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What is the most unhelpful advice you have received? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by axolittl@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"

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[–] fratermus@lemmy.sdf.org 41 points 1 year ago (2 children)

What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?

"They're your family so you have to maintain a relationship with them'
"man up"
attend church

[–] NikkiNikkiNikki@kbin.social 13 points 1 year ago

That family crap is awful, I would be blessed to never speak a word to my relatives ever again. Luckily though, I'm on a 2 year streak

[–] MrMcMisterson@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 year ago

The first one is the worst. My dad says this to me all the time, well, why is it that I have to do all the work, they never try to maintain a relationship with me. Also, fuck them, they are terrible people, maybe I don't want to maintain a relationship with toxic shitty people even if they are family.