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[–] Historical_General@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Persuasion works best when you work off commonalities rather than differences. Though I understand you're trying to go for combative argumentation.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I know that. I’m a salesman. I don’t talk to my customers like I talk to people here, because when I’m talking to a customer my goal is persuasion.

I am very suspect of persuasion as a motivation for conversing socially. I can do it to make money, but who am I to think that others accepting my ideas is more important than honesty? I might be wrong! If I follow the safe path that makes everybody like me, when will I ever know that I’m wrong?

I’ve always been an outsider. Maybe I always will be, because this always nice stuff just seems slimy to me. It’s exactly how the villains in the cartoons I watched growing up behaved: everybody’s friend, always pleasant, saying the most popular thing.

[–] Num10ck@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

maybe read up on softening statements

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

Thank you, by the way

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

I’ll check it out, thanks