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I’ve been on a medical LOA since last year and tomorrow I go back to work and I keep thinking about how almost all my coworkers I knew are gone and processes have changed. Also that if I do something wrong I might injure myself again and be right back where I was a year ago (I have been cleared for full job duties by my doctor).

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[–] davidgro@lemmy.world 31 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

I'm concerned that spez could be right: This will blow over, Reddit users in general don't care enough. Even a lot of us who fled here might return eventually because that's just where most of the discussion is. (Especially for breaking news, niche topics, etc).

I really wanted the admins to change course, and failing that, for Reddit to fall, but I think it's likely we'll get neither, and Lemmy will remain a sidenote. (As much as it has already grown, which is amazing to see, the whole network is still like 10% of one single top subreddit)

I obviously hope I'm wrong and that the growth we've had in the last month will just continue.

[–] teft@lemmy.world 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

(As much as it has already grown, which is amazing to see, the whole network is still like 10% of one single top subreddit)

You have to remember that a lot of those large subreddits are full of bots and astroturfers. It's in reddit's best interest for those subreddits to appear full even if they aren't. They are trying to IPO.

The quality of discourse here is already higher even if there are fewer people so personally I think I'll stay here until it implodes or something better comes along.

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[–] The_Mike_Drop@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

...yeah but like, we're a perfect 10(%) though.

[–] garyyo@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Considering that spez is championing musk as an example of good leadership I think that if not this, something else will happen. That might assuage some of your fears. Though if reddit changes it's ways and backpedals and maybe changes leadership, it might not be a bad thing (but I seriously doubt that at this point).

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[–] Fredselfish@lemmy.world 30 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Meta destroying the Fediverse.

[–] rm_dash_r_star@lemm.ee 12 points 1 year ago

Yeah same. I hope we can keep corporate interest walled off. Also with rising popularity comes concern of of astroturfing and spambots.

[–] fossilesque@mander.xyz 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

For perspective WordPress also uses ActivityPub. WP comprises 43% of the internet. Though these corporations may create mills of pure shit behaviour and content, catching the entire Fediverse is like trying to carry water in a collinder. If things ever feel too centralised, do your part to decentralise. Check out the rest of the Fediverse and get involved. The apps are very good, though many are early in development. Build good places and catch those that seek to escape the corporate walled gardens. Resilience comes from community, and these corporations are weak because they are inflexible with singular non humanist goals. Each time the facade cracks, more will be shed. We are kind of like the Wildlings over The Wall.

Here's the creator of ActivityPub. She's great: https://octodon.social/@cwebber/110668011757667052

[–] Bimbus@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Job worries as well. New place a lot more money. Can't stop thinking about work outside of work. I feel like my training was rushed and I don't really know what I'm doing. It's all so weird. Stressed and anxious all the time because of this place.

[–] Twofacetony@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

My only bit of rational input to counter act your brain, is that: you got the job, not someone else. You’re the winner, and you can do it. New jobs are fucked… so stressful… so much doubt… so much anxiety… but you got it for a reason. You had something that no one else had.

Listen to a stranger pump you up as much as you listen to your brain. Whatever your job is, it will be second nature in no time.

[–] Khazram@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Every time I end up someplace else I feel like I’m gonna do something wrong that’s gonna wipe out everything so I feel ya.

Hopefully you’ll have some helpful coworkers you can just say “hey I’m unclear on this thing.” and they’ll understand the feeling.

[–] fossilesque@mander.xyz 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

/OCD intensifies

I was given a bunch of medication for muscle spasms this week and my brain keeps having the intrusive thought of "you know, all of your organs are going to shut down because of this stuff." Fortunately, I'm self aware enough to tell my brain to stfu and relax. As far as medication goes, it's all pretty mild stuff like naproxen lol.

[–] Twofacetony@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

As someone who has been taking a cocktail of all sorts of shit for the past three years after a spinal injury, just don’t take any other NSAID (voltaren/ibuprofen) with Naproxen. Codeine and paracetamol are okay, just no two NSAIDS if you can because it will will probably make your tummy a very sad place. (Bleeding etc)

But also, don’t listen to a strangers medical advice on a website… but keep telling your brain to STFU.. you got this fellow broken buddy! Hope you have a really fast recovery

[–] fossilesque@mander.xyz 4 points 1 year ago

Haha yeah, they gave me tummy stuff too. :) Much love and thanks.

