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The moment I knew that I had to break it off with my ex was when a comment about tea-cup saucers turned into an accusation that I "always had to be right".
We were having cake for dessert:
Her: "Can you grab plates?"
Me: Grabs a couple of small plates.
Her: "No, those aren't for cake. It's the really small ones."
Me: "Okay, but FYI the small ones are actually teacup saucers. You can tell the difference because they have the indent in the middle so the teacup doesn't slip around."
Her: "You just always have to be right, don't you?"
What followed was a truly bonkers argument where I found myself accused of "lording my intelligence" and told that I had to be right in everything.
For the record, I told her I literally didn't give a shit what she wants to eat cake off of. I'm the guy that would happily use a Tupperware lid as a plate if it was the closest thing to hand. I was just pointing out an "interesting fact" (in my mind at least).
How dare you point out something. Stop hurting her feelings by pointing out anything she doesn't know. "I would've pointed out you were about to drink soap but then I'd 'Always need to be right'."
That is essentially the vibe I got from that argument. We didn't last much longer after that.
Understanding each others’ definitions is key to communication, so I’m with you on this one. I’ll often get accused of “you know what I meant!”, when I really didn’t and was honestly asking for clarification.
Kids, don’t take ontology classes even if your friends say it’s cool.
This is why I've learned to repeat what I thought someone said back to them so they can confirm if they communicated it clearly or not.
"Bring it to me."
"Which one? I see 5 of them here.
"Oh, I meant the blue one."
you're right. Saucers (despite the English name) are meant to drink beverages, therefore they are small glasses, not small plates