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what is your main goal for yourself for next year? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 week ago by allo@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago

I need to get out of my depression. I didn’t realize I was depressed until I had a dream, just now, where I ran into an old college classmate. She was telling me how depressed she was and I was just thinking “but your life is like mine”.

I just self-administered the IHQ-9 and it indicates me as having “severe depression”. So I need to get that figured out.

In the past I’ve taken medication for it, but I can’t seem to find any arrangement that allows me to take the medication continually. This really worries me. My life is a total failure including financially.

A family member has been helping me financially but it’s ruining their finances to do so.

[–] tht@social.pwned.page 1 points 3 days ago

probably to do more action, volunteer more(at homeless shelters, tree planting) and go to more protests

[–] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 5 points 5 days ago

More psychedelics

[–] davel@lemmy.ml 18 points 6 days ago (1 children)

log off and touch grass challenge (impossible)

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 days ago

For real... I can usually only keep it at a week or two lol

[–] Firebirdie713@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 6 days ago (1 children)

As a visibly trans person: survive, and help as many other people survive as I can.

[–] vk6flab@lemmy.radio 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I'm not sure what you are trying to tell us when you call yourself a visibly trans person. What you are inside your mind is rarely what is visible on the outside.

So, helping trans people, absolutely, but how about you, who is looking out for you?

[–] Firebirdie713@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 6 days ago

I am short with a somewhat femme figure, sparse but obvious facial hair, a flat chest, and a voice that sounds somewhere between a very gay man, a 13 year old boy, and an older woman. I am very visibly crossing many lines that people look for when trying to figure out how to address someone. Meaning, in a time when attacks on trans people and our rights are very quickly ramping up, I am in more danger of harassment and assault than I have been in the last few years.

As far as who is looking out for me: I am, that is part of my goal, but I also have a husband and a few friends who I can ask for help. However, I am in a slightly better position in life than most trans people in this country, since I live in a blue state that is (probably) unlikely to strip me of my rights. Hence my focus on helping others. There will probably be a lot of people coming here for medical treatment, and I want to make sure I help in any way I can.

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 4 points 5 days ago

I have a few, but the general theme of 2025 for me is "cultivation." Ignoring personal life milestones as goals, my biggest areas of work will be to improve my fitness and start a training regimen (I know, typical lol), going vegan once and for all, accelerating my language learning journey, and finishing the 30 or so works left on my "essential Leftist theory" personal reading list I set out for myself, including Capital Volumes 1-3. I want to go into 2026 a more well-rounded individual that is more knowledgeable and broadly skilled.

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 8 points 6 days ago

Shoot an arrow vertically into the air and then catch it with my teeth

[–] Jobe@feddit.org 10 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I'm gonna stop being passive and pleasant and start speaking my mind.

[–] vk6flab@lemmy.radio 0 points 6 days ago

You can speak your mind and still be kind and considerate. You tend to catch more flies with honey and after a while nobody resents a hard truth in the mix.

On the other hand, being less considerate about truth means that people will ignore you or worse actively fight you just to spite you.

You definitely don't have to be passive, but you don't have to be a dick about your truth.

Note that I'm not saying that you're planning to be a dick, just that I've been where you are and don't wish that on anyone.

[–] helloworld55@lemm.ee 4 points 5 days ago

End the workaholic streak and get back to my hobbies, maybe even make new friends via hobbies

[–] KingThrillgore@lemmy.ml 4 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

I have three goals:

Lose weight
Do at least three game jams
Stay employed

Stretch goals

Move into a nice rental house
Get a new, better paying job
Get laid
Ship a game
Survive the shitstorm that is 2025

This is the first time I've ever felt the coming year isn't going to be great. In fact, I'd rather stay in this one if I could.

[–] Monster96@lemmy.world 8 points 6 days ago (2 children)

To get my book published and travel more. I want to see Hawaii, Fremont Street, Big Ben, Akihabara, and a tropical ocean.

[–] frank@sopuli.xyz 2 points 6 days ago

That's a great list of places to go

[–] vk6flab@lemmy.radio 1 points 6 days ago

I published using the Kindle store. It's not for everyone, but it scratched my itch. I framed my first cheque as a "published author" .. I didn't make any money, but that's not why I published.

You don't need anyone's approval, you don't need to pay anyone you don't want to and you can do it from anywhere with an internet connection.

[–] vk6flab@lemmy.radio 8 points 6 days ago

Staying alive, having fun, sharing with friends.

[–] imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 8 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I'm going to try to stop smoking weed. Wish me luck 🤞

[–] MidsizedSedan@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago

A tip that didnt help me much, but it will next year:

I survived X years without (insert addiction here). I can do that again.

[–] Benjaben@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Out of curiosity (and if you're willing), how come? Been wondering if I should do similar, would enjoy another perspective.