[–] Melpomene@kbin.social 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Similar... I've been getting some very likely nerve twinges from an injured neck, then injured by back trying to fix the neck, but my brain is enjoying going AAAAAH ITS A MYSTERIOUS NERVE DISEASE U DEAD MELPOMENE!

Health anxiety sucks.

[–] Khazram@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That’s how mine was actually. I just lost the ability to run one day and it progressed from there to my hands going numb. Now I’m terrified when I turn my head to check the blind spot in my rear view. I fortunately had a great neurologist so I’m back to 95ish%

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[–] Khazram@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes! All throughout my hospital stay my brain would go off on a “what if there’s a contradiction?” and I’d have to re-convince it that I’m in a professional hospital and my situation happens all the time.

[–] fossilesque@mander.xyz 3 points 1 year ago

Fucking "if." 🫠

[–] popemichael@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My father went missing, we found him and he's in a coma.

So now I'm preparing my life to take care of him once he's out of the coma.

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[–] SnoopyGirl09@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My boss texted a group thread at 10:30pm and I responded in 3 different clear but relatively lighthearted ways to stop texting because I was in bed. He got annoyed. 20m later my watch gave me an alert that my heart rate was 114bpm for more than 15m and now I can't sleep.

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[–] I_Miss_Daniel@kbin.social 8 points 1 year ago

Gotta clean up house before guests arrive in a few days.

Gotta finish rebuilding the front ramp.

Gotta move some stuff in the container.

Can't figure out why the caravan gas pilot light goes out after 4 seconds. (well it hasn't been used for 25 years...)

Tired. Might nap at 3pm. Or shortly.

Gotta go replace a modem 40 minutes away

Gotta clear the store room some.

Weatherboards need painting soon.

Big pine tree wants to fall on the shed.

Mailbox geocache has stopped working. Need to disable it on the site.

Gotta record a sponsor for the station.

Dog needs a walk.

Need to do some shopping.

Garden is a mess.

The sun is out, yay. Can run appliances for free today.

[–] drdiemz@kbin.social 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm seeing a nice girl for the first time in a long time and I'm afraid she's gonna flip a switch on me like all the others and stop talking to me for reasons I don't understand

[–] aeternum@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Best of luck bro. I hope that doesn't happen. Everyone deserves happiness.

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[–] NosyRock@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Feels insignificant compared to a lot of posts in here who actually have real problems but I was at kids party yesterday and then get the "sorry we found lice" message haha So treating the family for lice today just in case hooray

[–] braxy29@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

comb for adults and as many eggs as you can get. THEN desiccate the shit out of any missed eggs with a hair dryer on low heat (doesn't need to be hot) for like 30 mins plus when hair is dry. repeat a few days.

learning about the hair dryer was such a relief the one time i dealt with this. much easier than torturing my kids endlessly with the comb.

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[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My credit card expired on the first and I have a very expensive dental appointment next week. I'm watching my mailbox like a hawk and praying that the new card will get here in time. It's my fault since I most likely threw the original replacement out thinking it was junk mail.

[–] Rhoeri@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

There’s a good chance you may be able to activate the card through the bank in the event it doesn’t show up in time. Never hurts to call them.

[–] Tiffany@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago

A potential shortage of beans.

[–] bashfluff@lemmynsfw.com 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My remote call-center job. It takes it out of me like no other job has. Every single second is measured and tracked and "optimized". Don't get me wrong, I'm thankful to have the job. It pays better than anything else I'd be qualified for (probably) at 18.50 an hour, and I'm immunocompromised, so I need remote work. More than that, I'm genuinely good at it. But I can't help but feel that it's not for me forever, and I don't know how to transition out of it.

