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[–] tko@tkohhh.social 32 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Clarification question: Why would you expect somebody to DM you?

[–] CeruleanRuin@lemmings.world 8 points 11 months ago

Yeah hell, I don't even read my inbox.

[–] lyth@sh.itjust.works 19 points 11 months ago (1 children)

you don't have one of those DM_ME_(thing) usernames

[–] caseyweederman@lemmy.ca 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] idiomaddict@feddit.de 2 points 10 months ago

That would be interesting here, but it would make a sociology dissertation (in a bad way) on Reddit.

I think I behaved basically the same there and here, but the DMs I get here are all: the post we were discussing got removed, here’s the last thing I wanted to say. On Reddit, I got those, plus occasional death and doxxing threats, sometimes from a person who was pretending to have a civil conversation with me in a comments section at the same time they’re messaging me threats.

[–] maniel@beehaw.org 16 points 11 months ago (1 children)

To be frank I never felt the need to DM anyone here or on Reddit, I could live without this feature altogether

[–] stealth_cookies@lemmy.ca 3 points 11 months ago

I've found it useful in the rare case that I've posted some project and someone wants to use it and has a question or something after the main thread is locked. I've had a few people reach out just to thank me for solving their problem which is always nice.

[–] RickyRigatoni@lemmy.ml 9 points 11 months ago

you make me sleepy

[–] Lucien@hexbear.net 6 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

You awaken from your slumber, refreshed and ready to face the day. You had stayed the night at your childhood home, visiting family, and the artifacts from that era that had the night before cast a ghostly presence were now starting to feel much more familiar. Your phone, on the table beside your bed, starts to ring.

[–] HipsterTenZero@dormi.zone 1 points 11 months ago

throw phone out window

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 11 months ago

Gimme a reason to do it?
This aint OnlyFans.

[–] sim_@beehaw.org 5 points 11 months ago

How many people have you DMed?

[–] Commiejones@hexbear.net 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

we just aren't that into you.

[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 11 months ago

Hmm, can't be that

[–] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

prolly your breath. or maybe youre clicking too hard... that mouse button doesnt require force.

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

A mouse is like a clitoris. Gentler is more-er

[–] Ziggurat@sh.itjust.works 3 points 11 months ago

Because you need to ask,

Take an username like PM_Me_your_shit and you'd get some surprises :)

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Shameless ;)