies outside of a computer (which was insanely hard) and learning some patience, I got way better.
If you're dealing with ADHD, both diagnosed or undiagnosed, it's something worth thinking about. I'm not saying your situation is the same, or that everyone's ADHD is just bullshit and they are addicted to scrolling. Just offering my experience as a food for thought, because it's something that helped me personally and I haven't seen it mentioned too much.
Thank you for offering this perspective!
I've realized there are a lot of things that seem to exacerbate ADHD, or even trigger someone to lose focus. I remember when Twitter was new, and I slowly came to realize that people were inadvertently being trained to pay attention in smaller and smaller snippets. Then a decade later, we get TikTok, which is basically Twitter for videos.
A scroll of hundreds of small bits of novelty are being consumed and immediately discarded by millions of people a day. Writing more than a paragraph in some places leads to someone remarking, TL;DR. I understand having trouble focusing - almost every time I write a comment on here, it takes forever, at the least because whatever song is stuck repeating in my head is playing "louder" than the words I'm consciously trying to think of. I suppose I'm lucky to have grown up before the internet became an information-selling dopamine train.
The good news for those of us on Lemmy is, at least we're in a "slower" environment here (at least, right now.) It's a good step for someone trying to wean themselves off more rapid-fire social media. (Also, there are several ADHD communities here where people get it.)
One more thing that I realized through introspection - having a parent that instilled anxiety in you can absolutely increase ADHD behaviors. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be as hyper vigilant if it weren't for my mom filling me with her own anxieties as a child. That hyper-vigilance means that no matter what I'm doing, I still have a strong awareness of my surroundings, and every little sound or light (or other stimulus) that stands out will distract me even further. I have friends that can truly zone out despite such things, and I remember being able to do that when I was little, but now I can barely relax enough to fall asleep. Ah well.
Bro where are all these hot neurodivergent women that just want to talk at me for 2 hours straight ?(I can't carry a conversation and like listening)
Tinder, bro...
I have a pretty good csee of ADHD and was diagnosed in 1991 when it was relatively new and didn't have the stigma. If a date told me that, I'd walk right out. I don't need someone who denies my illness in my life. What an insufferable prick.
Doctors be out there medicalizing people
One of the very few advantages of being neurodivergent is it is unbelievably easy to make sure someone will never want to talk to you again. Just stop making efforts to act "normal".
I actually love my (diagnosed) ADHD friends who talk for hours and jump from topic to topic. I love listening to people and at least they keep it entertaining.
I like the non diagnosed friends, I just wanted to make it a point, just cause people talk a lot doesn't mean they have ADHD.
Meh what the fuck is "normal" anyway? There is no such thing.
I don't remember how to unmask. 😶
Sorry for the hyperfocus rant.
tl;dr: analyze other peoples personalities to see what you notice and care about in a personality, then ask people who know you well to score you and compare the results with your own self-score. This shows you how people actually see you and how far that is from your self perception. Then you can look at the degree to which that’s a result of masking and see what your mask actually covers. Going forward, when you notice thoughts or impulses that don’t fit with others’ impression of you, you can make a conscious choice about whether to embrace them or not.
My therapist told me to make a list of things that make up a personality in others, because I couldn’t figure out what my personality was, though other people assured me, I had one. I looked at coworkers to make the list, because my coworkers are all wildly different from each other, but you could also do it with fictional characters or your family or friends.
My list is roughly as follows:
Optimism
Honesty
Helpfulness (whether you’re willing to go out of your way, lose face, or give something up for others)
Chillness (how much do you work yourself up unnecessarily, basically. Do you go with the flow or worry about things and/or let them eat at you)
Jokiness
Reaction to authority
Bravery
Thoughtfulness/curiosity(do they think about the things they and others do and form theories as to why or do they leave emotions and motives unexplored
Then, I asked my sister, my best friend, and my husband to put me on a 1-5 scale for each of those categories and did it for myself, so I could compare them.
Be aware: people who love you love your personality and it might be very overwhelming or otherwise difficult for you to accept a bunch of good things about yourself.
My husband said the closest fictional analog he could find was a mix of Kes and Lwaxanna Troi from Star Trek and Amy Santiago from Brooklyn 99, which made me cry and feels like I’m bragging. I thought of myself as unempathetic, impatient, and disorganized, so it was also difficult to accept. I also think of myself as really chill and relaxed, but alas, nobody around me does.
My therapist pointed out that only I get to see my inner thoughts, so I get a “sausage-getting-made” perspective of myself, whereas others get the finished product. It’s kind of the inverse of the fallacy (I cannot for the life of me search for the right combination of words to name this) where you attribute your own lateness to traffic or an unpredictable laundry issue or something out of your control, but when others are late, you think it’s because they dropped the ball.
I’m now realizing that this is maybe not actually breaking down the mask, but recognizing (and to a degree, appreciating) it. I do think there’s a difference between a mask and a normal politeness filter though, and I also think those people have seen behind my mask enough during meltdowns etc. to know who I am regardless.
Internal vs external locus of control!
Thank you for the hyperfocus rant.
That’s a good one. I think my categories are not the most succinct (but they work for me), and that would be partially covered by chillness, optimism, and bravery, but not entirely. I don’t know if I can observe the locus of control in coworkers especially well, but I’ll definitely be thinking about it on my next shift.
I think mine is external, but I also think there’s no point in doing anything if one thinks that, so I pretend it’s not. I don’t know if that makes sense, but it feels like: even if I can’t really make a difference in how things go, I have to try. If I don’t, it feels like surrendering to entropy, which is going to happen at some point (death), but I should at least put up a good fight first.
I mask fine sober but throw in a little weed and you're getting a six hour lesson on black hole holography.
Pm me next time you are high, I want to listen.
In that case, what time are you coming over? I just got a new e-vape and you would fit right in at our party.
"Hang on a sec! I have a power point!"
Seems like you just need to find the right people then, because I'm certain that there are tons who would love to discuss that shit with you all night.
Never heard of black hole holography. What is that?
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I just talk to them like I talk with my cats, albeit with a few fewer queries about if they've been cleaning their ass.
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You say that, but I remember getting into it with people in college and going back and forth straight into the AM because we couldn't stop fueling one another.
Couldn't get enough of that level of socialization. It's one of the things I miss most about the university experience. Made a lot of really good long term friendships during that time, too.
Horrible for hooking up, though.
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Some guys will say anything to get laid, but there's also a chance he took Psych 101 and thinks he's a shrink.
Is... Is this a win? Wasting 2 hours of your life in an attempt to teach a lesson to some rando you'll never see again?
I don't think the 2 hour ramble was an intentional attempt at teaching a lesson.
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