Comradeship // Freechat

I think the term "manly" has been so polluted. I don't think there is nothing "unmanly" with:

• Loving nature.
• Loving your neighbor (even Jesus said to).
• Loving culture (and accepting other's culture).
• Showing emotion (except for you narcissists who use this as an excuse for abuse. Fuck you).
• Dancing.
• Going outside just to feel the wind gently blowing your hair and caressing your face.

We are capable of very complex modes of existing. There is no reason to keep being the same hateful person every day. It takes courage to go out of your confort zone. It takes courage to be a "man". Whatever it is that word means. Love you all. <3

Edit: Guys, are comments like this valuable? On Reddit I felt the need to write this way, but everyone seems so chill here...

I don't think anyone should feel the need to quantify their actions into a specific gender.

I love adorable animals, I'll squeal with delight whenever I see a video of one. Alpacas are my favorite.

I probably show a lot more emotion then is stereotypical. I was on swim team in high school. In my heterosexual relationship I was the one that really wanted a child first. If my wife made enough money I would absolutely be a stay at home dad if we needed a stay at home parent (We don't need any parent to stay at home thankfully right now, the way childcare is working out). I go to therapy and actually find it useful. I guess for the typical "male" things I do power lifting (Swoletariat FTW), but I really didn't get into to that until later in life anyway, and I don't follow any of the prototypical lifters.

I like gardening

This is seriously considered unmanly? Smh

Tons of things like others have said. Gardening, dancing, fashion, romance, R&B, Opera, growing my hair out, wine, healthy food. I don't really even consider these unmanly, but I know many do for a cis hetero man. Other than choosing clothes that fit my body type, my gender has no influence on the things I do or choices I make.

So many things really. I’ve never had any issue with identifying as a man and have always considered myself straight or whatever but I have also always enjoyed “feminine” things without any shame.

I love dancing, fashion, home decorating, really any sort of “domestic” stuff I can get into like cooking or gardening or whatever. I’ve always been into feminine sorta music artists like Lana Del Rey and what not. I wear lots of pinks and other colors and have some feminine sorta tattoos like butterflies and such.

I’ve also worn a dress and done up my makeup a couple of times which was a fun experience. You definitely appreciate how long it can take women to get ready to go out once you try it all yourself lol. I’m honestly glad society doesn’t expect that sorta thing of me (hair, makeup, nails ect) cause I could easily see myself getting very into it and that shit costs lotta time and money.

I don’t see why any man can’t just enjoy the shit that they are drawn to or interested in.

I've had a bad case of anhedonia the past few years, so I don't find myself enjoying many things, manly or otherwise. However, I can say some "manly" things I don't like.

I never cared for professional sports. I could maybe get it if the teams actually had ties to the cities they're in, but trading players between teams baffles me. Then you get to fantasy sports, where people basically just track numbers and bet. People tell me sports teams are a great way to find common ground with strangers, but all I can see are brands being used to shove ads in peoples' faces and encourage people to gamble.

I write poetry, garden in the spring and summer, and enjoy the likes of Animal Crossing, Stardew Valley, and Tetris; all of which it puzzles me how those games got classified as 'girly'. Like mf, I'd like to see YOU manage a hundred lines at TGM 20G with steadily-rising garbage lines; see how ya do

I wear and have a lot of pink things. I have a few pairs of flower earrings. I like cute things. If I drink I prefer fruity cocktails.

I'm old so when I was a teenager the Spice Girls were on top of the charts.

I would blast Spice Girls songs on my stereo and sing along. I don't know how it was around the world but here in Brazil it was heavily considered "girl music" in the 90s and if anyone from school saw me doing that they would heavily bully me and call me gay or whatever.

