Asklemmy

Of all the things I would consider, this would be waaaaay down the list, probably between 'can they spell phlegm?' and 'can they tell the difference between different breeds of goat?'

Nope. It'd be a great opportunity to teach them it! 😃

If it's so important to you, you should put that in your tinder's bio.

"You need to know how to assist with choking."

There are so many things that one might want in a partner which are not changeable, that something like this, where it can be taught, shouldn't be high on the list of reasons to reject. If you discuss the issue with someone you're dating and they 💩💩 it, then you might want to reject, but not because of the knowledge they lack but rather because of their insensitivity to your anxiety.

No.

It's a skill that has to be learned. To be learned, one has to have the opportunity to learn it.

That takes time, usually transportation, energy (of the person), and knowing what the quality of instruction is in the area they're trying to learn in.

Picking things up irregularly isn't the same as knowing first aid, though it's here than nothing, and some things are just as good learned that way as formally. Don't need much in the way of lessons to apply pressure to a wound, and that's enough to keep someone alive long enough for someone with more training to get in place. But doing CPR does take a bare minimum of training to be certain of it being effective.

So, nah, I'm not going to think less of someone for not knowing something. Nor for not being well trained at it.

Now, I have insisted that anyone I live with have at least CPR, Heimlich, and stop the bleed under their belt. I can handle anything else, and my crippled ass is the least likely to be out of the house, so it's all about the bare minimum for when I'm injured, or they're out and get hurt so they have time for ems to arrive.

My wife already knew basics from a new parent first aid class she got when her (now our) kid was still in utero. Infant and toddler focussed, but still. My dad still remembers his training from his army days, though some is a little outdated. Our kid has the bare minimum, but plans on taking a more comprehensive course next summer.

Other than the basics NO.

The exception would be if you are into a lot of outdoor adventure / climbing / mountain biking / hiking where it will just be the two of you on an adventure. Then it is critical.

If most of your life is in a uban setting it isn't a common or critical skill I would expect.

In my country, it's pretty much mandatory to take a first-aid course, so hard to conceptualize that, but I do find it attractive when someone's active in the Red Cross or a volunteer fire department, or heck, actually works in the medical field.

Maybe it might be skillful, but I wouldn't hold it against them personally. They could probably find a bajillion things to hold against me by the same logic, with only my skill in a music instrument being able to serve as an exception based on the technicality it's not an instrument to some people. The second athletic one I mention was almost even an Achilles Heel once during a relationship. So I wouldn't sympathize with judging first aid skills.

Not exactly but my wife’s background in protest medicine is one of the first things that drew me to her

This is a good reminder for me to find a first aid class.

I wanna be sexy...

Depends. If they didn't know how to apply a band-aid then I would think, but if they didn't know how to strap an ankle, make an arm sling, or work a defibrillator I would not think any different of them.

First how they show to help someone who is choking in tv shows and movies many times is wrong and very dangerous.

No it would not affect how I view them. If I were to try and get someone pregnant and then they refused to learn child cpr, then yeah it might affect how I view them, but I would have that conversation before I tried to get them pregnant. But beyond that exact situation, no it would affect anything.

I'll never try to get someone pregnant and I've not had sex in about 20 years, so getting someone pregnant isn't a possibility.

Eh, I can think of some context dependencies. I don't have a blanket expectation for first aid knowledge.

For example, I like backpacking. I go on several multi-day trips per year. I don't necessarily need a partner to like backpacking too; I'm fine enjoying my hobby myself or with friends. But if they do like backpacking and haven't done the work of learning an appropriate level of first aid, I will absolutely judge them negatively. People should not go wandering into the backcountry, away from people and cell service, with absolutely no idea how to take care of themselves.

Someone who never has a need to get far from medical experts? Much more understandable to me if they don't prioritize learning first aid.

Basically, don't be a reckless dumbass.