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[–] JoeClu@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You know I understand you. That was the way with me too. It took me a long time into adulthood to tone that down as I wasn't making friends and people seemed to think I was an asshole. It really sucked cause I seriously didn't mean any harm or disrespect, but most took it that way for some reason.

Now, after endless questioning of myself, I've learned to adapt to my audience.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have a really hard time with it because it seems so non-spontaneous. What even is the point of discussing things without disagreement?

I see these conversations that are just people agreeing with each other and I just don’t get it. I don’t want to be a part of it.

But I don’t want to be alone.

[–] Historical_General@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Err, I don't see a point in disagreeing for the sake of it - I have a similar problem to you though. I get awkward or silent when I don't have anything original, new or even interesting to say, like you are uncomfortable with 'agreement'.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

No I don’t disagree for the sake of it. Most conversations I agree with … but I don’t say it. It’s when I disagree genuinely, that I speak up.