[–] imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I smoke too much. It's difficult for me to use in moderation. I've got shit to do and it's hard to find the motivation when I'm always high.

[–] allo@sh.itjust.works 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I didn't smoke at all for a month a little while ago and eventually found a lack of creativity stalling my projects which is what brought me back to dabbing. BUT I only remember dreams if i haven't smoked for like 8 hours before sleeping. So I feel a natural cycle of dab and generate ideas in the morning; and do more worklike parts and relax in the evening, then have great dreams having accomplished things.

The crucial thing I find for keeping up progress is blocking myself from activities: No videogames before noon (and now in a videogame lull I may have to make that rule for social media instead).

Tho now trying no weed late in day, historically when I'm on a roll I basically wake up knowing what part to code in, go to noon while purely coding, eventually reach a natural stopping point, and if I've really done that, I feel no shame in relaxing, historically with videogames and continuing smoking, as much as i want until i sleep. If coding left me with nonthinking parts like 'copypaste and slightly modify all of these 100 functions' I also save that for later day between or during games instead of the high creativity of the morning.

Especially in Kotlin getting in to digital keyboard(input method service) I'd code to noon and often just be so in to it I'd view other focuses as wastes and keep smoking every 2 hours while coding until like 4am.

Anyway, everyone is different and I am only sharing what works for me to achieve this same goal, but my suggestion is hard limits on the nonproductive activities taking up the time with the weed. My first step getting production on track wasn't stopping weed but the activities eating infinite time and switching them to being rewards for good behavior. Now that I also want memorable dreams is when i am limiting when I smoke.

[–] allo@sh.itjust.works 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

in fact,

I made the base of what I'm typing to you in in that kotlin era where I'd be smoking constantly while progressing. So ProgressXWeed can definitely happen successfully and, in my case, it was thru setting hard limits and rules on which activities when. And then I get the extra high thought quality of the weed in the coding. Anyway, that's how I did the weed and progress puzzle. Everyone's journey is different tho. Time to code until at least 10 without looking at social media again. Bai

[–] imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 days ago

Interesting, thanks for the detailed reply. I haven't remembered my dreams in many years. Definitely think it's time to take an extended break, and then if I start to experience a loss of creativity maybe I will dip my toes back in eventually.

Also I mainly smoke joints/spliffs so it's really bad for my lungs, if I do start again I'll probably switch to vaping because it's more healthy.

[–] Redwngsfan019@lemmy.ml 2 points 5 days ago

Stop using reddit. bunch of nazis.

[–] LambdaRX@sh.itjust.works 7 points 6 days ago

Stay hydrated.

[–] CaptainPieces@lemmy.ca 2 points 5 days ago

Just survive, I'm moving late 2026 which will hopefully be a new beginning for me, until then I just gotta not die

[–] ComradeMiao@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 6 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Get in shape and write half* my thesis

[–] helloworld55@lemm.ee 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I just finished my thesis last semester, it's a huge milestone. Good luck on yours!

[–] ComradeMiao@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 5 days ago

Congrats!!! :) that’s amazing

[–] Resol@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

Actually starting to learn music production. I've had this passion for so long yet laziness has prevented me from developing it.

[–] Xiisadaddy@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I have some health issues so my goal rn is to minimize the amount of pain im in.

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 3 points 5 days ago

Good luck, comrade!

[–] UnPassive@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

Less YouTube

[–] Corno@lemm.ee 2 points 6 days ago

Improve on my art and grow more as an artist.

[–] letsgo@lemm.ee 2 points 6 days ago

The Odin Project

[–] chronotron@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

get a 5090

[–] pineapple@lemmy.ml 4 points 6 days ago

Chill bro

[–] theonlytruescotsman@sh.itjust.works 3 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Die.

[–] imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 9 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

You good my dude?

[–] Ste41th@lemmy.ml 5 points 6 days ago

I second that question, hopefully they aren’t serious

[–] transientpunk@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 days ago

Beat me to it

[–] Ardyssian@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

To get a better job than the one I have now. But the effort required to study for interviews is rather daunting...

[–] vk6flab@lemmy.radio 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Take it one step at a time. Practice makes perfect and it's likely that you'll fail many times before you succeed. Keep ar it. You can do this!

[–] Ardyssian@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 days ago

Thank you for the encouragement!

[–] Railison@aussie.zone 2 points 6 days ago

Been trying to break in this career for too long. If it doesn’t work out by EOY 2025, do something else

[–] no_way@lemm.ee 1 points 6 days ago

If all goes to plan, I should be dead by the 2nd. So, that.

[–] Sam_Bass@lemmy.ml 1 points 6 days ago

Survive in as close to my current situation as possible

[–] stinky@redlemmy.com 8 points 1 week ago

get in shape. keep my finances in the black. not do drugs lol

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