(It's iOS and macOS tech support)

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[–] rodhlann@kbin.social 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This week has been both the week we moved into our new apartment, and also the week our country celebrates by blowing shit up for 6+ nights straight. Our dogs are deathly afraid of fireworks. Last night I had to run my wife to the ER, which is literally 2 minutes away, and in that time our dogs destroyed the front door frame of our new apartment.

Our landlord, who we've only met once, just got back from vacation. Can't wait to tell them how our dogs are destroying their house.

[–] NosyRock@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I thought the fireworks only happened for 1 night!! That's nuts

[–] rodhlann@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

When you live in a place where they are legal (or near a place where they are) they tend to go for a bit. Our nextdoor neighbors were shooting off some big ones.

[–] LostCause@kbin.social 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

The point of my existence, or more specifically, why I keep writing my odd thoughts on here or back then on Reddit, when I‘m already aware of how useless it all is. I‘ve been reading various books on this and the more I read, the less significance I see in it. Yet, here I am, again writing something. I suppose it‘s some sort of distraction or sublimation for me.

[–] InfiniteVariables@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Do you find comfort in the insignificance?

[–] LostCause@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No, I wouldn‘t say I‘m comforted by much these days, though I‘ve read a book called Sunny Nihilist and Camus of course too, to try and approach it from this perspective, but I couldn‘t quite adopt it for myself as an effective coping mechanism.

[–] InfiniteVariables@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Yeah same. I find it helps me with anxiety when some of my life's problems start feeling overwhelming. But if I'm in a depressive state it seems to mostly sap away motivation.

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[–] Bloodwoodsrisen@lemmy.tf 4 points 1 year ago

My mom first signing up to FurAffinity to follow an artist she likes who left Twitter and now having a Threads account despite the permissions it had

[–] Graphine@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I forgot to pay my tolls last month and I have no idea how much they cost. All my money is towards rent and food.

Really don't want to go to jail or get a court order.

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[–] FlyingPiisami@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 year ago

All things considered, I don't know if it counts as overthinking, but this ocean temperature is a bit concerning and I wonder how bad next year will be. https://climatereanalyzer.org/clim/sst_daily/

[–] Rhoeri@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have an appointment with a dentist to have some teeth pulled, and a chronic sinus infection needing surgery simultaneously. The antibiotics I’m on amplify the already massive anxiety I have to the point of paranoia and panic attacks.

[–] The_Mike_Drop@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm just some words a stranger left for you on the internet, but if it counts for anything at least one person from across the globe is thinking about you at this time and that is meant to sound reasurring like "you are not alone" but you mentioned paranoia and I probably just increased that I mean wtf dude a random stranger says "you are not alone" who could be from anywhere on Earth so now you've got this on your mind too great gee-wizz thanks I guess? Right? But then maybe it'll take your mind off the real shit for a feaction of a second and make it worth it? I dunno I'm just an idiot overthinking things but that should be par for the course here. Um... good luck!

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[–] Ignacio@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Honestly, I'm not an overthinker any more, or at least I don't see myself as an overthinker since atomoxetine is doing its magic. But in other circumstances, I would be thinking about this Meta thing, and about what people would think if I wrote this comment, and about why I screwed things up so much in the past...

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[–] reversebananimals@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My college friend's destination wedding in Portugal.

I don't really want to go - never been interested in Portugal, its extremely far away and extremely expensive to get there and stay there. On the other hand if I don't go I know I'll feel guilty about it. I'm currently churning ideas in my head for how to try and spin the trip into something that feels "worth" the money by going somewhere else in Europe afterwards. But the logistics are so complicated, and every day and extra location I add increases the price.

I hate obligations.

[–] charlytune@mander.xyz 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Where in Portugal are you going? I've only been to Porto but I loved it. It helps that I really like Portuguese food though I guess, and hot weather. It depends on what it is about Portugal that doesn't appeal to you? In terms of cost it's probably the cheapest country in Western Europe, you may just be staying somewhere pricey though. Honestly if you want to turn it into a bit of a trip I'd explore a bit of Portugal, or Spain is right next door, it should be easy to get around by train. Have a look on Trainline, they cover most of the train services in Europe. If you can book ahead for the intercity trains it's usually a bit cheaper.

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