Compliments are hard to take for some, and it sounds like you find it patronizing and creepy. This is for this very reason that I was really hesitant as a woman to compliment men, I'm more or less the same generation.

One time late at night, I had no makeup on and was very frumpy, going to buy a six pack at 7eleven. There, a gorgeous gigantic drag queen told me "Giiiiiiirl, look at your faaaace, you're so gorgeous". It was so so so cool and made me feel like a queen. So from then on I thought fuck it, I don't get compliments often and when I do, it makes my day. So now I do whenever I am sincerely impressed or enjoy something.

[–] Tyfud@lemmy.world 27 points 4 days ago (1 children)

As a guy, I appreciate compliments.

There's a lot of us who do, so please don't stop. We receive them so infrequently that it's reassuring and nice to hear if we're doing something well or not from someone else.

No man is an island, and those that want to be tend to be assholes.

[–] exasperation@lemm.ee 6 points 4 days ago

I appreciate compliments. I have a hard time accepting overly specific compliments.

The original note that started this thread was on the overly specific side.

[–] mortemtyrannis@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 days ago

To be very fair there’s a difference between giving a compliment to your face directly and writing a letter with specific details that could come off a bit creepy.

“Hey nice hair! You’re rocking it!” - said to your face as someone walks past.

Is different to what’s in OP.

[–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 1 points 4 days ago

Drastically different than observing you and your family over the course of multiple hours. The example you gave is valid and I love shit like that.