Fuck no. I prefer my privacy and I also don't want people getting offended if I read something but don't feel like responding to it immediately. I would also turn off the three little dots that say I'm typing if I could.
this post was submitted on 11 Aug 2023
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I legit hate the typing dots, especially since uasualy if i dont respond im busy or thinking of a reply... and the three dots makes it feel like theres an expectation to reply right then. Also i have a friend that gets offended/internalizes it (yes they have some issues ha) which makes me just not open them till very late in the day
Yes I do, I don't mind that people see that I read their message and I like to see when others read mine. But if someone ever tells me I should have reacted because I've read it, it's their fault.
educate people!
Claiming to have missed a message is ~1/4 of all the messages I send. I'm not about to provide proof that I'm lying.
We do know anyways that you're lying because the phone is always in your pocket. The lying makes you just look bad. But that's on you.
I have them on, I think it’s quite annoying if there’s something urgent and you can’t tell if the text got read or not.
No. You send me a message, your businesses is done, whether I read it or not is my business. Especially on WhatsApp where there are spammers and debt collectors.
I don't mind keeping it on on private messengers with no connection to my identity, like Session or Matrix. But if you can find me via my phone number, nope.
It's bizarre how features like these are enabled by default. Same shit with embedding GPS in photos... On by default. Shows what kind of people design these things.
Always on, why would I hide if I read the message? I also reply back, which is an uncommon skill it seams.
I don't like read receipts, but I do like delivery notifications.
Some people have really unrealistic expectations about how fast others should respond to a message.
I leave it on and really like having it on. It’s nice to share with someone that I’ve read their message, and it also does not warrant a need to reply to anything.
It also eliminates the, “oh no just saw this” bs that I’ve noticed at times. If I see a message is read that was maybe time sensitive and do not get a reply, it’s fine and I can plan around that person.
I use them.
Text communication is so hard in the first place. I’ll take any tool I can get to make it smoother.
My model for privacy is: I want to keep corpos out of my business, so that I can feel comfy sharing more with the people I care about.
If I’m treating my friends like a threat, what’s the point? Might as well not be the real me anywhere, anytime then. At which point, who cares about privacy when it’s not even “you” that you’re keeping private?
Yes, I do.
I love it, it tells me either they haven't viewed it, so no need to remind them or need to call them if it's a bit more urgent. If they saw it and didn't reply, depending on timing and situation, I assume/know that either they're too busy right now, working on something before replying or forgot and need a reminder.
Super useful!
I don’t care enough to turn it off if it’s on by default but I’m also not going out of my way to turn it on either. If somebody has a problem with me leaving their message on read instead of being understanding that people get busy then it’s probably better for me to know that person has some red flags.
I have them off, but if something comes in that I should respond to I do send some sort of response back (errands, plans, etc.) I just don't like feeling I get that I should respond now to something just because I saw it and now the person on the other end knows that I saw it, and are now wondering why I haven't sent something back yet.
I just leave it on because I have no issues with it, if I am ghosting someone I just don't open that chat. The online stuff however I do turn off.
As long as the app allows me to preview the message without opening it, I'm fine with turning on read receipts.
No. You are not entitled to an instant response.
I have them off by default, but telegram allows exceptions so I use that for people close to me.
No, I consider read receipts and typing indicators privacy violations. If I could specifically turn it on for my family and very close friends maybe, but it's no one else's business.
I have read receipts on with my wife, but no one else. Too much pressure, especially for someone like me who habitually clears notifications even if I haven’t addressed anything
Depends on the audience, close friends on.
Work / social stalkers - off
I would like to see a feature that allows me to enable it for specific contacts/conversations and disable for the rest. It's useful if there is something that I need to tell someone that's time sensitive but not urgent enough for me to call them, but I don't want everyone to be able to know if I have read a message or not.
So for family and close friends I would like to enable that feature, but for anyone else I would like it to be disabled.
Since this is all or nothing right now, I keep it disabled for everyone.
Wait, I always thought turning them on turns them on for you and the other person still has to turn it on for themselves to see it. Like even if you leave it off, they can still see if you've read theirs if they have it on. Am I misunderstanding this setting?
I don't need to know if message was read so i disable it for my own privacy.
Besides, I think they're pointless in my case. I usually read the message in the notification and reply or dismiss it without opening the app, and the apps usually don't record these interactions as "read".
I have everything off except read receipts. I want to know if someone got my message or if they just received it
Yes they're on. They tend to be default on.
Getting offended is a you-problem that didn't afflict anyone born last century.
No
I do. If I can’t get back to you right away I’ll message and say so