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[–] felykiosa@sh.itjust.works 49 points 17 hours ago (9 children)

That s not true , of course doing the basic minimum of a normal human IS required but its not enough to have a gf today. The loneliness epidemic is real and not all lonely guy are complete moron. Personally I think one major factor is the privatization of love.

[–] syreus@lemmy.world 36 points 16 hours ago (17 children)

Ask someone out for coffee. Talk about your week. Ask about theirs. Don't treat the interaction as a pass/fail. Repeat. If you have mutual attraction then nature will play out.

Doing the bare minimum hygiene and the appearance of happiness drastically improves your chances.

Dating is for finding someone you enjoy being around. Sex is a result of growing closer.

Obviously some people have it easier than others but I have peers that just refuse to ask people out for coffee or a lunch. I'm a late millennial if that matters.

Be a decent person and if a love interest doesn't personally find you attractive they WILL tell their friends. NEVER talk poorly about your previous relationships. Learn a few jokes.

The privatization of love is a real problem but the classic approach isn't dead.

[–] Tyr_Raidho_Othala@reddthat.com 10 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

appearance of happiness

I see now. That is holding me back by a lot.

[–] syreus@lemmy.world 7 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

The whole fake it till you make it thing can be applicable here but therapy is valid and cheaper than you think. You are worthy and deserving of love.

[–] greedytacothief@lemmy.world 10 points 12 hours ago

I strongly recommend being happy, one of the best feelings really. I've tried the other emotions and they just don't feel the same. (But seriously I'm no fun when I'm depressed. People like being around happy people, it's contagious)

[–] svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

Rule 1. Be happy.

Rule 2. Don't be unhappy.

[–] bestboyfriendintheworld@sh.itjust.works 7 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Do a group activity which has members of the demography you’re trying to attract. Show that you’re useful in a social environment and you will gain status and thus attract mates.

That can be anything from environmental protection, sports, politics, arts, music, games, organizing parties.

[–] SomethingBurger@jlai.lu 5 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

You forgot the two most important steps:

  1. Be attractive
  2. Don't be unattractive

Otherwise it will not work.

[–] bestboyfriendintheworld@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (6 children)

If you mean physical and optical attraction, that can be improved by hygiene, clothing, haircut, exercise, makeup, diet.

Other factors like manners, conversational skills, generosity, outlook, morals, ethics, dance skills, art skills etc. can also be worked on.

Below average looking guys will easily pull women, if they have status and a purpose/passion in life. Status isn’t just money, it can be just being known for being useful in your social circles.

Ugly people have sex and spouses as well.

Yes, the bottom 10% of men have it harder. However most of them can work on themselves to improve their attractiveness immensely.

One advantage men have, is their attractiveness increases with age. For women it goes downhill in their 30s. For men that’s when their peak starts.

I’m now 42 and more women in their late 20s are interested in me than ever before in my life. Single late 30s women are often desperate to find a husband. The older men get, the bigger their dating range becomes. As a rule of thumb men can get women at their age or younger. Women will go for men their age or older. Woman with wrinkles and grey streaks: old hag grandma. Man with wrinkles and grey streaks: handsome and trustworthy.

So if you want to attract the most desirable women, work on yourself until you’re 30 and then start looking for a wife.

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[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 83 points 20 hours ago (3 children)

Simple: Guys should just date each other! The girls can then watch with their gfs 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨👀👭

[–] Frozzie@lemmy.world 36 points 17 hours ago

I will become the girl instead

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[–] wertyuiop@feddit.rocks 24 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)
[–] Glide@lemmy.ca 7 points 12 hours ago

Everyone just scrollin' past this post.

Grats!

[–] AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip 34 points 18 hours ago (2 children)
[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 26 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Allegedly he's some Mexican bootleg version of Tate.

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[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 9 points 17 hours ago

Temach my balls!

No?

[–] jabathekek@sopuli.xyz 59 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (13 children)
[–] Zwiebel@feddit.org 44 points 18 hours ago

The point is to take care of your hygiene, if showering less is enough for you that's great

[–] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

While you're right, it's missing the forest for the trees. It's just quippy way of saying "takes care of one's hygiene"

But yes, it's mostly a common myth that you have to shower every day, ideally do what feels right/works for you to have a good hygiene

[–] uranibaba@lemmy.world 5 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

But yes, it’s mostly a common myth that you have to shower every day

My armpits would like a word.

[–] Siethron@lemmy.world 4 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Good thing they don't have a mouth, could you imagine morning breath in addition to whatever they've got going on?

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[–] greedytacothief@lemmy.world 4 points 12 hours ago

Yeah I think there's a difference between having a smell and smelling bad. I've been told many times that I have a smell(musk) and that it's different from when I smell bad. A female friend of mine has borrowed clothes and protective equipment from me. Rain jacket: smells like me, kneepads: smell really bad.

[–] vzq@lemmy.world 38 points 20 hours ago

“Not strictly necessary”, please stop you’ll sweep me off my feet!

[–] Brkdncr@lemmy.world 31 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Not at the top of that list are ya

[–] jabathekek@sopuli.xyz 23 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

At least my eczema's getting better, you ass.

[–] Ookami38@sh.itjust.works 8 points 16 hours ago

Ass eczema must be miserable

[–] DragonsInARoom@lemmy.world 2 points 14 hours ago

Not everyday if you don't go outside, but if you go outside you need to shower before hand so you don't smell

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[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 51 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Lol the attractive guy turns into a femboy ;3

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

The attractive "guy" is a transbian (trans lesbian) :3

[–] superkret@feddit.org 10 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I wanna take a ride on that transbian railway.

[–] socsa@piefed.social 7 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Lesbian dick is definitely some of the best dick out there

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 5 points 11 hours ago (1 children)
[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 4 points 11 hours ago (1 children)
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[–] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 21 hours ago (2 children)
[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 17 points 20 hours ago

Figuratively me

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