Luckily for me I lived very far away from school, and also discovered myself as bisexual 20 years later soooo... call me gay as much as you like. :)

i never saw gardening as something "unmanly", but that might be because i live in a semi-rural area. everybody and their paw-paw gardens, just about. i always paint my nails, and sometimes i'll wear makeup. i see other people mentioning cooking and sewing, but i think that's very dependant on where you're at. my dad, brothers, uncles, male cousins all cook and sew. i always thought it was weird if men couldn't do that; in context of "traditional" Western masculinity, doesn't that mean youre weak and cant provide if you can't cook for your family to keep them fed, or can't fix their clothes to keep them warm? though embroidery is considered feminine, and i like to practice that. i'm really bad at it, but it counts!

I like doing skincare and facial scrubs and fancy soaps and such (I do wish it wasn't as tarnished by consumerism but I've got no other alternatives)- and apparently I've gotten too good at it because strangers mistake me for a girl sometimes.

soaps/shampoos/conditioners marketed at women are always somehow better than the "Badass" manly ones by Adidas or whatever.

Looking at this thread and how all kinds of farming and landscaping in my experience are overwhelmingly male dominated profession it's probably not that extraordinary of an answer - but yeah, plants and gardening are awesome. I'm a big sucker for well built parks and botanical gardens too, not just forrests, meadows and fields.

Idk why but since this spring I really grew to love flowers as well. Still not big on cut, indoor flowers, but flowering bushes, trees and all kinds of plants this time of the year just brighten up your day heaps. They add so much colour, life and smell to even the most boring parts of cities.

I love knitting and sewing. It’s very relaxing and I love seeing what I make! Even better if I do a good enough job to wear it!

I sleep basically every night with a stuffed animal that I received from a very close and important friend. (He’s also pink so it’s even more “unmanly”)

Gardening is so fun! My cucumbers and tomatoes are coming along so well! (My watermelons not so much, only 1 of 4 have survived due to deer)

Cleaning is very fun to me. Seeing things become clean is very rewarding, especially if I’m doing it for someone else close to me.

Cooking is a very high interest of mine! Particularly baking!

Painting my nails is also very fun and I can’t wait to do that more, as that’s sadly a dangerous thing to do where I live.

Kissing other guys. This is either extreme manly in the eyes of the Greeks and Spartans, or extremely unmanly in the current western purview.

I do funny little dances when I hear songs I like playing in the store.

Domestic tasks like cooking, washing dishes, folding laundry. It's something real I can do to make me and my partner's lives keep going smooth, plus they're great opportunities for either podcasts or mindfulness.

Well I painted my sister's nails, but not mine and I watched some animes that can be considered 'just for girls'.

And I dance a lot but I had no idea it's considered ''unmanly''.

Gardening and generally caring for plants is so rewarding. Also something I enjoy

I also like charm bracelets and non precious jewely.

And dressing in flowy flowery clothing

Idk what constitutes many and non manly anymore. I guess growing plants and gardening type stuff is not "manly"? I have a lot of amaryllis flowers that bloom every year. I have 4 that I raised from seeds from my very first one. They bloomed a year ago. It takes 3 years of growth minimum before the bloom. They have some huge flowers. I have like 12 different ones now. 4 varieties. The first one is a pure red and I saved it. My mom got it as a gift for Xmas and after it bloomed she just threw the bulb out. I found it and repotted it. It bloomed on valentine's day. I call it my plant GF.

We also have moonflowers that grow all around our house. The local bees love them and I like going out in the evenings mid to late summer when they are all open cause they smell amazing.

I also like fermenting foods. Idk if that's considered not manly or anything but I like it and it's fun to me.

I just dyed my hair purple today, so there's that. I also like painting my nails.

Considering Thermodynamics, Quantum Mechanics, Statistics, Symmetry Groups, Differential Geometry, and General Relativity, I have spent at least 6 semesters obsessing over things that are warm, small, fuzzy, round, smooth, and bouncy, respectively

+1 to painting nails

Taking care of the kids and spending time with them a lot is something I love. Not a lot of men do that in my area.

I'm so bad at gardening but it's fun and I'm trying.

Cooking is kinda a hobby as well that I enjoy a lot